Just for fun – how do you split up duties between you and your SO?

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 16
2680 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

My husband cooks probably 4 nights of the week (and we eat it out probably once a week so I actually only cook maybe twice a week). He also does dishes most of the time too. 

We each do our own laundry & if anything, he’s more consistent about it. He’ll do a load here & there, where as I prefer to do it all in one day/weekend.

Otherwise, I do most of the other cleaning & chores, but it feels fair. My husband works 4 10s & is generally home by 3:00pm everyday & I’m not usually home until at least 6:00pm M-F so it all seems to work out for lifestyle & current schedule. ☺

Oh & I walk the dog every morning, my husband walks the dog when he gets home from work, & we walk the dog together in the evenings. Although, on the weekends I usually walk the dog in the morning & afternoon, but I love it & try take the dog out as much as I can!

Post # 17
3291 posts
Sugar bee

I’m a fulltime student (online) and my load is around 30hrs a week, Darling Husband works 50-60hours per week. 

I do everything inside – cooking, dishes, cleaning, looking after our pets, laundry, grocery shopping, manage the finances, pay bills etc, and any other random household errands.

Darling Husband takes the garbage out, bins out, maintains the yard, washes the cars, and any other odd jobs that need doing around the house.

Obviously things will change when I’m also working outside of the home, or when we have kids.

Post # 18
9044 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I sit on the couch eating cool ranch doritos and supervise whilst he dons a french maids outfit and cleans the house top to bottom.

After all that exhaustion I retire to the pool deck and admire Jonathon the pool boy and Jamie the gardener as they tend to the outside. It is a hard job but someon’s got to do it.


(I do most of the inside cleaning except the vacuuming and all the cooking since my husband can burn water and he does all the outside stuff including growing a lot of our food because I have black rather than green thumbs. We have a lovely lady who comes to clean the oven because that job sucks and neither of us would claim it as a me job).


Post # 19
1361 posts
Bumble bee

Me: Shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, pet care, gifting, manage/plan social calendar & travel, tend to garden, hire/manage service or repair people. Garbage & recycling. Furniture assembly.

Him: Snow removal, planting of garden, manages finances, some lawn care (have a service for grass cutting). Pest control. Takes care of our bikes and outdoor equipment and furniture.  Does all the summer grilling. 

Both: errands- I do the more frequent ones like dry cleaners, he tends to do less frequent ones like Costco runs or car washes.  And he will make returns for me.  I don’t know why but I hate returning things to the store, it’s like the worst chore ever for me.  He will do it for me half the time.  We both change lightbulbs & kill spiders. 

I work part time and he works full time. 

Post # 20
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

He does 100% of the cooking & grocery shopping. He does 100% of the yard work. He does 100% of the sweeping/vacuuming. 

We split laundry 50/50 (though I probably do more). I clean the bathrooms. We do 50/50 on taking the trash out. 

He does a whole lot more than I do at home for a few reasons. 1. I work full time & am in my master’s program  full time while he works full time.   2. I have a back injury and am in constant pain. 3. His teenage daughters are picky eaters & I refuse to cater to their food whims – so he cooks.

We are happy with these arrangements. 

Post # 21
2128 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We cook together. He does the dishes and cleans the kitchen. He takes care of the recycling. We split taking out the trash. We have housecleaners come once/month for the big chores. I do the laundry and the grocery shopping. He makes the bed and cleans the litter boxes. We pretty much split the every day cleaning activities like wiping off the counters are sweeping. 

Post # 22
123 posts
Blushing bee

I do all the cooking aside from microwave foods or ready-prepped food like frozen chicken strips. I love to cook so this doesn’t bother me and he has never once complained about what I put in front of him. If I’m tired he’s happy with Kraft Mac and Cheese. I do 75% of the grocery shopping on my own but again, he doesn’t complain about what I buy or don’t buy, so it’s fine.

I do most of the cleaning with any chemicals as they bother him. I also do most of the vaccuming. Really, I do most of the household chores but he’s always there to help me whenever I ask with whatever I ask so I don’t mind.

He folds laundry, makes the bed, takes out garbages and loads and unloads the dishwasher. His chores are more frequent daily tasks and mine are bigger deep clean tasks. When we have a yard to maintain that will be his job in large part.

Post # 23
9211 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

He does all the cooking, grocery shopping, and taking out the trash/recycling. I do all the laundry. 

For most everything else (dishes, taking care of kitty, errands, etc.), we either do it together or whoever happens to have time when it has to get done takes care of it. Our cleaners who come every other week do the brunt of the cleaning, but I probably do the majority of tidying up before they come.

We both work FT, but my hours are more unpredictable (and usually worse).

Post # 24
182 posts
Blushing bee

We don’t really split too precisely. I do do the laundry 100% of the time though, unless I am out of town for weeks at a time. I also do most of the cleaning but he’ll often want to help when he sees me starting up. He makes more than me currently because I am working on my PhD, so he pays more of the rent and usually does more of the grocery shopping; in return, I do more cleaning of the apartment in general and all the laundry. I am also a neat freak though, so I like to clean! Sometimes I cook, sometimes he cooks and we usually work on the dishes together, unless we leave them to the next morning, in which case I will usually do them because he heads out to work very early. I always make the bed though and he basically never does haha. 

Post # 25
571 posts
Busy bee

My fiancé does most of the cooking at the moment as it’s summer here & we bbq a lot. I do the dishes.

he does the garden & maintenance work on house. We are starting to renovate. I do a lot of the cleaning & he will help tidy up. 

I do the grocery shopping alone but prefer it that way.

i do more around the house but he pays for a lot more so I’m happy. Works for us ❤️❤️

Post # 26
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom. I do 99.9% of the housework & 100% of the cooking.  If I’m having an eh day, he’ll clean the kitchen & he takes out the trash. He works 50 hrs/wk. It works for us.

Post # 27
1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

mikaylaauel : I don’t think having a cooking husband is abnormal nowadays. My father did all of the cooking when I was growing up and now my Darling Husband does all of the cooking for our household. I can cook, I just don’t tend to unless it’s a holiday.

Darling Husband does 100% of the cooking and cleanup after.

I do 100% of the cleaning and laundry (unless I’m sick).

I manage all of the finances and pay all bills.

We do 50 / 50% grocery shopping.

Darling Husband does 100% of car repairs or handyman type stuff.

Post # 28
2049 posts
Buzzing bee

I lucked out, Darling Husband does alal the cooking, the majority of the grocery shopping, all yardwork/home repairs, does his fair share of laundry and also does a lot of cleaning– all without complaining!! 

I do the deeper cleaning stuff, laundry, we both do dishes and general tidying up.I dust, that is about the only thing he doesn’t think or care to do as much.

Post # 29
5564 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

We generally share most things.  He is solely responsible for taking out the bin because we tend to do it before bed and i’m already in comfy clothes.  

We do the food shop together on Sundays and we tend to do general tidying together. In the evening we put on some music and do a quick wizz round the flat while chatting.  Most of the time we cook together, except when I am hangry and then I just start dinner as I get home first and then he does the washing up. 

Post # 30
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

We got lucky and just do the chores we “prefer” and each seems to prefer the opposite. Ie: I’ve rarely cleaned the bathroom and I’m not sure I’ve ever seen him use the vacuum. 

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