Just being nosy … wedding budgets/cultural differences!

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We’re in Ontario, Canada and our wedding was $160K.

The breakdown is as follows:

Venue/food/drink (open bar, 300 guests): $60,000

Cake: $1,100

Floral/decor: $25,500

Wedding planner: $7,345

Photography/cinematography: $10,237

Band with DJ: $9,600

Hair and makeup: $3,400

Groom/groomsmen attire: $8,500

Groom’s shoes (2 pairs): $4,000

My shoes (2 pairs): $3,100

Wedding bands: $4,000

Flatware/glassware rental: $5,000

Transportation: $1,600

Hotel suites: $1,000

Stationery: $1,100

Chiavari chair/charger rental: $2,635

Entertainment (martial arts performers) $1,700

Entertainment (ballet performers) $1,700

Entertainment (statue artists) $1,750

Bridal party gifts: $5,500

AV/lighting: $2,100

My dress wasn’t included since my mom wanted to buy it for me.  Honeymoon also not included as well as anything under $1K.

Post # 8
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

Souzie :  OMG. This is just beautiful.

Post # 9
4094 posts
Honey bee

avalily :  I haven’t had my wedding yet but I have helped several friends plan theirs. I can’t tell you their exact breakdown but almost all of them end up spending right around $30K EXCLUDING rings and honeymoon. Most people I know do not include these on their budget too and I don’t know why.

All my friends’ weddings are very similar. Catholic Church wedding in the afternoon then a dinner & dancing reception in a generic hotel ballroom. It’s usually either Marriott, Sheraton or Hilton. About 125-140 guests in total. About 2/3 of costs go to the venue’s food & drinks which is all inclusive. The remaining budget are split in between the church donation (basically church rental because the “donation” price is fixed), DJ, florist, photographer & videographer, transportation, stationaries, favors & cake. Almost none hired a coordinator/wedding planner either. 

Post # 10
211 posts
Helper bee

I’m Irish too! I won’t go into the breakdown of our budget, but I totally agree with you on all the traditions! These boards seem to be full of US-based brides, so it’s nice to see another person with the same traditions!

Post # 11
4094 posts
Honey bee

beverly579 :   summerrain123 :  Don’t mean to be nosy and intrusive but I remember Souzie posted a highlight video of her wedding. It’s so pretty and was probably one of the most luxurious weddings I’ve seen. You should check out her older posts if it’s still there so you guys can see it. 

Post # 12
5916 posts
Bee Keeper

avalily :  I’m also in Ontario, Canada.

My own wedding was far more casual (about $10,000). We’re both divorced and older, so we had more of a party than a formal reception. Venue was free (know the owners), open bar, buffet dinner. No DOC or DJ, amazing officiant ($350), lots of DIY decor etc, flowers were super cheap (sunflowers from grocery chain florist), ditto cake ($70), family members provided photography and dessert buffet.

We chose not to have any pre-wedding events like showers, rehearsal dinners etc.

We included children at our wedding because there were little close family relatives we really wanted there and we included friends’ children as well. Casual beach themed wedding, we even had a sand box and toys for the kids. Local area weddings are split on this- some include kids, some are adult only.

One thing common in our area (generally for first time brides and grooms, I haven’t seen anyone do this for a second wedding) is a Stag and Doe fundraiser. This tends to be organized by a varying combination of bride & groom, family & wedding party members & tends to be a handful of months before the wedding. A hall is rented out, cash bar, buffet meal, raffle prizes and lots of games etc. Tickets are sold (generally $5/ person) and not limited to those invited to the wedding. Family, friends, local businesses etc will donate prizes, put together gift baskets for the raffle prizes. I think they’re fun and have gone to several, I was surprised to hear on weddingbee that this is not only unheard of in other areas but considered tacky 🙁

Something considered bad etiquette here that is acceptable in other areas is inviting people to part of the wedding (reception or after dinner party) but not the ceremony itself and in some cases not the dinner.

I’ve been to both open bars and cash bars. Cash bars aren’t the norm in my husband’s family (he’s Italian and open bar is expected) but my background is Irish/ Scottish/ Brittish and cash bars are more common. Also common among younger college aged students just starting out but paying for their own wedding.

We did bombonieres- party favours- which are also a tradition of my husband’s. We gave bottles of my husband’s homemade wine with customized wedding labels to the adults and party bags of sand and beach toys to children.

My husband is Catholic and I’m an atheist but getting married in the Catholic church wasn’t an option anyway since we’re both divorced. We had the ceremony on site- a Celtic handfasting ceremony performed by a lovely officiant.

Dinners in our area tend to be divided between buffet and plated, with more formal venues tending toward plated. We had tons of options for our buffet though (we spent more on food and drinks than anything) including lots of vegetarian options as we have veggie family members and friends. We received lots of compliements on the food and the caterers were excellent.

We delayed our honeymoon (not included in prices mentioned here) because we had long distance family coming for our wedding and we wanted to spend as much time with them as possible.

Post # 14
140 posts
Blushing bee

With me working so hard to pay off $25k for my college and two degrees, I just cannot fathom having a budget around even THAT amount. If it took 6 years to gain that amount of debt, and that long to pay it off, I would factor that into my thoughts on a budget.

MAYBE I would say a budget of $5k or less. And honestly, I would rather that be mostly the honeymoon. To each his own though! I told my family I have no desire to rack up that much debt again and ok going to the court house. They were obviously opposed to that and offered to help. I am not sure what I will decide on at this point. 

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