(Closed) Just because someone disagrees with you…

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 33
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s important to realize that frequently, offense is taken even though offense wasn’t meant. Everyone sometimes gets offended at posts that aren’t intended to offend. Remember that the only person who can correctly interpret a post is the POSTER. If you misinterpret their post and get angry, and the poster defends themselves? You have to accept the defense, and that you chose to be offended! You could have looked at it a different way–their way–and seen that you don’t have to be offended. But because you decided what someone else meant, you have the right to be offended. That’s on you!  Just because it offended you doesn’t mean it’s offensive, and we can all remember that a little better.

Post # 34
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1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@MrsElopement:  Exactly! And if you are getting pouty cause people aren’t responding in the way you want and then send them nasty PMs about it, then maybe ya need to not post on the internet…ever.

 

 

 

Post # 36
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4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

First of all, I love serious business cat. Love. And second I agree that we could all do well to remember this.

Post # 37
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2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Thank god for this thread bump. It doesn’t matter how you mean something, saying something offensive is offensive no matter how you dress it up. People have a lot more respect for people who own their words than try to paint people’s upset as misunderstanding.

Post # 39
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@mixtapehearts:  So true–“when I said that all people who don’t live like I do were sinful I was merely stating  my OPINION!”

Post # 41
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2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Saying it is a misunderstanding, not how you meant it blah blah is worse. Not only have you then offended the person you have then presumed to tell them they can’t comprehend the writen word and must be told how to read, digest and feel. That is more bothersome to me than the orginal offense most of the time.

Post # 42
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Can I say something without being attacked? (LOL)

No, seriously. PP’s above said that they were bummed because someone didn’t take the advice they were given. Keep in mind that sometimes its just not the right time to make a decision, sometimes they just want a sounding board, and sometimes they just want validation that their instincts are right. It does not mean that you have wasted your time, not in the least. There are also MANY bees who read and don’t post who are also reading your advice and it’s still just as important to them. So keep advising…just make sure you’re doing it for them (and others), not because you want to be right. Errr…or whatever.

Okay, carry on… xoxo

Post # 43
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1456 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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@mixtapehearts:  Agreed. It is condescending and unnecessary.

Post # 45
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9479 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just saw this today and I couldn’t agree more.

Post # 46
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679 posts
Busy bee

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@mirabell35:  There are things that can be offensive even if the OP didn’t mean to offend. Just because an OP didn’t “mean” something to be offensive doesn’t mean it wasn’t. 

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