(Closed) Just curious…what are your thoughts on weddings and budgets?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper

If I don’t have the CASH, I don’t buy. So… no debt over a wedding. I think it’s extreme to be in debt for years for only one day. Our budget is $1000. only, That’s it, that’s all. Oh, and it’s cash. That includes wedding dress, groom’s suit, photographer, videographer, meal, venue, officiant, etc… whatever we decide to want at our wedding. Haven’t made concrete plans yet, but the money stays at $1000. (Unless we win the lottery…)

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are way overthinking this. As evidenced on the bee today you do not need a budget, plan or anything!!

 

 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think it is because some people are too concerned about how their lives look to other people. When I told my parents we were going to get silver rings to save money they were so shocked! I love silver and I would have got white gold anyway and to me they look the same.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Personally, I think the couple should only spend what they are comfortable with– That means no going into debt, and no sacrificing other joys just for this 1 party. 

I think emptying a savings account and selling off your posessions is WAY too far past “affordable”. 

 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Mrs.Lotus:  

I just went to a wedding where I thought that the couple should not be getting married :/ after all of the “being a princess” for a day settles in, shit will hit the fan. 

 

Post # 38
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Busy Beekeeper

@TwoCityBride:  I think people should what they can afford and what they want too. I don’t also spend time thinking about how much my friends have spent or didn’t spend.

This!

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re having a wedding we can afford but staying under that (we could afford a little bit more but dont want to spend too much so our budget is tight and wll stay that way).

If you hapen to run into an emergency and have already booked vendors, sent invites but are short on cash, then I am fine with taking out a small loan to pay off the wedding, then working on paying that loan back ASAP.  But I am againste planning a lavish wedding that is beyond your means from the get and having to dip into retirement money and selling your car just to fund a one day affair.  makes no sense to me.  

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@karineh:  Eh, it’s not that black and white. Like, me, I wouldn’t mind eloping. But I’m doing this crazy wedding for my mom and FI’s mom because they want it. However, we can afford it, so it’s happening.

Post # 42
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think it’s absolutely assanine to go into debt for ONE day. Do what you can afford. Do not take loans, take on credit card debt, etc. That’s just a bad start. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think this is a really interesting topic! I certainly agree with what everyone has said- basically stay within your means. I think it can be really hard for a lot of brides to stay within their budget when they dream of their wedding, and attend relatives and friends more lavish celebrations, and want a similar celebration. Rather than recognizing their own limitations, it seems like a lot of people do anything necessary to have that big wedding. I have to think it can have to do with pride and self esteem. Also, I know that in a lot of families there is a pressure to have that big wedding, but not always the financial help that used to be traditional.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@chocolatecoveredstrawberry:  To add to what you’ve said I also believe that it has become instilled in a lot of our younger people as a way of thinking just in general life overall.

How many ‘reality’ shows on tv give a distorted view on life and how we should spend our money (think Keeping Up With The Kardashians, etc.) including wedding shows!

Wedding shows are some of the worst! I love watching Say Yes To The Dress however at my age, I also know that the amounts spent on the dresses on that show are not realistically within reach of the majority of us…that is WITHOUT going into debt. Add into that all the other over-the-top expectations that are inspired by say…David Tutera and it could quickly destroy someone’s financial life.

These shows sell because they show the ‘dream’. The problem comes when you have someone unwilling to separate dream from reality.

 

ETA: I reread my post and just to make it clear I’m not implying that ALL young people are not responsible just the same as all older people are. I am talking ingeneralities here. I apologize in advance if someone reads that into it.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To this and every similar thread, the most appropriate response in my opinion is: to each their own!

Post # 46
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

At the end of the day, we’re all married, regardless of how much money was dropped. I am comfortable and happy knowing that I do not OWE on the one day though. Staying within our means is something that people are doing less and less, which I personally find ridiculous.

The only thing I’m willing to “carry debt” over is a car, house, or student loans. Things I will use on a pretty much daily basis for years to come.

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