(Closed) Just called a Bridezilla. -_- I thought I was being reasonable!

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I don’t think that you are and I think that that dress is innapropriate too.  Good luck with her!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that dress is TOTALLY inappropriate for anyone in the wedding party!  What the heck!

You are not out of line…

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ll be honest with you, I think at all dictating what mothers should wear is too far. I’ve never heard of doing that, and I’ve told my mom to wear anything that she likes and is comfortable in, and my Future Mother-In-Law should do the same. Don’t care what color, length, style, etc- I just want them to be comfortable and happy for my wedding day. They aren’t members of the wedding party, so I’m not sure why it matters to you?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i dont think that your beoing out of line here. that dress is something i would exprect for a bridesmaid or a young attendee to a formal wedding. that is not something i think is approprite for a mother of the groom.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It would have been nice for her to respect your wishes. However, the dress that she wears will reflect on her, not you. It is really just a little black dress. It is not at all revealing. The pics on the models always look shorter than they are in real life.

I would just let it go.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

That is not an appropriate dress. You are being more than reasonable.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

although i looked at the dress pic and thought ummmmmm and that it looks like something to wear for a night out partying…… if youre in your 20’s that is i also dont think you have the right to tell people how to spend their own money in what to wear, what colour to wear, what length to wear

i think this is a matter of picking your battles and if Future Mother-In-Law wants to be seen at your wedding in that, well it says more about her than you so smile and let it go

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You arent out of line. At all. That dress  IMO is not that bad, but then again, I dress like a super sexy escort sometimes ๐Ÿ™‚ (dont judge me! lol!)wait let me re state that…for a wedding not cool but if i saw someone in that dress i wouldnt give a second look. though Ive never heard of dictating to the Mother-In-Law what to wear I dont think thats out of line, especially the way you presented it. Whats with people wearing tight sexyish dresses to weddings? i thought you were suppoed to, no matter what, dress conservitvely…(shrug) maybe that thought is old school? The last wedding i went to had girls wearing super tight, low cut, short booty clubbing vegas dresses…Like i said, i dress like that but thought it inappropriate for a wedding…

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My mom wanted to wear a brown  rhinestone encrusted bathing suit and a brown silk crinkle skirt. My mom is no petite miss either. So I feel ya on that one.   Mom+weddings=insanity

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I do think it’s not exactly appropiate for the groom’s mother. Having said that, I think you should let it go, you told her how you feel and that’s it, you’re not being unreasonable. But for the sake of both of you just try to let it go.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry, I’m with galloway here in that I don’t think you can dictate what mothers wear.  You can certainly make your preferences known but to give them a colour scheme they need to stay within and dictating the length is going too far in my opinion.  You may not think your FMIL’s dress is appropriate (and I agree it’s maybe not the most appropriate dress) but if she likes it and feels good in it, so be it.  

Yes, you are paying for pictures but that doesn’t mean you get to dictate every little aspect.  Are you telling everyone involved with the wedding how to wear their hair and what their make-up should look like?  There comes a point where you just need to step back and let it go.

And for what it’s worth, my BMs wore long navy dresses and my mom also wore a long navy dress – there was absolutely no mistaking her for being a member of the bridal party.  SHE was the one who was a bit worried about it (I was not in the slightest bit fussed) but she was comfortable in it and really liked the dress so I encouraged her to buy it.   Sure enough, it looks great in the pictures and not the slightest bit weird.

I think you need to just let it go – do you want everyone to be happy and enjoy the day or do you this black cloud hanging over the day with your FMILs thinking, ugh, I’m so glad this is all over as Anniebo was being such a bridezilla!? 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the other bees. saying I do think that dress is inappropriate for her and your pictures…. Its selfish. I also think you were being reasonable with outfit expectations as you didnt have many stipulations. I could see not wanting everyone to look like a Bridesmaid or Best Man.. I agree with coffecup too.. You need to let it go now as you did tell her and you do not want a big blow out before YOUR big day ๐Ÿ™‚

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