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<div class=”img-frame”> I created it a poll so it’s anonymous. I hope this doesn’t come off as intrusive or rude, I just thought it would be interesting to see on average what the answer is! 🙂 </div>
Post # 3
trackwise : do you mean just in envelopes on the actual day? Or do parent’s finanjc contributions to paying for the wedding (which some people might consider “gifts”) count as well? Because the difference between that can be STAGGERING.
We had a 90 person wedding, no registry, and i think we cashed something like…8k? I can’t remember exactly. Maybe closer to 10.
Post # 4
We had about 160 people and got something like 30K in cash for the wedding.
Post # 5
300 guests and a little over $70K
Post # 6
Holy s**t y’all! We got TEN BUCKS lol.
Not that our guests weren’t generous, but they all seemed to want to buy off the registry.
I’m not counting parents’ financial contributions to paying for the wedding itself, that’s a whole different ballgame haha.
Post # 7
We are actually a bit peeved right now since in lieu of gifts we requested donations to the guest’s choice of one of four charities we like. Wedding is Saturday, we have 110 guests at a very ritzy location, and so far we have about $2k in donations which doesnt come close to what we would expect we would have been gifted in cash or registry items.
Post # 8
dreamreve1 : Whoa! That’s amazing! We had just under 150 guests and ended up with less than $2,000 in cash, lol. We received a lot of our china and flatware and other registry items as well as gift cards, however.
Post # 9
We are having 125 people and knowing how my side of the famiy is I am super nervous with how much money we will get as gifts. We have been paying for the wedding by ourselves so it would be nice to receive at least a quarter of it back but I am setting my expectations really low.
Post # 10
We got just under 2k in cash and checks during the after party. Wedding crowd was just over 100. This is in addition to the registry. We posted the registry on our wedding site but did not request or expect any cash. Most of the folks who gave cash gifts ALSO got us stuff off the registry. Since we have a house to fix up, we are extremely grateful for the cash that we can turn into floorboards and basement waterproofing.
Post # 11
well i mean my parents gave us enough cash to more or less cover the wedding, but they gave it with that in mind.
in terms of what was in cards.. i think $100? Something in that range, definitely not more than $200
Post # 12
Threads like this are so interesting to me. It’s amazing how much these things differ by region.
We ended up with about 90 guests and received $30K (not counting the wedding cost itself) plus another few hundred in gift cards/gifts. We also received almost everything off our registry at the shower (20 guests) which was about another $4K.
Post # 13
It is interesting to me as well, to see the difference in other states and countries. I am floored by what some people spend on weddings, and also what they get for gift amounts.
Without the amount my parents contributed to the wedding which was their gift to us (which covered almost all of the costs, and ours was a cheap wedding compared to a lot), but just from gifts of guests we got about $2600 cash and a few hundred in giftcards as well as some registry items. We had 165 guests.
Post # 14
I’ve never asked anyone what they received in cash gifts from a wedding. This is an interesting topic. I wonder how it relates to expenses? Do people even out, assuming they pay for their own wedding? If their parents pay, it sounds like people generally get a decent downpayment for an item in the form of wedding gift money.
Post # 15
notmeeither : I would assume the larger gift totals also equate to more expensive weddings – in my area it’s common to get a lot of money in gifts, but weddings are also ridiculously expensive (~$155pp was the standard rate we received at the venues I looked at just for food and beverage).
My parents always said weddings were a losing proposition – don’t expect to make more money than you spend. I think that’s true in a lot of cases. Except of course when it’s paid for by someone other than the bride and groom.