- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2002
I have had a lot of friends get married recently and have noticed different things. Some friends have lavish wedding and can afford it, while others don’t have much at all but insist on spending to make theirs exactly what they want, even if the can’t afford it.
I totally get wanting what you want, but at what point do you think a bride and groom need to be realistic about money?
I thought of this b/c a friend is so into getting the best this and that and has insisted her fiance go into his retirement to pay for the wedding and sell his car. Her parents are not helping (which I can understand her feelings of stress with the budget) but I personally find it extreme and think you can have a beautiful wedding without going into debt. While this couple may not really be going into debt, the fact they she is insistent on going into his and her retirement and him selling his car and other things that he really values/enjoys, just seems a bit much.
Do you think weddings are worth going into debt if you can’t afford them. What are your thoughts on taking out a loan to pay for a wedding?
If I had lots of money, I would have loved to have the wedding of my dreams. Unfortunately, Darling Husband and I were super poor when we were married and couldn’t afford a lot so we had a DIY wedding (11 years ago…and I just started noticing brides doing more DIY stuff) for about $5000. While there are MANY things I would do different, we still get compliments from people about it, which really surprises me. My mother in law is a different story…she HATED our wedding but refused to help with any costs. Which is fine but then don’t tell us how horrible/tacky our wedding was b/c we didn’t have the money to do the things she wanted.
Sorry if I’m rambling, just wanted thoughts/opinions of those who are currently planning a wedding.