Post # 1
I don’t want to give a lot of details because I didn’t tell my whole family yet and they might find me on here–stranger things have happened. Okay so I’m just plain paranoid.
Anyway, I got engaged yesterday and I am a freaking mess. I’m so so happy, like ‘happy cry’, happy. But I’m also soo nervous to tell my extended family. I’m on the young side and I dont think they’ll have the reaction I want. They’ll be happy for me but a little sad I’m so young. I’m confident of my decision but their opinion matters a lot to me and I worry about others happiness before my own.
My parents are happy I guess. A little sad that I’m young but…I don’t know. Its complicated I guess?
Post # 5
No matter the age you can’t expect people to have a certain reaction. If they have a poor reaction that’s on them not you. Other people’s judgements are not a reflection of who you are.
Post # 7
First, congrats on your engagement! And I agree, no matter what your age, if they aren’t happy for you then thats on them. And you mentioned you are young and there is NOTHING wrong with being engaged and young, BUT you may get reactions that seem rude or that people aren’t supporting you but deep down know that they just want the best for you and may not know how to voice their concerns in a productive matter so to speak.
Post # 8
@OrigamiLove: Do you think you’re too young? I think thats the more important question. My parents were surprised because I got engaged at 20 (we had been together for 4 years so it shouldn’t have been a surprise but whatever), but I knew I had been ready for a long time, and once I explained that to them they felt much better about it. I think they were just concerned because my Fiance is older (a whole 2 years lol) so they didn’t want me to be pressured into getting married. Which I wasn’t. And once they understood that they were much happier.
Post # 9
I’m 23. I’ll be 24 when we’re married and we’ve been together 4 years. I don’t feel too young and I’m not really asking my family’s permission– I’m confident of my decision. I just want everyone to be as happy as I am!
Post # 10
@OrigamiLove: They will be, it just takes a little while for some people. And honestly from your post I thought you were 17. 23 is definately old enough to get married, and I think you will get more positive feedback from your extended family than you expect, especially because those who are older probably got engaged around the same age as you are now. Plus after 4 years together it really shouldn’t be a surprise, and it sounds like you’re not having a super short engagement, so they can’t accuse you of rushing to the alter.
Post # 11
You’re not too young. I’m 22 and will be getting engaged in a month or so. I get the same reactions from some people though. Just shake them off, you and your SO have been together for a reasonable period of time and you know the decision is right. That’s all that matters. My parents were also worried until they understood that I’m not feeling pressured, I really am confident in my decision and this is what I really want. Then they became supportive.
Post # 13
I understand your fear, I’m twenty and telling my parents I was engaged was so scary because I didn’t know if they’d get upset. They reacted really well, much better than I expected, so maybe your family will surprise you as well? Extended family can always be a little catty because they’re not as close to you and your nuptuals can be viewed as gossip (or at least that’s how it is in my family! lol), but really, as long as your parents are happy it shouldn’t matter much what they think 🙂
Post # 14
Your 23 and probably done with college and working on your career and have a long stable relationship. I doubt they will think your too young.
Post # 15
@OrigamiLove: You’re not too young at all. Your parents are probably just sad that they are ‘losing’ you. They will adjust, and congratulations!
Post # 16
@OrigamiLove: You are not too young in the slightest – I think you should just reiterate to them what you have told us and you will be fine. Congrats on your engagement