(Closed) Just don’t go to this extent…..

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

That’s insane!!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hahaha! I just wrote on two posts about this!

Exactly why do people need to get married? Why are they angry that they haven’t had the big “party” yet? If your in love, and your commited whole-heartedly to a man, why should it matter if your married or not? Why should it matter that the government knows your filing your taxes together? What is marriage, really, other than formally being with the one you love? It’s tax benifits, it’s easier bank transactions and bill paying, it’s cheaper insurance rates, lower application fees for renting a home, it’s health insurance benifits, etc. Do people really need those so badly that your getting mad at your partner? So many relationships are ruined because of that!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh boy! That is hilarious and sad that the same time….I don’t understand why she would call 911 about that?! I wonder what she thought they should do anyway?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

She probably just wanted to talk to someone… she needs a therapist on speed dial, not 911. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Poor thing.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

While I certainly don’t deny the absurdity of calling 911 for any non-life-threatening emergency, I find the critique of someone’s *need* to be married a little harsh.

For me, marriage is so much more than the option to file your taxes jointly or to be eligible for discounted insurance rates. In fact, to me, those are just the *technical* aspects of marriage, and are certainly not the heart and soul (or guts, if you will) of a marriage.

To assume that tension in a relationship comes solely from the lack of shared health benefits or from not having a big party is unfair.  Especially since most of us here on WB embrace marriage as incredible expression of a couple’s love and committment . . . and that is something truly worth celebrating.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I like the line at the bottom…. the same woman was also arrested last week for calling 911 when she couldn’t find her car.

Post # 9
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Newbee

@AfishcalledPuddles–i agree with you. There is a difference between people needing to get married and people wanting to and believing in what a marriage stands for. It is not just about tax benefits, etc. Its about the next step in a relationship and a form of commitment. Not everyone wants to get married and that is completely fine. It is their choice. But many of us do want to because we believe in what it stands for.

I find it funny that the person who is expressing their views about how others feel they NEED to get married is getting married themselves. There is no need to judge others about why they wish to get married as you don’t know their situation and their beliefs.

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh no! I didn’t mean to be harsh!

I’m basically speaking out of my own personal experience. I have been with the man I love for almost 6 years, and haven’t made the big leap yet. We’re prefectly happy together, without being married. And I’m sure we’ll be perfectly happy when we are married. I just think that people now-a-days really don’t look deep enough within themselves when deciding on wether to get married or not. The examples I posted are REAL reasons I have been told to get married by friends and family and are some excuses that some of my friends have given for getting married.

 I still think marriage is not a “NEED”, it’s a desire, an honor, and a blessing. For someone to get so upset to call 911 over not getting married clearly isn’t wanting to get married for love. If you love someone, you should have patience, and feel blessed that you can spend time with that person…wether it be as man and wife or not.

Come on guys, aren’t you judging me now? That’s a little harsh! I didn’t say that’s why I was getting married!!! I was just brainstorming, trying to figure out why someone would get that upset over their man not wanting to get married!

Holy moly – that killed my wedding high. I guess I’m done for the day.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I like the line at the bottom…. the same woman was also arrested last week for calling 911 when she couldn’t find her car.

That was my favorite part, too.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Omigosh what a cookooo lady. She apparently has some attachment issues….=]

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d be willing to bet that this woman isn’t a native-U.S. citizen and there’s a lingusitic or cultural misunderstanding going on here.  It would be interesting to know if English is her first language and/or how long she’s lived in the U.S.

People are sometimes irrational, true, but I can think of a few immigration-related scenarios where a man refusing to marry you is an emergency.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m going to call 911 next time I lose something!  Haha

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

wow. this woman needs some therapy. or maybe, like teaandtoast said, she’s not a native and probably hasn’t lived here long enough to know that calling 911 for anything other than a serious, life-threatening (as opposed to quality-of-life-threatening) sitaution is not ok! oy!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Ha! My guess is that she’s not a native and doesn’t *quite* understand the concept of 911, but it’s still a humorous anecdote about how sometimes we lose our cool when we need to focus more on our relationship. Thanks!

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