Just curious – How much money was gifted to you for your wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How much money did you receive as gift?
    0-500 : (13 votes)
    12 %
    500 - 2000 : (19 votes)
    18 %
    2000-5000 : (26 votes)
    24 %
    5000-10000 : (17 votes)
    16 %
    10000-20000 : (19 votes)
    18 %
    more than 20000 : (13 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    trackwise :  do you mean just in envelopes on the actual day? Or do parent’s finanjc contributions to paying for the wedding (which some people might consider “gifts”) count as well? Because the difference between that can be STAGGERING. 

    We had a 90 person wedding, no registry, and i think we cashed something like…8k? I can’t remember exactly. Maybe closer to 10. 

    Post # 4
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We had about 160 people and got something like 30K in cash for the wedding. 

    Post # 5
    2493 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    300 guests and a little over $70K

    Post # 6
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Holy s**t y’all! We got TEN BUCKS lol.

    Not that our guests weren’t generous, but they all seemed to want to buy off the registry.

    I’m not counting parents’ financial contributions to paying for the wedding itself, that’s a whole different ballgame haha.

    Post # 7
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    We are actually a bit peeved right now since in lieu of gifts we requested donations to the guest’s choice of one of four charities we like. Wedding is Saturday, we have 110 guests at a very ritzy location, and so far we have about $2k in donations which doesnt come close to what we would expect we would have been gifted in cash or registry items.

    Post # 8
    11456 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    dreamreve1 :  Whoa! That’s amazing! We had just under 150 guests and ended up with less than  $2,000 in cash, lol. We received a lot of our china and flatware and other registry items as well as gift cards, however.

    Post # 9
    51 posts
    Worker bee

    We are having 125 people and knowing how my side of the famiy is I am super nervous with how much money we will get as gifts. We have been paying for the wedding by ourselves so it would be nice to receive at least a quarter of it back but I am setting my expectations really low. 

    Post # 10
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    We got just under 2k in cash and checks during the after party.  Wedding crowd was just over 100.  This is in addition to the registry. We posted the registry on our wedding site but did not request or expect any cash.  Most of the folks who gave cash gifts ALSO got us stuff off the registry.  Since we have a house to fix up, we are extremely grateful for the cash that we can turn into floorboards and basement waterproofing.

    Post # 11
    9588 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    well i mean my parents gave us enough cash to more or less cover the wedding, but they gave it with that in mind.

    in terms of what was in cards.. i think $100?  Something in that range, definitely not more than $200

    Post # 12
    733 posts
    Busy bee

    Threads like this are so interesting to me. It’s amazing how much these things differ by region.

    We ended up with about 90 guests and received $30K (not counting the wedding cost itself) plus another few hundred in gift cards/gifts. We also received almost everything off our registry at the shower (20 guests) which was about another $4K.

    Post # 13
    2657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    It is interesting to me as well, to see the difference in other states and countries. I am floored by what some people spend on weddings, and also what they get for gift amounts.

    Without the amount my parents contributed to the wedding which was their gift to us (which covered almost all of the costs, and ours was a cheap wedding compared to a lot), but just from gifts of guests we got about $2600 cash and a few hundred in giftcards as well as some registry items. We had 165 guests. 

    Post # 14
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve never asked anyone what they received in cash gifts from a wedding. This is an interesting topic. I wonder how it relates to expenses? Do people even out, assuming they pay for their own wedding? If their parents pay, it sounds like people generally get a decent downpayment for an item in the form of wedding gift money.

    Post # 15
    733 posts
    Busy bee

    notmeeither :  I would assume the larger gift totals also equate to more expensive weddings – in my area it’s common to get a lot of money in gifts, but weddings are also ridiculously expensive (~$155pp was the standard rate we received at the venues I looked at just for food and beverage). 

    My parents always said weddings were a losing proposition – don’t expect to make more money than you spend. I think that’s true in a lot of cases. Except of course when it’s paid for by someone other than the bride and groom. 

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