Post # 1
Hi, Bees! I’m a big fan of rose gold, so that’s what I’m planning to do for my engagement ring and wedding band. Now that my boyfriend and I have that design pretty much squared away, the conversation has turned to his wedding band. He wants a platinum band, but he feels like he should incorporate rose gold into it so that we match. I’ve never thought of similar styles or matching metals as a requirement, so now I’m curious. Is that a thing? Do you and your spouses have His & Hers* versions of the same band, or did you both just go with what you individually like? I would prefer to buy him exactly the ring that he wants unless this is some kind of giant faux pas that I don’t know about.
Thanks for your input!
*I’m acknowledging my heteronormative bias with this question.
Post # 2
I asked H if he wanted to have matching-type bands, since he wanted a plain silver band and I was going to get one with some small aquamarines in it unless he wanted us to both have a plain silver band. He didn’t care, but we both liked silver as he feels it’s a romantic metal (silver or gold), and I know it’s not going to cause any allergies for us. A lot of couples seem to have whatever works for them individually on their fingers. I no longer see the 1980s matchy matchy sets on most people- I know they are out there, but no couples I know seem to wear a matched set.
Post # 3
Both of our bands are platinum and simple in style but they are not the same. My ring had milgrain and FI’s ring has a twisted rope design on the profile. We picked our own bands based on our own personal style.
Post # 4
We both have two sets.
One set that doesn’t match and then a set of yellow gold plain bands. The yellow gold bands are traditional to use for our ceremony. I’ll wear my original ering and matching band in general though after the ceremony.
Post # 5
I have 2 wedding bands – an eternity band that matches my engagement ring, and for my other ring, he and I have the exact same ring in our respective finger sizes. I often wear the matching version on my right hand, or I wear it with my eternity band without my engagement ring.
Post # 6
Mine is white gold. His is a rose gold/tungsten mix. They aren’t even a little bit the same. It doesn’t matter – it’s not like we are going to be less married if our rings don’t match.
Post # 7
So. The idea of matching bands has been imprinted on me for years. I also have a rose gold set and it can be a fairly ‘feminine’ metal. We decided to do two-tone for my FI’s band.
Post # 8
- Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond
We by chance have the same metal… but we didn’t plan for that- it’s just what each of us prefers. If he wanted yellow gold I would have gotten him that.
It’s his ring to wear daily so I wanted something he was comfortable with. Bottom line.
Post # 9
We do! We both have platinum Cartier simple wedding bands. His is obviously more wide than mine. We wanted smth forever so we chose the classic style and the durable metal.
I also have a white gold simple band from our 6month anniversary and it just looks so bad next to platinum one. Never pick white gold, it looses colour and scratches!!
Post # 10
Nope. I am getting white gold with diamonds down the band. He is getting, and there is a funny story behind his ring, a $2 magnetic ring that is black.
Post # 11
We don’t have the bands yet but we have picked them out. I don’t think we could have picked less matching ones if we tried hahaha Mine will be rose gold to match my e-ring and his is tungsten with turquoise and meteorite. I don’t think it matters if they match or not, just that you each are happy with them and they match your personal styles.
Post # 12
Not even close… his is Tungsten Carbide and Mine is white gold with Diamonds
Won’t make us any less commited to each other… 🙂
Post # 13
we purposely picked the same metal so that our rings looked similar and ‘matched’ but they are not identical. My wedding band is a plain white gold band, and his is white gold, but has both shiny and matte parts to it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
We’re going for our ring consultation this weekend 🙂
I’m going for White Gold, but Fiance is going for Palladium. They’ll be visually similar, but we have different needs in terms of our metals.
I don’t think they need to match with each other – if Fiance wanted a yellow gold ring, for example, that would be ok with me. It’s his ring after all! He feels they should be the same colour though so that’s why he’s going for a silvery colour to match mine 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
We won a gift card to an online jeweler, so we used that to buy a matching set. This is the set we will use for camping, travel, outdoor activity, and such that have no stones and are incredibly durable.
However, for our regular wear, I am having a custom band made to match my custom ering from our jeweler who is a family friend. Fiance is choosing what he likes. We both happen to prefer white gold, so the metals will probably match. We will also be getting him a silicone ring for work because of his line of work he can cause serious damage with his machinery if he wears metal rings.
If he wants your rings to match or compliment each other, you can consider something like this with the rose gold stripe in whatever metal he chooses: https://www.timelessweddingbands.com/product/129/93?gclid=CKe55J3Q5M8CFc1ZhgodrjUDkQ