Post # 1
My best friend just asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor for her January 2014 wedding! She’s also my Maid/Matron of Honor for my May 2013 wedding. I am SO EXCITED for both of our weddings!
She’s been a great Maid/Matron of Honor so far and always asks about planning and if I need any help with anything. Went dress shopping with me and her and my mom are planning the shower/bachelorette party together. But, I honestly haven’t had her DO much of anything. Occassionally I’ll send her a pic of something and ask what she thinks.. like Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, centerpieces.. etc, but I really can’t think of anything I need her to help with. Most of it is easier to just do on my own. Is it normal to not have your Maid/Matron of Honor help out a lot? My Maid/Matron of Honor just made a comment that when she was the Maid/Matron of Honor for another friend, she was constantly having to do things for her and that it’s totally different being my Maid/Matron of Honor because she hasn’t been asked to do anything. She seemed like that was a GOOD thing, but I’m not sure. Should I be asking her to do more? I can’t really think of anything…!
Now that I’m her Maid/Matron of Honor, I’m wondering if I’m not clear on what the Maid/Matron of Honor should be doing. I want to make sure I’m doing everything right!
LONG STORY SHORT: What did your Maid/Matron of Honor help out with? What do you wish she would’ve been more or less involved in? Any tips on being an awesome MOH?!
Post # 3
@AlliMayWedding: Congratulations on being asked to be her MOH! That’s so exciting!! If you are comfortable with the amount of help she has been providing you it’s silly to ask her to do more just because you feel like you should.
My Maid/Matron of Honor was awesome. I was pretty clueless about anything wedding related, and she had gotten married almost two years before me so she was super helpful. She went dress shopping with me, she planned my bridal shower, she put together my bachelorette party, she was involved in any craft-related thing that I did (she volunteered for all of it). She was just awesome! Not to mention when it came to wrangling my other BMs together she had NO problem doing it!
Post # 4
meh I think it’s a non issue. What you are doing sounds normal. My moh has a kids and enough to do I talk wedding with her a little and she been dressing shopping with me that is all. I wouldn’t go looking for things to give moh to do just for the sake of it. It also sounds like your friend is relived so I don’t know why you think that a bad thing.
I been in a lot of weddings and offered different types of help. As long as the bride keeps it in perspective and realize that I am not responsible for planning her wedding and that I sometimes have to say no then I don’t mind helping out here and there and doing some wedding stuff.
Post # 5
My Maid/Matron of Honor didnt do anythign except plan the Bach party and bridal shower. She is my sister as well and other than sending a few ideas to her to bounce them off her she didnt do anything either.
Post # 6
My Maid/Matron of Honor planned my bridal shower and a small bachlorette party. I am now goingto be her Maid/Matron of Honor in JUly 2013, so I, too, am excited to be a part of my Maid/Matron of Honor wedding! It is stressful though because both have very different tastes.
I am going to plan her parties, like she did mine, and I offer to help with whatever she needs, like she did for me. There really isn’t anything more you can do. Just be there if she needs you 🙂