Post # 1
Hi bees –
Feel really defeated right now. Been going over budget with Fiance, and it just seems like a lot of my dreams about the wedding are being whittled away, piece by piece, due to budget problems. I’m out of work right now, Fiance is underemployed, and it seems like the wrong time to plan a wedding. But we’ve just sent out Save-The-Date Cards, and are going ahead with planning, even though it feels this way. Trying to figure out a honeymoon of some sort on very little money is disheartening; I realize I should just be happy to marry Fiance, who I love dearly, but there were apparently parts of this wedding thing that mean a lot to me, and it’s hard letting go of them.
We’ve talked about postponing, but that didn’t happen. Feels too late to do that now. I guess I’m more or less venting, just needed to.
Post # 3
*hugs* I’m sure that it’s definitely pushing down on you. Is there something you can find that’s not in your field just to get through for now? Seasonal holiday work or a waitressing gig, that type of thing for some extra cash to bring back a few of your favorite parts of the wedding? Just remember when you’re down, that at the end of the day, marrying your Fiance is the best part of the wedding, the rest is extra.
Post # 4
The same thing happened to a couple that I know, they scaled down the wedding and it was wonderful! By far the best wedding I had gone to all year. It was nice and simple, and it was very clear that the wedding was really about the bride and groom and their love for each other.
Post # 5
You can still have a fun honeymoon in maybe a city close by to where you live. Just go to a city that is within driving distance stay at a nicer hotel one night and motel 6 the next. You can still have fun! Just enjoy eachother and the city. You have the rest of your lives together to go on fancy vacations.
Also selling stuff on craigslist or ebay can earn you some extra cash. Just get rid of ALL you clutter, clothes you dont wear, kitchen aids you dont use. Dollars add up. If you sell 1,000 things for $1 you got $1,000.
Post # 6
I know budget’s can be very stressful. Sometimes scaling it down can make the wedding more intimate and more memorable. I hope things get worked out, and your wedding is everything you want it to be with you Fiance by your side 🙂
Post # 7
Hugs to you, I know it’s rough. A lot of engaged couples are facing those circumstances these days as well as you two. You may think it’s taking the fun out of planning now, but I really think when that day comes, and you’re putting on that dress and walking to see your groom at the other end of the room, nothing else will really matter. Keep your spirts up and your creative minds working. They’ll be so much joy and love in the air from your family and friends on your wedding day.
Post # 8
Thank you all so much! I can’t tell you how much the support means; this is an amazing group, truly. Update: I thought about some of what was troubling me, am working on just letting go of it, and after reading a lot of posters mention Conscious Bride, just read some really helpful stuff about transitions, and the grief/anxiety that are reasonable. Also got love/support on this from Fiance, which always makes things better :). Whew!
Post # 9
@karenski: I’m so glad you’re feeling better, I say this because we are dealing with some of the same circumstances. I’ve found that looking at the whole picture of marrying the love of my life matters a lot more then little details (favors, ect.) and it will all work out. Leaning on the FI’s is the best thing we have!!! Men are so simple, I think they calm us down when we get caught up in small things. They love us unconditionally!!! Best of luck to you Karenski!