Post # 1
During my 6 tours of duty as a bridesmaid, and now while planning my own wedding, I have always wondered how the couples decided how to pair up their attendants for the processional/recessional. I’ve seen some where it was done by height (i.e. tallest bridesmaid walks out with tallest groomsman, and so on down the line), and some where they tried to match up the people they thought would get along best.
When my brother and sister-in-law got married, I asked which groomsman would be my escort, assuming it would be the shortest guy since I’m only 5’2. To my surprise, they said they were pairing me up with “Joe” (not his real name) who was one of the taller groomsmen. When I asked why, they told me that it was because Joe’s wife (who was not in the weddding party) was extremely jealous, so they figured I’d be the least likely to piss her off because I was the groom’s older sister and have known Joe since he was a kid.
We used several different methods. We have a few already established couples so obviously they’ll stick together, and the rest we paired up by personality. My FI’s girl-crazy 13 year old son is a groomsman, so we actually let him pick a bridesmaid based on their Facebook pictures! And since we have a groomswoman, we have two groups of 3. So how are you pairing up your bridal party?
Post # 3
I voted personality, but we did use a combination of things. My brother and SIL were both in the wedding, so we paired them up for obvious reasons, but we mostly paired them up to who would get along best with who.
For example, I knew one of my husband’s groomsmen was someone who would do or say outrageous things to get a reaction out of people…so I paried him with my roommate. She’s the most even keel kind of gal, and nothing really upsets her. So just in case he didn’t behave, she would just laugh at him.
Two other of my gals were paired based on their height with groomsmen. He had a really short guy, and I didn’t want one of my BMs to tower over him, so I paried him with one of my shorter gals…
Post # 4
I didn’t feel right asking my friend who is a lesbian to walk on the arm of a guy, so our two guys were to walk out together (not on each others’ arm) then girls were to walk out together (ditto). Our wedding coordinator took it upon herself to have them go out one-by-one. Not a big deal though…it was just as nice, and there were only 4 attendants total.
Post # 5
We had one married couple, who we let walk together (obv.), one pair who knew each other (my cousin + my brother), and two “leftovers” who walked together.
Post # 6
2 of ours were couples, so those were a given.
The rest were based on height/ ones we thought would get along great.
Post # 7
We aren’t pairing ours up, because I always hated it when I was in the bridal party. The men will be at the front of the church, and the girls will walk in alone. At the reception during the bridal party dance the attendants will dance with their spouses/dates not with one another.
Post # 8
Haha…Fiance and I have talked about this several times, and we have so many DIFFERENT personalities in our bridal party that we decided to pair them up with who we’d get a kick out of seeing interacting with each other.
Example: Maid/Matron of Honor is an extreme right-winger, best man is a gay democrat. They’ve actually met on several occasions and really hit it off.
Post # 9
We are the last ones in our families to get married. 3 kids on each side. So we asked our sisters and their husbands to stand up so that they could all walk in together. The remaining 6 friends will be paired up according to height and my daughter who will be 14 at the time will go solo halfway up the aisle and wait to walk me the remainder.
Another things is we are having a huge banquet table for the wedding party so that the spouses/sig other of the bridal party can sit together. I cannot stand being at a wedding where my Fiance is sitting at the bridal party table and I am off at some random table. Just nice to enjoy it together as opposed to some flirty Bridesmaid or Best Man thinking she can get my man! haha