(Closed) Just broke up with BF of 2 years. Confident I did the right thing, but need help

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Did I do the right thing?
    Yes, you did the right thing. Stay strong. : (205 votes)
    96 %
    No, you overreacted and were a bitch for no reason : (6 votes)
    3 %
    Maybe? Give him another chance. : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Who the hell voted “no” or “maybe”? Idiots or trolls?

    You’re doing the right thing, definitely, but your post reads to me like you’re not really completely accepting the degree of his assholery (this isn’t a word, I know). He’s a tool. Like a complete and utter, beyond redemption kind of tool. He called you a fucking cunt multiple times. He’s manipulative. He lies. He humiliates you in public. He probably cheated on you multiple times. And yet you still talk about how he’s supportive and helpful and loving and caring. WTF? Do you know who else would be all that you mentioned, without the bad parts that you hate? PRETTY MUCH EVERY OTHER ADULT YOU COULD POSSIBLY MEET. I’ve been there too, and I just have no idea how I could have been so insane. 

    Again, totally think you’re essentially doing the right thing, just think you need to stop making excuses that he deserves respect, deserves to be happy, etc., and rationalizing that he’s only a jerk 10% of the time. Honest to God, most guys won’t behave like your ex even 0.0001% of the time. Your ex sounds like a twat. You deserve so much better and you don’t need to be wasting your time texting him or thinking about his stuff. Put his stuff on the curb so it totally gets wet because who gives a shit, block his number, and go take care of your dad. Then go home and redecorate, get a new haircut, and look forward. It’ll only get better, I promise!

    Post # 62
    Member
    3229 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    cautiously3optimistic:  You really should not let one poster run you away.  Besides she is actually really nice and gave you a pretty sincere apology. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  NovaRising.
    Post # 64
    Member
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    cautiously3optimistic:  Is your ex’s name Eric by chance? Sounds like an ex of mine.

    If my Darling Husband called me a cunt, that would be the end of that, after I kicked him in the balls repeatedly of course. Fuck that noise. You did the right thing. You deserve better.

    I hope things go well with your dad and I hope that you can find some solace in all of this that you are moving on to bigger and better things, while your ex can revel in his own lonliness and clear anger issues.

    Post # 66
    Member
    173 posts
    Blushing bee

    I vote for definitely did the right thing. Even if he had a valid reason to feel what he’s feeling, that is no way to bring the issue to your attention. He sounds incredibly rude, and that’s something trust or time will not change. 

    Post # 67
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He’s a jerk. Things will be better. You have a support system right here of multiple women telling you to be strong. So be strong. Nothing can tear you down. Eat some chocolate. Work out whenever you want. Watch a sad movie you can cry about. Go on amazon local or groupon and find something interesting to do in your city. Watch a comedy. Go to a concert. Listen to music as loud as your neighbors will let you.

    Block the shit out of his number and think seriously about getting a new one for yourself.

    Post # 68
    Member
    184 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think you are just dragging the pain out by waiting to give him his stuff back.  It’s his stuff..if he wanted it so bad, he would make the effort to get it from you.  Give him a set time to come and pick it up and if he doesn’t..put the garbage out for the garbage man.

     

     

    Post # 70
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Right on. Also, spitting on your floor? Yuck, that’s so low class and gross. You’ve just moved on to a much better time in your life. Help your father and be awesome.

    Post # 72
    Member
    1914 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    cautiously3optimistic:  Sorry you are having to deal with this while your dad is having health problems. I’m glad your negative, disrespespectful ex is out of your life. Go concentrate on what is important- being there for your dad. Wishing him a quick and full recovery.

    Post # 73
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Cannot believe he spat on the floor and tried to get in. You were so smart not to let him come by until you had changed the locks. And also smart not to give him any reaction. Also can’t believe he laid into you like that about your dad!!! What a dumb little fucker. Pardon my language.

    I hope your your dad ends up being okay! 

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