(Closed) Just curious, any regrets?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
347 posts
Helper bee


I kind of have regrets in a way.  I received a family ring, Edwardian style, when we were first engaged b/c my husband and I had no money.  It was either that ring or a 1 ct. solitaire.  I chose the Edwardian at the time because the 1 ct. solitaire belonged to his mom and she had been separated from hubby’s father (father died before they got divorced), and I loved that style. But, now after almost 10 years, the style just isn’t me, it doesn’t fit well, and I just really want something classic.  I think classic style rings always look great, and while my ring was beautiful, now that I’m in my mid 30’s, it just doesn’t feel like “me” and just isn’t my style at all anymore.  I’m currently wearing an anniversary ring (3 stone but not the typical 3 stone since all the stones are the same) since it’s more me but also because it was free (the diamonds were).  I’m planning on upgrading in the future sometime and really want a solitaire.

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Post # 5
347 posts
Helper bee


I really love your rings!  They are gorgeous and so different.  I think I’ve seen this set of rings on Etsy and really love it and the price is fantastic!  I think it sounds like a perfect choice for you!  πŸ™‚

I was thinking about what I wrote and even though I wish I had a solitaire now, I guess I can’t really say I regret it too much b/c I did love my ring for a long time.  I guess that’s why some women get upgrades.  πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

The main reason why we chose my ring was because it didn’t look like everyone elses. Sometimes I think that I would have preferred to have something more traditional but then I remember that my ring has personality that a lot of the traditional rings don’t have and I fall in love with it all over again. 

Post # 8
151 posts
Blushing bee

My boyfriend and I have a set of wooden engagement rings.  They are beautiful and made from completely recycled materials (in a solar powered shop no less!  I think I just had an eco-gasm).  While I don’t have the ring on my finger yet, I have seen it and love it.  Actually, both of them are just sitting on the kitchen counter in their little wooden case right now, lol.

I know that I am a non-traditional person and have no issues with doing things outside the norm.  The particular arrangement of carbon atoms that makes up a diamond is exquisite and beautiful, but not something I wanted to own.  Not to mention, I don’t think my sanity would remain intact if Boyfriend or Best Friend spent that kind of money on a rock, lol.  Sure, people change, but I doubt my entire worldview will be different down the road.  I should add; I have nothing against diamonds, my heirloom wedding band has them (passed down from a great aunt).

Your ring set is lovely, by the way!  Like you said, it’s really versatile and you can wear any combination of bands any way you want.  It’s like having lots of rings!  Being true to yourself is a wonderful thing πŸ™‚

Post # 9
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

one of the big reasons i chose my ring (eternity band) was specifically because it is a classic style that i think will look good forever…also, i like that it is different from the norm.  all my girlfriends have, i kid you not, the exact same style of engagement ring, that while gorgeous, seems to blend into the crowd after a while.  plus, when they are all the same kind of ring, you can’t help but compare them. 

Post # 10
2463 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i love your rings!!

i wear my wedding bands on my left hand (2 rose gold bands, one plain and one eternity band) and e-ring on my right because i wasn’t into the only band i could have had to fit my ering, and i wanted to be able to wear my band alone if i wanted when travelling to sketchy places and such. i don’t regret it–i love my rings so much. i love that my e-ring is so unique, and that my bands are both rose gold and wearing 2 is kind of unique.

but, hubby told me his other option for a ring was a 3-stone style, which would look a bit more traditional and i prob would have worn a band with it, so that sometimes makes me wonder what it would have been like…the stones were all heirloom stones from his grandma (his grandfather was a jeweller, so lucky us!), and his mom used the 3-stones he would have used to make me a necklace, so i guess i got the best of both worlds anyway. and i could always remake it and add a 3-stone anniversary band someday if i want πŸ˜‰

Post # 12
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I love your ring too (I’m pretty partial though, my ring is a bezel too)!! The satin finish on it is so pretty! 

Hmm…Do I ever regret getting a more modern/less traditional ring? No. Do I get ring envy now and again? Sometimes. I love that I don’t see my ring on anyone else’s finger and that I don’t have 1,000 ring twins (even though I have a huge crush on Tiffany Novo settings and they’re pretty popular), but I can tell that my ring is maybe an acquired taste. Whenever someone asks to see it, they’re either like “Omg that’s beautiful!” or “Oh wow, that’s different… [fake smile to make it seem like I don’t hate it]”. It did make me a bit sad when I showed the ring to my mom for the first time and realized she fell into the latter camp. At the end of the day though, IMO, your bezel is just so clean-looking and very practical. It’s really is just a solitaire with a slightly modern twist, so I think it would be very hard to get tired of it.

@finnaroo…Beautiful ring, suits your hand perfectly!

Post # 14
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I love all of your nontraditional rings. πŸ™‚

He surprised me with my three stone ring, so even thought we talked about different styles before, I was never able to try on other settings. That was my biggest regret about my nontraditional ring and when I explained it to my sister, she gave me her 2 carat cushion solitaire to try on. Problem solved. I preferred my own ring. He knew me better than I knew myself.

Sometimes I think that I would rather have a solitaire after seeing pretty pictures of solitaires, but I think that’s pretty normal. Sometimes after I see pretty sapphires, I day dream about sapphire rings.

He designed my ring with symbolism and love, so I don’t regret my ring. I may day dream about others, but I wouldn’t trade my nontraditional ring in.

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