Just for fun! How long did you wait post-wedding for a baby?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
  • poll: How long did you wait after the wedding to start trying for a baby?
    Less than a year : (54 votes)
    45 %
    1-2 years : (28 votes)
    24 %
    3-5 years : (26 votes)
    22 %
    Greater than 5 years : (11 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 61
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    We plan on waiting a long time, definitely 5+ years. I’ll be 20 & FH will be 22 when we get married this June and we want to be well established and, hopefully, have a house built before we have a baby. Ideally we’ll be closer to 30 when we TTC.

    My oldest sister was 20 and got pregnant on her honeymoon because they couldn’t wait for a baby. Other sister was 19 and started TTC ~6 months after the wedding. They each had their second baby about three years after their first! 

    Post # 62
    Member
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    3.5 years after the wedding! We were 27 (me) and 34 (dh) when we got married but I definitely wasn’t ready for babies until I was 30. We had three and half wonderful years of holidays and socialising which I felt was important and also gave me time to settle into a new job which coincidently had a great maternity leave policy if you stayed with the company for over two years. Darling Husband probably would have had kids a little sooner due to his age but we found a time that was right for both of us and I’m glad we waited until we were both 100% ready. 

    Post # 63
    Member
    1002 posts
    Bumble bee

    We will celebrate our 5th anniversary in August and, assuming no major changes, plan on trying in October or November.  I was 24 & he was 27 when we got married.  We both went to graduate school.  So at this point, we’ve both finished school, traveled, bought a house, have stable jobs, etc.  We feel closer to ready.  It’s funny because we always said we wanted to wait 5 years, but as we got closer to that 5-year mark we started thinking we wanted to wait longer – but now that it is here, it feels right.  I’m surprised so many people had babies so early on in their marriages but I guess it makes sense given the average age people get married now.  I’m grateful for the time I’ve had with just Darling Husband and wouldn’t change it.  

    Post # 64
    Member
    2626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

    Got married at the end of April last year, came off the pill last week. We won’t be charting or temping for the time being, just going to see what happens. We have recently had pay rises and we own our own home, so it makes sense to us. Also, my brother has just had another child and my Sister is due in about a week so we thought it would be nice if our child could have cousins the same sort of age (I’m the youngest by 8 years and brother and sister have both said these kids will be their last) 

     

    Post # 65
    Member
    3028 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    We’ve been married just a few months over a year. We most likely won’t start TTC until I’m finished with school and find a position in my field of study. I’d also like to be at least 28 before starting to TTC. So, that will probably be another 2-3 years at which point I’ll be 28/29 in terms of finishing my education (so probably 3-4 years after marriage assuming I don’t face any complications TTC). Several factors I already know of will make pregnancy higher risk so we’ll see.

    Post # 66
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    1716 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We’re an older couple(36 and38) and at first,  we planned to wait a year, but after talking to several friends who tried to conceive at my age and a couple that did conceive at my age and had MCs (im 36), we’ve decide to let nature take its course.  In other words,  we aren’t going to use BC,  but we arent going to focus on fertility cycles, etc,  for the first year.  If we get pregnant in that time,  great,  if not,  we’ll get tests done you see if something is getting in the way. 

    We are both established in our careers,  have a house, and there are a couple other couples in our families trying for babies in the next year and as a PP said,  it’s fun to have cousins born close together. 

    Post # 67
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    1122 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    We are planning to start in another year or two. I am feeling baby fever/emotionally ready now (we got married Sept 2017, we’re both 31 now) but we want to move to a different state (where my company has an office and cost of living is a lot cheaper than in our current city) and either buy a house or be well on our way to buying one before we have kids. Darling Husband will have to find a new job when we relocate so he’s doing some professional certifications trainings. I think it’s good that we’ve agreed on some financial goals to meet before we take that next step, but I definitely don’t want to wait too long. Not only do I worry about fertility issues, I find that the older I get the less patience and energy I have! DH agrees with this timeline, more or less. He says things all the time like “I can’t wait to see you with our kids” and imagines them coming to wake us up in the morning and cuddle. But his parents had him when they were really really young, and he grew up in a pretty unstable home, so he’s very concerned about being able to provide for our kids and have a stable, secure home for them. Which may translate into saving longer before starting our family. Luckily we aren’t getting pressure from our families, probably because they already have grandkids. DH’s younger brother stayed in the midwest and already has 4 kids under 5. My brother has a baby. I’m simultaneously so eager and excited, and so nervous about being pregnant, so maybe it’s a good thing that we’re taking more time to prepare.

    Post # 68
    Member
    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Darling Husband and I have been married almost 4 years and are just about to start TTC. We’re 30 (me)/33 (him). We didn’t technically/officially live together before marriage, though I basically had moved in because I was over all the time, ha. We waited to start TTC because we had a lot of things we wanted to do (travel, enjoy each other’s company without kids, save money, etc) and Darling Husband wasn’t ready yet. Now he is and I couldn’t be more excited. 🙂 

    Post # 69
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    932 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    We got married in Sept and right now plan is to stop NOT trying in december/january so about 1.5 years after

    We are going to Europe in Sept and thats a big trip we really want to do pre pregnancy and I have zero want to do that pregnant

    and my year at new company will be end of nov and Im hoping to be promoted to a senior analyst from an analyst. I would really like to be a senior when i get pregnant 

    I am 27 my husband is 33

    Post # 70
    Member
    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We got married last Sumer (2017) starteed trying immediately. Still no luck but we’re going to keep on trying!

    Post # 71
    Member
    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    We started NTNP right after our wedding (end of 2017), but decided that we will start seriously TTC after our trip to Europe in June. Keeping my fingers crossed everything goes smoothly, I‘d love to be pregnant by my 30th birthday at the end of the year 

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