(Closed) (Just curious) Have you met everyone you are inviting to your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

YES. Our rule of thumb was if we both hadn’t met someone they were not invited. 

Post # 4
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I don’t think that’s weird at all.  I haven’t met many of FI’s family because I have only travelled to see them with him three times to date.  He isn’t very close to those family members as well, but we felt obligated to invite them because they are his aunts/uncles/cousins.  If we were having a very small wedding, yes, I would restrict to those we were close to.

Post # 5
1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It was a rule of mine that I needed to know every person that we invited (MIL did NOT like or understand this rule). I didn’t want people there who wouldn’t have been able to pick me out of a lineup, and I certainly didn’t want to have to be introduced to people at my own wedding. Darling Husband and I wanted to invite people that we were close to and that we knew would be fun and help us celebrate. We knew each and every one of our 185 guests (including +1s).

Post # 6
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I havent but Fiance is in the military. His family is in Virginia, he is stationed in Seattle, and I live in NJ. I have met most of his aunts except one but I would not make it a rule that they couldnt come but that isnt fair given our situation.

Post # 7
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope. In Korea it’s tradition to invite everyone and their dog. We’re having a pretty small wedding by Korean standards but I don’t know if I’ve met every single one of my parents’ friends who are coming. 

We’re having a reception in Ireland (only about 30 people) and I’m sure I won’t know most of the people there (although I did meet all his folks once, at his father’s funeral – it was such a chaotic day though, I barely remember anyone).

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

At least one of us has met about 98% of the guests. There are a few his mom wants to invite that if he’s met them, he was a baby. So I don’t count that.

Post # 9
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes we both know everyone. Our rule we went by was– If I couldn’t picture us sitting across from them out to eat and having a real conversation with them, then they shouldn’t be there.

Post # 10
757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No, and I am super pissed about it. We are inviting some of FI’s cousins who live in the midwest, and haven’t come to the east coast in the five years that we have been dating. I doubt they will come but still. 

Post # 11
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No, I haven’t, and I don’t think it’s weird at all. 

Post # 12
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Yes, unfortunately. Future Mother-In-Law took the liberty of inviting 10 of her friends (keep in mind, prior to this, it was a total of 70 people – a small event. And that was including a plus one for EVERYONE, including folks we know who won’t bring one).

Fiance totally bungled it. Instead of telling his mom that we weren’t going to be inviting anyone other than our own friends and family, he just asked, “Who are these people?” When she said her friends…he didn’t say anything.

She has insisted on paying for the wedding, but we are not accepting her money. The principle of it cheeses me off. Fiance doesn’t even know them. So we’re going to be awkwardly talking to people we don’t even know, who will almost certainly get us a gift, which only adds to the obligation and awkwardness. 4 of the 10 have RSVPed so far.

Post # 13
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mom and Dad are paying for ours. I know all the people my parents are inviting though. Also Fiance knows all the people on his side.


Post # 14
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know everyone on my side, and pretty much all on fiance’s side too. There are a few cousins and friends of his who live on the other side of the country that I haven’t met yet, but I’m sure I’ll get to meet them all on the wedding day!

Post # 15
6221 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Nope. Future Father-In-Law wants to invite his cousins that he lived with growing up, and I haven’t met all of them. I think that SHOULD be everyone though

Post # 16
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Nope my Future Mother-In-Law is inviting a bunch of people I have never met including her hairdresser…..

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