Just being nosy … wedding budgets/cultural differences!

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 16
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors

Our wedding came in around 108k.

Engagement ring $10,000

Wedding bands $4,000

Dress, accessories plus alterations $6,000

Passed hors d’oeuvres, plated meal, open bar and min. for reception space $31,069

Wedding cake $943

Flowers, linens, chair rental and lighting $22,930

Wedding planner $4,500

Church $1,200

Band for reception $4,200

Photographer $2,400

Transportation $2,800

Bridesmaid dresses $800

Hair and make up $1,400

Flowergirl dresses $100

Chocolates for favors $150

Boychoir for ceremony $2,200

Cantor for wedding mass $200

Rehearsal dinner $4,000

Honeymoon $6,500

STD’s, invitations, escort cards, etc. $3,000

This doesn’t include any gifts, thank you cards and some other smaller things purchased.

Post # 17
4083 posts
Honey bee

lateralus17 :  You sound like my best friend. She already told me that if she had a budget of $20K for example, she would just spend half of that maximum for a courthouse then casual restaurant reception then use the rest for an extensive honeymoon. 

Post # 20
787 posts
Busy bee

So…. I only spent $7000 total (nit including rings & honeymoon). These are just estimates  my wedding was 9 months ago & I don’t remember all details  It was definitely low budget but it was still classy & didn’t look like a $7000 wedding 

Venue $600

food & alcohol:1500

rentals 400

officiant: 400

flowers: 800

doc: 400

dress: 700

videograpger 800

photographer 400 (just cost of film)

dj: 400


stationary 150

hair & make up 250 (including extensions I bought) 

mens clothes 200


Post # 21
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors

avalily :  We will be heading to Barbados! We postponed the honeymoon since I am a teacher and we got married so close to the end of the school year. 

Post # 22
211 posts
Helper bee

Haigh! I’ll have to break out the old cúpla focal. Look at you getting the old ide beal above. Greannmhar. Tóg go bog é like. Rinne mé mo bhainis as lintilí. Lintilí agus brón.

Post # 23
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

avalily : 

My total wedding cost about 28,000

the Justice of peace cost about 350

dress 2000

cake 900

flowers 1200

limo 900 – I got an extra large one

food was the highest cost ( I dont have the exact breakdown on this ) around 18,000

both wedding rings – 2000

honeymoon- 2000

DJ -600

wedding gifts $40 a person ( i have 11 bridesmaids so I couldnt spend too much)


Post # 24
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Texas bride here – we are having a small-ish (around 75 guests), casual, laid-back wedding and reception. Around here it is fairly common to do the big production, and I would have happily gone to the courthouse, but my Fiance wants a wedding so we compromised.

A lot of brides/married women I know around my age (late 20s) spent between $20-$25,000 on their weddings. At the end of the day, my wedding is going to come in somewhere between $11-$13,000.


Our winery venue includes all of the food, the cake, ceremony & reception space including all tables, chairs & linens, dishes, flatware, glassware, food and beverage servers, some decor, set up/tear down, and security – around $7,500

We will not be having an open bar, but are serving a wide selection of different wines from the venue and beer out of kegs – around $500

No DJ, our wedding coordinator will be making all of the announcements for us and we will be playing a Spotify playlist through the venue’s sound system – $0

Flowers are minimal and are coming from a local grocery store – around $300

Officiant is a close friend, he is only asking for a nice bottle of whiskey as payment – $75


There will be other odds and ends of course, still need to buy my dress, etc.

Post # 26
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

mandakay0021 :  I love your wedding and would have never guessed that it was “low budget”. Where state or country are you from ? 

Also I LOVE your dress. It’s so romantic. 

Post # 27
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

Wedding: A little less than $14,000 

Guest Count: 80

Time: 4:30 – 8:45 PM (we sped up our timeline based on watching the mood of the crowd)

Venue: $10,000

Bridal Attire (2 dresses): $450

Cake: $133

Officiant: $160

Hair and Makeup for 5 girls: $450

Flowers: $700 (MIL paid for)

Decor: $300

Wedding rings: $300

Groom’s suit: $400

 DJ: $900

Photographer: $900

Post # 29
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

lateralus17 :  To each his own though! I told my family I have no desire to rack up that much debt again and ok going to the court house.

I don’t know why you’re assuming that couples who don’t have a courthouse wedding are racking up debt.

Post # 30
2755 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

RobbieAndJuliahaha :  I’m an Ontario bride too! I just wanted to mention about Stag and Does, apparently they are only really a thing in Ontario and Manitoba (says Wikipedia). I could never imagine having one myself but I have definitely heard of people outside my social circle having them. I’ve never brought them up on the bee because I can’t even imagine how outraged the responses would be haha.

OP, my wedding cost about 22,000 CAN  for 65 guests including rings (but not honeymoon). Our officiant/ceremony is humanist too! In terms of traditions, we had a couple’s shower, no traditional bachelorette or bachelors parties, the bridesmaids/groomsmen paid for their own outfits, and we are having an open bar for the rehearsal dinner and wedding. Here is my venue 🙂

Cobble Beach 5

Cobble Beach 9

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