Post # 1
My man popped the question on the 4th of July over morning coffee!! I’m so excited and have always loved this site! I’m a new member to Wedding Bee, and can’t wait to start planning!!
Here’s my first question-we are looking into a Spring 2010 wedding (April or May)..obviously we are going to book the reception and church very soon (b/c the Long Island/NYC venues book up insanely fast)..but how soon is too soon to book photographers/flowers/etc??
Also I’m dying to go to try on dresses-is it way too early?? I have a hook up at Kleinfelds, but I wouldn’t go there until I’m ready to make final decisions, so basically I would go somewhere else to try on different dress styles…when do I start doing this?
Post # 3
My advice – enjoy your engagement and take it slow. Determine a budget, think about a "scheme" with colors, ideas, etc. You don’t want to drive yourself and your new Fiance nuts with planning things almost two years out. Some places won’t even book things this early. Congrats!
Post # 4
I’m planning my vow renewal for two years from now…a little over two years in fact (August 2010) and even though my venue has my date on hold, I can’t sign a contract until December. That is because they want to be able to jack up the price again for the new year, but oh well, my venue has very special meaning to us, so it’s just something we’ll have to deal with. I am dying to start doing more though! You might run into the same problems, but maybe not. I see no issue with you starting to research venues, etc. but maybe do it on your own so you won’t burn anybody else out. Have fun.
Post # 5
we planned a wedding for 70 in manhattan in 10 months. in fact, even though i had planned ahead with my dress and everything, i ended up getting a second dress (sample, at kleinfeld’s) with two months to go – and i LOVED the dress! Basically, i’m telling you that it’s possible and that you don’t have to rush – jma19 has it right, ENJOY being engaged!
Post # 6
Congrats & enjoy this time!!!
We got engaged in April 05 and had a June 07 wedding on Long Island. I moved during summer of ’05 so we took care of getting the church and reception before I left. Honestly, it was a great move for us because we ended up locking in better prices (I also found my gown but that was entirely by accident!- but it was good because I got cheaper prices for the alterations & bustle)
Florist we reserved a year ahead of time (M & F Florist in Central Islip- they are awesome!!!)- photographer we got about 6 months ahead.
Post # 7
We had a long engagment too… 18 months.
I would definitely enjoy the engagement period and maybe focus on an engagement party?
A few words of advice… first of all get your families together (or together seperately) and set a date. People will drive you crazy with this question and "yes dear" jokes.
Then talk budget.
THEN start looking around at vendors.
You WILL change your mind several times ( I know I did!!!) so don’t commit just yet.
On the dress… I would really wait… keep an eye for ones you like but remember each season brings out a new line that you may like even better.
I became overwhelmed very quickly.. the thing that really helped em out was the library. there are TONS of wedding planning books, and even though they may really 80’s they have great charts, tables, lists ETC to copy.
Post # 8
I know the last thing you want to hear is "just enjoy it and take it slow for a bit" because I HATED hearing it too – I was a planning monster right off the bat.
Here’s my suggestions…try on some dresses but don’t buy anything yet – styles can change and so will your ideas. I did buy too soon, like days later, I hated the dress 2 weeks later and am now stuck with 2 – one I can’t unload to save my life….ugh! (TallBride has a great point!)
A photographer can be booked early, in your area it might be a good idea to start researching and making calls.
Flowers, well you can wait on those for awhile but resarch, again never a bad thing.
Get the budget going, things like that and even WAIT to pick bridesmaids! seriously this was my biggest issue I asked them, and then all hell borke loose and I ended up having to boot one! Not fun.
Have fun and congrats!
Post # 9
Congratulations! I got engaged at the end of May, and I already have a site and a photographer.
In fact, my photographer was already booked for my date and we needed to change our date to a week earlier. (and this was 12 months prior to the wedding)!
First things first though, without a budget you shouldn’t pick vendors or sign contracts.
Good luck and have fun!
Post # 10
You are all awesome! Thank you!!
Would you even believe that after being engaged a mere 7 hours people started asking when??? I was like…"huh!?!?"
We are going away to Curacao in 3 weeks, and after we come back we’ll be introducing the families and then figuring out budgets, researching, etc..
I will definitely keep you girls posted. Thanks again!
Post # 11
If you want to try on a lot of gowns to get a feel for what style you want, try
RK Bridal Salon on West 39th between 8th and 9th has a wide variety of dresses. Not a fancy salon and the salesperson was very easy to work with.
Wedding Atelier on Fifth Avenue between 17th and 18th Avenue http://www.weddingatelier.com/ Dresses were affordable. You need an appointment. They do ask you to remove your shoes when you enter so wear some socks.
Lestans in Brooklyn used to be good, but friends of mine had unpleasant experiences with the salespeople.
David’s Bridal 3500 48th St., nr. Northern Blvd., Long Island City; 718-784-8200 (the one in Brooklyn closed). It’s a huge store and you can try a ton of dresses on.
Macys in Herald Square has a lot of dresses you can try on. Most of the dresses are very fancy and heavy
* Be ready to tell the salesperson a date for the wedding – make one up if you need to because they will ask and if you say you don’t have a date, they won’t be as helpful. Also call ahead and ask if they want you to have an appointment.
– Also when you go, make sure you and whoever you take with you has eaten because it is annoying to look for dresses and be hungry.
Post # 12
I agree with taking it slow; there have been many brides on weddingbee that have lost their venues and vendors becauseof booking too soon. That said, you also need to not wait until the last minute. Many venues and vendors raise their prices each year and/or change their packages. I am so glad I booked our venue 9 months in advance and signed a contract, because now they no longer include the cocktail hour and alcohol in their pricing.
Post # 13
Congratulations! A couple of pieces of advice that I would pass on:
– If your budget allows, find a great wedding coordinator you can work with. This was a huge lifesaver for me and I wish that I had found one earlier in my planning process!
– If you are looking for great photographers in the NYC/Long Island area (I got married out on Long Island) I would highly recommend Erich Camping. Visit http://www.campingphoto.com . You’ll actually see the tease photos from our wedding posted on his blog–we’re the post on June 19th.
– I was a two dress bride so I would also emphasize the comments on waiting about the dress
– I would also strongly emphasize getting clear about finances with everyone’s family from the beginning AND getting any contributions up front so you know exactly how much cash you’re working with.
Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
Post # 14
Thanks to my New York Gals for great suggestions!!
Post # 15
Congrats, Mirabella! I just recently got engaged too, about 2 weeks ago. I don’t understand how the first words out of people’s mouths is "Congrats, have you set a date?" I can’t believe the number of people who have asked this.
We were planning on relaxing a bit before jumping into things, but it certainly hasn’t happened that way. We haven’t book anything, but we’re trying to get families to figure out guest lists so we have an idea of number and then can figure out budget and venues.
Good luck and congrats!
Post # 16
Congrats! You’ve got PLENTY of time, which is great; you get the chance to really do some investigating and get a sense of what you like before you’ve got to book anything. I had a 22 month engagement and wasn’t able to book anything til 12 months out due to vendor constraints, which was a little frustrating. However, I was able to know exactly what I wanted, so I booked the photographer, venue, and caterer right off the bat. Now I have more time to hammer out little details, which is fantastic.