(Closed) Just asked to be MOH four weeks before my wedding. Crazy?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

So sorry this has come up now. I can’t imagine. Yes, I think it’s too much. Was she planning her wedding before you started? Why did she choose that date- a month before yours? Do you have a lot of mutual friends?

Of course, she is your closest friend and you want to do it, but it seems like you are already dealing with your own wedding and graduation and honeymoon and aren’t you moving, too?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would have been able to do it four weeks out from my wedding.  Things were busy for sure at that point in time, but they weren’t that crazy.  I say go for it.  That’s so fun you guys are getting married so close together!  You are going to have so much fun!  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ahhh.. I remeber your other post now. You got an answer but maybe you weren’t expecting it, right? Well I’m gl;ad you won’t feel left out of the loop anymore:-) You will now BE the loop if you decide to say yes! Sounds like you really want to do it, so go with your heart and you’ll work it out.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

oooh tough call…My suggestion is to talk to her about it, tell her how much is going to be going on with you then and tell her you feel you won’t really be that good of a Maid/Matron of Honor at that time.

She may very well be one of those brides who doesn’t need an Maid/Matron of Honor to do all that work. Like me, I’m too OCD to just let my two girls plan things lol I’d rather just do everything myself. So she may just want you as a Maid/Matron of Honor just for the namesake and meaning.

You never know until you ask πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you finish school in may, the Bridesmaid or Best Man gig is in May and your wedding is in June…. im worried you might be spreading yourself too thin with all the little things that need to be taken care off for all 3 of these events

i would say no, its nice to be asked but im worried about the extra stress you will be having to deal with

remember, no one wants a crazy bride or Bridesmaid or Best Man πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think you should sit down with her and have an honest, open conversation about the situation.  One of my bm was 8 months pregnant at my wedding, and she wasn’t sure if she should continue or drop out of the bridal party.  I figured that it didn’t matter if a pregnant bm didn’t have her hair or makeup done, and I understood if she wouldn’t be able to be in the pictures.  I told her to just do whatever she could, and didn’t have any concerns about what she would be missing.  Although she couldn’t do the pictures, hair or makeup, she was able to walk down the aisle with her husband (one of the gm) so everything worked out perfectly and we got a lot of nice pictures of them together.

You should tell your bm that you completely understand why she chose her wedding date, but that you are not certain that you will be able to complete all of the traditional roles of a bm since you already have so much on your plate.  Leave it up to her to decide if she would prefer for you to be a bm who will perform limited duties, or drop out.  But please give her as much notice as possible that you may not be able to help her with her planning so that she can rely upon her other bridesmaids.

It is also quite possible that she has thought about all of this, and realizes how hard the timing is for you.  She may have asked you since she is a bridesmaid in your wedding, and she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by not asking you to be a bridesmaid in her wedding, especially when it is so close to hers.  

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Especially when you’re that tall…. πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ Then it’s scary to the little people. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Oh boy.. I would do it, but I’m crazy like that. But I would ask her either to come up with a co-MOH, or find the most helpful of all the bridesmaids you can to share the burden with ;).

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would keep with your regular Bridesmaid or Best Man duties, but you’ll still be able to help her out with planning and such seeing as how your a bee and all:-) You want to go on a honeymoon, not to the asylum!Laughing

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re not horses fiftyfoot…we’re giraffes. πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

I’d tell her you’ll be like her 2.0 version Bridesmaid. Not quite a Maid/Matron of Honor but you’ll help in any way you can since you’ll be an expert in wedding planning. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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