(Closed) just engaged – advice for picking a date?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We picked the “5 Year Anniversary of Our First Date” as the day we’re getting married.  It happens to be on a Thursday, but we’re having a small destination wedding, and everyone will be traveling, so the day of the week didn’t matter.  We just went with the day we wanted, regardless of any other circumstances surrounding it. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We knew that we wanted to be married in August, no matter what. My birthday is in July and his is in September and we started dating in August…just made sense! As far as the day, we choose one that we could afford. We originally wanted to get married on the 12th (Friday) but that would of cost us $2800. A Saturday or Sunday costs $2300 and a Monday thru Thursday only cost $1500. Obviously we choose a Monday. 

So, that’s my advice: pick something that you can afford. The day shouldn’t really matter about who’s opinion. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would start by thinking about which year you want to get married in and how long of an engagement you’d like to have. Then, start thinking about what season you’d like to get married in. After that, start looking at places to get married and to hold a reception. Usually what dates the venues have available determines the exact date that you choose to go with.

We did that sort of differently–we too had very few times that were free to get married. I knew I had two weeks off from school this coming December, so we decided New Year’s Eve would be really fun. After that, we only looked at venues that had our date available and met our other requirements (would let us stay past midnight, didn’t charge extra for the holiday, would let us use our own caterer, etc).

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We chose ours for a few reasons. 1) We knew that we’d need about a year or so to save for the wedding (we were engaged in November 2009), so getting married this year was out of the question. We knew right off the bat it would have to be 2011. 2) Winters are brutal here, and a large majority of the guests are out of town. We wanted to make sure that none of our guests would have any weather issues traveling in for the wedding, so it had to be in the “nice weather months”. I knew long ago that I didn’t want to get married in the Summer, and Fall 2011 was just too long to wait, so Spring 2011 it was. 3) We originally wanted April, but my Aunt (who got engaged shortly before us) chose April 16, and I wanted to be sure that we weren’t too close to her date so that my family would not have a problem attending/traveling to both weddings. And finally 4) Once we chose May, we looked at dates. Most, if not all, of the venues we looked at give discounts for Fridays. Well, Friday the 13th was out (no need to tempt fate!) and Friday the 27th was out because it’s the Friday before Memorial Day.

 It’s a very personal choice, because there may be alot of factors that contribute to the date you choose. Congrats & good luck!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We chose ours as we both knew we wanted a summer wedding (we both hate winter) and I wanted to make sure my brother was home from Iraq and had time to readjust.  I also knew that we wanted it to correspond with a yearly trip we take to the Ozarks around the 4th of July.  The last week of June fit all of our needs perfectly.  Except for the fact that I forgot to check the dates for the College World Series, which is the same weekend and brings in about 100,000 more people into Omaha.  Making hotel rooms expensive and hard to find, traffic is a disaster, and the police are out in droves.  UGGGHHH, what was I thinking?

Suggestion – when you narrow down the where and when consider major events happening in the area.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

juliery: His family & friends are from FL (as is he) so I knew that any date that was in a cold/winter month just wouldn’t work. Many of them have never seen snow so I wouldn’t want to overwhelm them with how awful it can be here November-March, haahaa.

In response to your question to sapphire:

I’d recommend choosing a date before choosing any wedding or reception venues. I only say that because that was the very first question anyone asked us. Next question was the approximate guest amount, so be sure you have an estimation of that as well before you do any searching.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I asked my man to marry me last November. We didn’t want to get married this year because his mom was getting married in May. So we were looking at June 2011. 

BACKGROUND INFO**we’ve known each other all through highschool and college. We were constantly flirting with the idea that we would date. and when we FINALLY got the chance it was the most blissful time I’ve ever had – and still is. We’ve been living together for a few months now and we just don’t see any point in waiting until next June to officially tie the knot and for another reason listed below.**

We wanted to get married in June because that’s when we finally were able to start dating. But as we started looking into how untraditional we wanted to be, we ended up on deciding on THIS OCTOBOER! lol. So now I’m planning a Masquerade Ball for 200 people!! No Flowers, lots of friends to help me decorate on The Big Day and just a lot of fun. We also decided to move it to October because Halloween allows more adults the creativity to dress up and there are more costume shops open in the area in October. So more fun all around 😀 

 

Good luck on finding your date! There’s no right way to pick your date. I like the idea of having a big dress on in October   A LOT    more than having a big dress on in June. So attire might also come into helping you decide. 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I asked my man to marry me last November. We didn’t want to get married this year because his mom was getting married in May. So we were looking at June 2011. 

BACKGROUND INFO**we’ve known each other all through highschool and college. We were constantly flirting with the idea that we would date. and when we FINALLY got the chance it was the most blissful time I’ve ever had – and still is. We’ve been living together for a few months now and we just don’t see any point in waiting until next June to officially tie the knot and for another reason listed below.**

We wanted to get married in June because that’s when we finally were able to start dating. But as we started looking into how untraditional we wanted to be, we ended up on deciding on THIS OCTOBOER! lol. So now I’m planning a Masquerade Ball for 200 people!! No Flowers, lots of friends to help me decorate on The Big Day and just a lot of fun. We also decided to move it to October because Halloween allows more adults the creativity to dress up and there are more costume shops open in the area in October. So more fun all around 😀 

 

Good luck on finding your date! There’s no right way to pick your date. I like the idea of having a big dress on in October   A LOT    more than having a big dress on in June. So attire might also come into helping you decide. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Just a few things I’ve learned that might help:

You need at least a year to prepare.  Most bridal gowns take 9 months to come in once ordered.  Venues, churches, photographers, and DJs often get booked a year or more in advance.  If you decide you’re getting married in 6 months, you’ll find many vendors are already booked on your date.

Nothing can happen without a venue and an officiant, so your date will ultimately revolve around when your venue and officiant are free.  (If you’re getting married in a church, you’ll find that the church and pastor get booked very early.)

Saturdays between May – October are expensive days to get married because they’re in the highest demand (as well as some holidays).  Venues will have higher “food and beverage minimums,” DJs and photographers will charge more for their services, and hotels and honeymoon packages will cost more.  So if you’re on a budget, switching to a Friday or an off-season date will save you lots of cash.

Don’t get married at the same time as any big events or festivals in your city.

Whatever date you pick, you’ll find out someone in your extended family has something going on that day and won’t be able to make it, but don’t feel bad.  It’s impossible to find a date that works perfectly for everyone.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i originally wanted a specific date for our wedding (our dating anniversary) but when I realized a) how few weekends we actually had free b) I didn’t want a “high season” wedding and c) how many places were booked up so early, I came to the conclusion that the date didn’t really matter as long as we were getting married, and that date would then become important.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would set an approximate date that you want to get married and then go with the date that the venue you like has available. If you set the date too firmly, you might miss out on being able to get married at the venue of your choice (and yes, I think the venue is the most important thing to have nailed down in the planning. It determines everything else-the feel, the catering, the # of people you can have, etc.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We picked an awesome date!  I knew we had to wait after we got engaged so we can financially afford the wedding and I knew I wanted a December wedding.  Cold, poinsettias, Xmas decorations…….NICE!!! So we picked a cool date, 12/11/10.  It was 2.4 years after getting engaged.  Also, FI has NO excuse for forgetting the anniversary.

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