Just being nosy … wedding budgets/cultural differences!

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 32
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Tizer Gardens/Carroll College

OK, I’m admittedly cheap, and I’m trying to do the whole shebang for under $10k (yay for living in Montana!). I am not including my ring, or his or our honeymoon.

Guest count: 125 at most?

Ceremony Space: $750

Reception Space $600 (all-inclusive space – no rentals or cleanup required)

Dress+alterations $1,000

Cake $350

Food and drinks: $3,500

Photographer: $2,125

DJ: $500 (guesstimating)

According to my spreadsheet, I have about $1,000 left to budget RE insurance, decorations, flowers, invites, his suit, and save the dates. I’m starting to feel like $10k is going to be tight.

Post # 33
140 posts
Blushing bee

abouttodoit17 :  Not assuming anything about other couples. I am saying for ME it would be racking up debt so I have to factor that into MY budget which the OP asked. It is money I do not have right now and therefore I would have to really budget…

Post # 34
140 posts
Blushing bee

avalily :  Cost of living is awful in some areas! haha. I hear you. I feel like wedding have become WAY to expensive here. Not necessarily because of those having the weddings and their budgets, but because its an industry here and people charge insane amounts for not so extravagant things. It is also very competitive and there are couples here trying to shop around and catching hell from photographers to other vendors. Just a mess.  

Post # 35
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m from Canada, British Columbia. I’m spending about $35,000 CAD for 75 people. I Think there may be some traditions that we do here that might be different from other cultures. We aren’t doing a big getaway trip for hens/lads(would obviously like to) but instead having a “Jack and Jill” stag that will combine both my Fiance and I friends. This isn’t as typical here around my circle of friends but it’s not unheard of or strange. For the Wedding we are are going to have a cocktail party after the ceremony along with an open bar. Open bars aren’t expected at all the weddings here, tickets are very popular. It’s 50/50 when it comes to buffet and served food, we choose buffet. The wedding is “over” around 12am but if everyone’s have a great time we hope to go even later. Gifts registries are pretty popular here, but among my circle of friends it’s a cash as a gift. People are kind of expected to give a gift, even if it’s a  “cheap” one.

Breakdown of my wedding:

Venue: $6,000

Wedding Planner: $1,900

Photography/Videography: $9,000

DJ: $700

Flowers: $500

Food: $6,000

Decor: $700

Tent, Chairs, Tables: $6,000 (our venue is completely outdoors)

Rings: $1,200

Officiant: $1,000

Grooms Attire: $250

Makeup/Hair: $400

There is also random expensives like my dress that my dad is paying for and other things. 

Post # 37
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

My first wedding was about $10k here on Maui where we both live not including out honeymoon we did much later…

Guest count: 110

Ceremony Space: $900 church

Reception Space: Free, just decorated and rented everything for about $2k

Dress+alterations $500

Cake $400

Invites: $350 (he demanded custom ones I hated)

Flowers: $600 from costco that a friend florist giftes us for arrangements 

Food and drinks: $600 costco-stocked open bar and $1200 buffet

Photographer/Video: we barter-traded these services cuz we worked in the industry

Gifts: $500 the girls got kate spade make up bags and I got him a designer leather wallet


We were pretty standard- bridal shower 2 months before, bachelorette party the night before (guests flew in), rehearsal dinner was at my parentsʻ where they made a taco bar for everyone (super fun!). We basically made our money back in gifts so we about broke even when all was said and done. 




Post # 38
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I believe we will end around 30-35K including honeymoon. 

Here’s our approx breakdown…some of it was packages so I couldn’t break down exact:

Rehearsal Dinner – $400.00

Venue –  $4,400.00

Catering –  $4,000.00

Alcohol – $1,200.00

Bartending- $750.00

Dessert – $550.00

Wedding Dress, Shoes, Alterations- $1,000.00

Manicure & Pedicure b4 wedding – $150.00

Groom Tux Rental + Accessories- $175.00

Kids Outfits & Accessories – $400.00

Floral – $1,500.00

Reception/Ceremony Décor & Rentals-$1,250.00

Officiant fee-$350.00

Wedding Rings -$900.00

Honeymoon Flight, Hotel, Etc.- $5,000.00

Stationary- $325.00

House Rental – Friday, Saturday & Sunday- $1,050.00

Postage- $172.00

Videographer, Photography, Limo Transportation, photo booth, DJ, engagement pics, DOC, hair and makeup on site for 7 people $8,000

Bridal Party Gifts- $350.00


I am in the US, midwest to be more specific 🙂

Post # 39
787 posts
Busy bee

smstevenson64 :  thank you. I live in Tennesseee. Wedding was in the great smoky mountains national park (which is part of why it was so cheap!)

Post # 40
787 posts
Busy bee

avalily :  thanks! My centerpieces were also what my bridesmaid’s carried as their bouquets! (Saved money any way I could 😉)

Post # 41
1665 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

abouttodoit17 :  my husband and I got married less than 3 months ago and went on a cruise afterwards completely debt free cos we saved for our wedding. We had the spare money each month after expenses to put $1000 into our wedding account and were engaged for a year. parents then gifted us $10,000 so our wedding cost us $15,000 and we went on honeymoon with the rest and used other savings for our rings etc. 

We even had money left after it all and haven’t been out of pocket. 

And now we’ve just bought a house. We’re 26 with degrees and are debt free (other than mortgage). 

Not everyone that has a beautiful wedding is drowning in debt now 🙂 

Post # 42
584 posts
Busy bee

From the US – FL. Plan to keep it around $5,000. But it might go up a bit depending on what dress I fall for ;). No way higher than $7,000 total though.

Post # 43
665 posts
Busy bee

avalily :  I’m spending 11,000 USD on Hawaiian honeymoon and elopement. Does not include wedding bands but includes flights hotel food site ceremony, special dinner,  3 gowns (oops bought too many haha), shoes, alterations, his clothes, officiant, flowers, Ubers to airport, rental car, a tour and top photographer. Canopy for ceremony. 

flights and half the hotels are paid for on points. We will have no guests. Economical stress free hopefully and fun. I’m not cut out for planning a wedding and we need to save money for a baby/place to live. I also can’t handle being the center of attention. Im wearing my grandmothers diamond but I’m hoping one day we can buy me one of my own.

I’m not having any showers or batcherlette parties. My mom passed away and I don’t have much family. My friends are past that phase and have kids/would be a huge imposition to ask them to fly everywhere with infants at home. A lot of the wedding traditions for me personally feel silly and unnecessary although I’m excited for others who have showers etc.

My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing us an engagement party but I’m dreading being the center of attention. I get so embarrassed and cringy. 

Post # 44
665 posts
Busy bee

Souzie :  love love love!! What about the shoe shots?!! Dress shot too if you can!!

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