(Closed) Just curious… if money was not a problem, would you still consider moissanite?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 91
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Buzzing bee

Do what you want to do. I personally Perfer a diamond or a colored gem. I do think of a ring as an investment. I am not planning on ever upgrading or anything like that. This is the ring that I am going to wear forever and I wanted a diamond, although I was open to the idea if money was an issue. But I would have Perferred a diamond and that’s what I’m getting. 

To add, I have never seen a mossi so maybe if I had things would be a bit different. I think I just like the significance of the diamond. Also my ring with the diamond was exactly at 4k so we didn’t get anything ridiculous and if we had went with a mossi I wouldn’t have gotten something big anyway which is where the real savings ar . I got a very nice diamond that’s smallee, but fits my lifestyle.

Post # 92
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Sugar bee

I’m a strong believer in the idea that everyone should do what they want as long as it’s within reason and not hurting anyone (and legal, haha). So if you want a moissy and it’s well within your budget, go for it! I personally wanted a large diamond because I like the look of a larger stone and the idea of a diamond (what can I say…I’m exactly the kind of sucker that De Beers and Tiffany are marketing to!). It’s within our budget, so it’s what I’m getting. I’m not big on buying fine jewelry or wearing a lot of jewelry in general, so I want the few pieces I do own and wear to be true investments and have the bling factor.

I don’t think the vast majority of people would judge a woman because she wanted to put her money in something other than a big rock – in fact, I think most people would applaud you for being practical.

Post # 94
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Helper bee

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pinkkkbunny:  Personally, in most cases I would always strongly consider moissanite even if money were no object. That’s mostly because I don’t like the idea of having so much money invested in “things”–I’d much rather it go to charity, vacations, things like that. I like the idea of making memories with money and/or helping people and animals, rather than having money sitting on my finger.

 

Post # 95
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Worker bee

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valintine:  yep definitely silly to call them the same name lol

Post # 96
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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frogprincess:  But if money were no object, then the assumtions is that there would still be plenty of money to travel and donate AND have whatever outrageously expensive ring of your choice.  The great thing about the idea of money not being an object is that you could have it all and not have to say “rather it go to”.  😉

Post # 97
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 1994

Yes, yes, yes and yes.   I love the moissanite,   but truthfully I’m also very fickle when it comes to stone size and shape and setting.  With moissy and the amora gem I can indulge in different sizes and shapes.  I want an oval and a step cut emerald  too. Planning on having a nice collection to rotate according to my mood!

 

Post # 98
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Helper bee

I just recently became engaged to the love of my life during a New Year’s Eve proposal. He proposed without a ring because he knew I’d want say in it, but wanted to surprise me. I’m now deep into research as I look for our perfect engagement ring!

I have been lurking on this board for awhile and I did consider Moissanite at one point, but the oil slick problems and multiple other issues with the stone made me throw the idea out the window pretty quickly. It would be nice to have a larger stone, as we can’t afford a large diamond, but I choose to have a smaller stone rather than chance it with a moissanite. The Amora Gem looks nice, but again, it’s so new I do not want to risk it. I don’t need to be worrying about my engagement ring looking oddly tinted, or forming a permanent stain, or people we know wondering how we were able to afford a bigger ring. It just seems sad to have that kind of an anxiety with an ering, and a natural stone will not come with those concerns.

I briefly considered morganite, but it also seemed like a bad idea. Though it is a natural stone, unfortunately it didn’t seem appropriate as an engagement stone. They are often treated for color, and the color is not stable and will change over time. They also dull/scratch over time. I did look at a couple of morganite rings in person and I was disappointed in their brownish color. I saw a few online that were really pretty, but in the end it’s just too risky (and trendy) for my taste.

So even with a smaller budget, I will be looking into diamonds and perhaps pale pink natural sapphires. Quality (and peace of mind) over quantity. Needless to say I would not consider moissanite if I had an unlimited budget. 

Post # 99
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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pinkshoes:  ha ha you’re right “if money were no object'” was the point of this thread! It looks like many people missed that part and responded with why they ended up with what they did given current or past finances. Heck no I wouldn’t get a moissanite or amora gem or any other simulant if money were really and truly no object so we were rolling in it,  I’d have a different color large d if diamond piece for every day of the week! hahahaha I better play the lottery!

