- 6 years ago
I admit I am a little worried that people here will rip me to shreds, but I just feel like I want to vent and need a little support.
This is my issue:
I live in a large city which means I live about an hour away from my family. I have lived in this part of town for about 10 years. My fiance’s family lives near here, too. When we decided to get married near where I live, my family kept hinting that it was inconvenient and I should marry closer to them. It hurt my feelings but stuck my ground because my church is near where I live and that was important to me. They eventually dropped it, though it hurt that my wedding wasn’t being celebrated with excitement but with “why can’t you just marry HERE since it more convenient”…(with no acknowledgement that would be more inconvenient for ME, my fiance, and his family)
Fast Forward several months. I am learning that my sisters (who are my Maids of Honors), plan on getting their hair done by a person they are familiar with (not the problem). That would not be a big deal to me as I could care less about their hair but the person is an hour away from where they live in the direction away from me(which means 2 hours away from where my wedding is). Due to the logistics of where they are getting their hair done, it basically means by the time they get their hair done, go home, get ready, drive up to my wedding, I will have spend the entire day alone.
When I heard their plan, I cried but said nothing. Eventually, my fiance suggested I offered to pay for them to get their hair done up here so we can spend the day together, but they declined saying it was important to them to have her do it. Since I am having no friends in my wedding party, I am basically spending the entire day alone. I know I can’t force them to get ready with me, but it hurts that they don’t care that I will be alone. This hair dresser is notoriously slow and late, so I worry they won’t even make it to my wedding early enough to even take pictures ahead of time like planned. They are always notoriously late, as well.
I know I can’t force them to do anything but show up, but it’s my SISTERS and it just hurts that they realize I will be alone all day and still don’t care. I know I can’t say anything, but it just hurts.
I think what hurts more is that when my sister got married, we all spent the night with her and spent the entire day together. I will be lucky if they even show up on time.
I feel stuck. I tried to hint as subtly as I can by offering to pay for them to do it with me and pointed out how fun it would be, but they said “no”. I can’t force them, so what do I do?
Let’s be honest, no bride dreams about spending her whole wedding day alone getting ready? Am I wrong?