Post # 1
As I browse through rings and start to (try) to bring them up with my bf, I’m just wondering what the average amount that FHs generally spend on the e-ring–I’m sure this will vary greatly across the board, but here goes…
Post # 3
Luckily my SO is not so picky. He had already emailed me a pic of a ring he really likes. I looked it up on some sites that looked similar and luckily it was only 400.00
Post # 4
FH ended up spending around £200GBP which is about $300USD. It was from an independent jeweller and actually ended up being a really good deal 🙂
Post # 5
i didn’t have expectations, i didn’t really care. but he spent $0.00! it was passed down, a family ring. i’m very glad, i’d hate for him to have spent a crap load on a diamond!
Post # 6
How much did I “expect”? Honestly, over 4K. Cuz I wanted at least a carat, which I knew would run 3500+ for the cut I wanted (radiant or cushion) and I wanted a setting also (so there’s another few grand). To be fair, he offered to propose before deploying with a smaller ring but I said I’d wait. Hey, deployed captains make good money….and pay no taxes….so I didn’t feel too bad “expecting” a really nice ring after 3.5 years, a LDR, and a 15 month deployment. If I’d known it’d have been a financial burden, I’d have “expected” something else. Saying “expect” makes it sound snobby, though. I feel weird putting it that way. But I always knew something nice was coming my way because we’d talked about it a lot. He was adamant about waiting to put a few carats on my finger, too, and i figured we weren’t getting married til after I graduated, so it didn’t matter if i had to wait more.
Post # 7
I won’t say expected…but based on my research I assumed that my ring would be over 4K. I wanted a 3 stone ring (not round) with a center stone of at least a carat. Plus I am allergic to gold so my ring “had” to be platinum or I couldn’t wear it.
My Fiance is not one to just throw money around but when he decides to do something…he usually does it big. I know if he couldn’t afford my ring…he would have gotten it…LOL. He doesn’t believe in financing anything other than cars and houses =)
Post # 8
My e-ring’s appraised value is definitely in the top tier of your poll, but we are a couple of very lucky ducks as FI’s mom works at a jewelry store and got him the wholesale hookup, PLUS my solitaire is her original e-ring stone, which I think is about the sweetest thing ever. I’m actually really glad that Fiance didn’t have to drain multiple paychecks to pay for my ring, I would have felt really bad. Of course everyone is entitled to feel differently about this! I imagine you’ll get a wide variety of responses here, I would bet there’s hardly anything close to a “norm” these days on this topic.
Post # 9
My Fiance bought what he could reasonably afford, got an amazing deal on it and I’m so happy with it–so I’m happy! (To be fair.. I just asked him for a price range and picked the ring I wanted. I know it was <$2000)
Post # 10
It’s not that I expect, but everything that we’ve seen that we’ve liked has been ~£3k mark ($4,500), I don’t mind if it’s cheaper. I just want one!
Post # 11
We are going with Moissanite.
http://www.moissaniteco.com (that is where he is orderning from)
I would LOVE to have a conflict-free diamond, but we don’t have the money, so Moissanite it is.
Post # 12
I think it kind of depends on what you want as far as size cut clairty color etc. that is going to really determine how much you are going to spend – it kind of depends on what he wasnts/is willing to spend or both of you if you’re both contributing- the best way to do it is to go looking together so you both find a style you love and get an idea of price points. And then you will know if what you want is realistic.
We both personally wanted atleast a 2 ct center – and with the style, setting of stones, and quality of diamond that were in my engagement ring, we spent more than most would on a ring.
Don’t forget that you will also want to consider what bands will go with the ring, bc that inevitably be the way you will will probably wear it and will be additional costs you will incur.
Post # 13
@gocubbies–I think Moissanite is awesome!! I had never even heard of it before I saw your post here, and after reading a lot more about it, now I think that’s what I want! 🙂 I was a Geology minor in college, and always thought about the “rarity” and “value” of stones, mainly because it had geologic significance. Diamonds have never been that rare (they’re actually pretty cheap in the countries where they are mined b/c they don’t carry the same “alleged” value there–people know they are just a rock). So I always kind of thought I wanted a gemstone instead of a diamond b/c that would be more special, but I like the look of diamonds, as do we all. But now that I’ve found a more “valuable” stone (in terms of the earth and it’s geological rarity), I think I’m sold. 🙂
Giving diamonds to your “wife to be” originally came from the idea that a man was telling her she was “as rare and special as a diamond.” So don’t be sad that you can’t afford a conflict free diamond–now you get to have a gemstone that is much rarer and more special in reality and should, therefore, carry even more significance for your relationship.
Post # 14
I expected 3K. He spent a lot more. I am a little terrified by having a giant piece of expensive on my hand all the time.
Post # 15
My boyfriend has really good taste…consequently, really expensive taste. Which is fine because it matches my tastes, haha. Chances are I’ll get a three stone emerald cut, probably an emerald with two diamonds (I hope he gets lab-created, the real thing is so overpriced and complicated), and it will probably be pretty darn big. I have a gorgeous garnet ring now, but he says he wants the next piece of jewelery to be “much more impressive.”
So yeah. I’m “expecting” it will be a couple thousand, haha.
Post # 16
Mine ended up only being 2k, but that’s because we got it vintage… it apprasied for 8-9k. Which blew our minds.