(Closed) Just curious….

posted 7 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly I dont think anyone who isnt AA or doesnt have AA children is in any position to answer this question

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I’m answering based on a friend of mine.

How do u feel about AA women who wear their hair natural? I think it looks pretty both ways, I have a friend who lets it go natural and it’s gorgeous and looks amazing on her!

What do u think of the permed vs, natural conflict? I have no idea how to answer that just because I don’t know anything about it. 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@healthily_married: If you dont have AA hair and you dont have kids or dependants who have AA hair, this means you dont have any first ahnd experience dealing with it and thus dont know enough about it to comment.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@healthily_married: oh ok interesting and at the same time unfortunate. I love the hair both ways.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Bells- I don’t think that she is looking for first-hand experience, I think she is looking for opinions on a sociological perspective across cultures. 

@healthily_married:  I think AA hair looks beautiful both ways.  Several of my friends and co-workers have done both (especially between hair appointments).  As far as a “conflict”, I’m with @muckmoo1, I wasn’t aware there was a conflict?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh wow…..ok there is SO MUCH that I could say on this subject.  As an AA women who is transitioning to natural hair this is a subject that I have had a lot of experience with and there is really no simple answer that I could give you over a message board.  But, I do want to say that this is really an issue that has the potential to have very emotional & controversal reactions.  This is an issue that is so deeply engrained into the fabric of what it is to be an AA women that I can really only recomend that you can check out the website: curlynikki.com and the forum there to see a whole range of experince of AA women and their natural hair.  You can also check out Chris Rock’s documentry “Good Hair” and you can learn a lot about AA women with relaxed hair and weaves. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My daughter is mixed (her biological father is Ethiopian so her curls aren’t extremely tight).

She gets a lot of compliments on her hair. I think it is absolutely beautiful (I may be biased of course lol). I do worry though that she will always want to have “white” hair. One time she asked me why she couldn’t have blonde hair and it broke my heart a bit but I realized it was just a natural question from a 5 year old.

I never have straightened her hair and I don’t plan on it. A babysitter did once when she was a toddler and I was FUMING!

I think as a mom, I really want her to love herself as she naturally is and if she chooses to straighten it , then I want it to be her personal choice and not do it for others.

I have a good friend who used to relax her hair often and made the transition to natural and has not looked back since. She actually made a short film about her struggles to be accepted. I will look around for it.

In the mean time, here is my munchkin (with my FI)!

 

 

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