Just for fun: Does your SO help to make you a better person?

posted 4 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I have a horrendous temper. I like my alone time and I burn out on people easily. My husband is the first and only person that makes me want to set my temper aside, that I want to be with wishes I’m burned out; that I NEVER tire of. He is the most genuinely kind person you will ever meet and makes me strive to be worthy of that everyday. I am the epitome of the fiery Irish and he balances me without excusing my behavior when I’m being a brat. We spent the first 4 years of our relationship long distance and he encouraged me to explore all job opportunities and I did the same for him, and now we’ve come to a place where we bought a house that accommodated his job and knowing I’ll commute. He makes a lot more than I do and I will eventually be able to change jobs (teacher) whereas his is more fixed. But if I woke up tomorrow and wanted to pursue a more difficult job I have no doubt he’d support me and visa versa. But our lives and values have come together very naturally. 

Post # 17
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yes in too many ways to list. He’s my biggest fan and makes me feel so powerful! 

Post # 18
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Oh my gosh. Yes. He believes in me, more than I do, really, and is working his butt off so I can be free to pursue my “dream” work which doesn’t pay regularly at all. If at all …

He believes in my work that much, that he’s told me it would be a complete tragedy and waste of time to get a “normal” job, 

And it blows my mind. I feel so grateful to be the woman he chose. 

Post # 19
1204 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan

sharpshooter :  I have periods of “less than optimal mental health” and he is always there for me, comforting me and picking up the slack whith the household and often having our son a bit more than me if I’m really exhausted.

He also supporten the whole family for o while so I could stay home longer with our son (we each get about nine months payed leave but I stayed home for over a year before he took over), and now when I’m studying again he also takes on most of the financial burden.

He also helps me with motivation and encouragement when I doubt myself.

Its very hard to give him justice in writing, but I am so much better because of him. 

Post # 20
1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

sharpshooter :  he’s supportive of me but not unconditionally. Some of the things I want to do aren’t always sensible. Sometimes he also tries to be supportive in a way that doesn’t actually help. For example I want a new job but I’m very specific in what I want and will stick with my current job until I find a role that is right. My husband keeps telling me to go to a recruitment consultant but the area I’m in is very niche and consultants just won’t get what I do. He thinks I’m being stubborn and I could go to a specialist recruitment for what I currently do but I want to change sectors. 

However, he brings out the best in my personality. His personality works well with mine to suppress my negative personality traits. With my ex, we were friends first but we when started dating we somehow drew out the worst of each other’s personalities out.

Post # 21
106 posts
Blushing bee

I am an anxious emotional over thinker and my partner is basically a logical computer. We help each other out. He keeps me nice and calm and grounded (I compare myself to living with a very flighty rescue deer) and I point out when he’s being a git and hurting peoples feelings (usually mine) 

I support his music. He helps me set up my gaming streams. 

So I guess it’s kinda a two way thing? But he definitely makes me a better person 

Post # 22
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Yes. Our relationship has made me calmer and happier with myself which means I can give more love to the world around me. I can be more helpful to my friends, I can be more supportive of my pupils and colleagues. Just knowing that he has my back helps me be the best version of me.

Post # 23
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Absolutely! In more ways than I could possibly list, but the most important is that he’s made me better at love. Not just romantically, but all around. I’ve become a better friend, a better daughter, a better sister. I’ve even become better at loving myself. He is so patient and forgiving of the worst in me, but inspires the best of me truly by example. I feel like I’m constantly learning from him, even though he never lectures or makes me feel less than. He’s the best 💕

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