Post # 100
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Helper bee

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valintine:  I’m confused…in one post, you say your husband has purchased you diamonds in the past. In another, you say your family would have thought it weird if he had purchased you a mined diamond. Are the diamonds you own lab created?

Also, you say there is no reason to disclose that a moissanite is not a diamond, but I have to disagree to a point. If someone has purchased a moissanite for ethical reasons, I’d say it would be imperative to actively advertise it as a lab created gem, otherwise you would be promoting diamonds. In fact, if one is against diamonds specifically for ethical reasons, I don’t believe moissanite is a good alternative at all (especially true if you are one who believes a moissanite looks just like a diamond). Also important to consider is the metal for the setting. If it is not fairtrade/recycled, the ring cannot be considered ethical.

Post # 101
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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pinkkkbunny: If you have the budget to buy either/or, then it honestly boils down to what YOU prefer. All 3 stones you have in question have different desirable qualities. But I am just saying a good quality 1 carat diamond from Blue Nile shouldn’t cost you 10 grand! I got my diamond from Blue Nile around a month ago, it’s a .9 carat, triple excellent cut, E color, SI1 (completely eye clean) stone. It was $4,000… Getting a full carat with those same specs would have cost approximately $1,300 more and I would not have been able to tell a difference in the size of the stone. I had a budget of $10,000 also, but Fiance and I are in our early 20’s and planning to buy a house this spring. So putting half of the money he had set aside for my ring towards the down payment or some nice furniture was much more logical to me. 

PLUS a 1 carat stone will look pretty sizeable on your size 3 finger. I have a size 5.5 finger and I think my .9 carat is a pretty decent size for me! 

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Post # 103
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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pinkshoes:  But some people don’t care to tie their money up in material goods, regardless how much of it they have. I think that’s what PP was trying to get across, but I could be wrong.

Post # 104
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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pinkkkbunny: Thank you! If it helps you, the link below is what a 1 carat center stone will look like on a size 3 finger. Also, unless you have a loupe or trained gemologist, you would not be able to look at a diamond and tell whether or not the diamond is a VVS1 or SI1 (given that it is eye clean, which you can confirm with a Blue Nile rep before buying). The most important C’s to me were cut and color (I am very color sensitive so I knew that I wanted a D or E. 

Here is a 1 carat diamond on a size 3 finger from Blue Nile -http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/engaged-here-is-my-1-carat-beauty-on-my-size-3-finger/

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Post # 105
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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girlseeksring:  I’m flattered you’re reading my posts so carefully, lol. When it came to my e-ring (which is actually an anniversary ring), yes, the diamond my husband was going to buy was a lab grown gem. Then I found moissanite and discovered it was better for us. The diamonds he has bought me in the past were purchased before we were educated about the ethical problems with mined diamonds — we bought “conflict free” without realizing that there is no such thing. 

As for disclosing, I do tell people, but I do not tell just for moral reasons. I disagree you’re supporting the mined diamond industry by not disclosing. You support the industry when you give it money. It’s up to each individual to educate themselves and make their own judgement calls about where to put their money. I like the look of diamonds, I like the durability of moissanite, I can have both without compromising my values.

For example, I buy fairtrade food. But I don’t make a point of discussing my fairtrade banana when I’m eating bananas at work, or worry about it if I’m walking down the street with my banana. Other people might see my banana and think, “Yummy! I want one!” And then they might go buy a non-fairtrade banana. That’s not my responsibility. It’s none of my business if other people want to buy fairtrade bananas or not.

For various reasons, I have moral issues with mined diamonds in particular, more than other items such as precious metals, but with other items yes I do try to make the most ethical choice with my money. I buy recycled metal if possible, but I’m not as concerned about that because the ethical problems with metal mining are not anywhere near the scope of mined diamonds…or I personally don’t care about them as much. Everybody draws their own moral lines somewhere. So, I’m also not going to judge my friends and go around telling them their diamonds are bloody. And my friend who doesn’t buy leather doesn’t call me immoral for my leather gloves.

Now I want a banana. 

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