Post # 1
I found out one of FI’s good friends just got engaged after being with a girl for 3 months (???). I just can’t for the life of me be happy for them because I don’t see how they could possibly know each other well enough to make that decision. They are still in that “new” phase where they are always so happy and lovey dovey. Fiance and I have been together six years and it’s reached the “comfortable” phase. I just see them and feel a little jealous. He wrote on his facebook page how he’s engaged to a stunning, smart, sexy woman and couldn’t be happier. Fiance is kind of a laid back guy and never says that stuff about me. I don’t know…just feeling jealous and down and trying to be happy for my friend, but I just can’t. : Anyone experience this?
Post # 3
I’ve been there and the great thing is you have the boards to get it out because we all know we couldn’t do it in real life. I got like this when FI’s sister got engaged after a couple of months. Like I put my time into my relationship in order to get an engagement and my fiance worked hard to buy me a ring and they had one given to them. I think it’s just human to feel this way when we don’t understand other’s choices. But unfortunately everyone makes their own decisions.
Post # 4
There’s going to be so many things like this in life that will make you feel as though you’re catching the raw end of the deal- and yes it’s natural to feel that way. But, I can tell you that the grass is not always greener and sometimes you are shocked when you see how good your life is compared to other situations. For example, I once knew a couple where the husband would shampoo the wife’s hair and actually even do her color for her. They spent intimate time doing spa things… I was so jealous! Turns out, he left her and flip-flopped for the next few years between changing his sex, or being satisfied with wearing women’s clothing. Not jealous anymore! No, no, no.
Post # 5
Ahh hun, i’ve SO been there as well, and it’s hard. Seeing good friends get engaged and make steps so quickly that you haven’t made yet and the facebook sweetness. I see friends of mine leave cute things on their SO’s walls, and eventhough i know it’s stupid and very grade 8 of me, i admit I get really envious.
But like PP’s said, the grass is not always greener – i bet there is great stuff your SO does that others don’t do, try focusing on what you do have, and not what you don’t. It’s way too easy to get caught up on things we’re missing, we oftentimes forget to appreciate what it is we do have. You have a 6-year long relationship – how many people can say that?!