Just for fun – Language

posted 5 months ago in Intercultural
Post # 2
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799 posts
Busy bee

They speak Hindi. No I haven’t bothered to learn. Been together 2.5 years.  Picked up some basic words.  

Sometimes I think I should learn.  I don’t like not knowing what they are talking about.  

We all speak English so that makes it easy for me.

Post # 3
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

My husband HATED afrikaans in high school and almost failed the subject. Then met me… My family speaks afrikaans lol. He has made a great effort to learn though and is getting a lot better, but isn’t fluent. My family do speak slower around him though, and sometimes translate so he can follow. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We I was already relatively fluent in his language before we started dating as I live in his country.  he spoke English but struggled with british english at first, and me speaking with my natural accent was out of the question!

I have no problem with his family but his Dad sometimes speaks slowly because he can’t wrap his head around a foreigner speaking their language.

My family never slowed down because they didn’t realise he wasn’t following and were so excited to meet him. (if anything they sped up and used our local dialect! but SO got along great with everyone and i just help when he needs it!)

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I’m English and my husband is Thai. When I met him I couldn’t speak a word of Thai but he could speak English. A few years later and my Thai is still quite basic but if I pay attention I can understand the gist of conversations, but I don’t like to speak it myself because I get nervous and feel stupid if people don’t understand me. He always tells people ‘she understands but won’t speak’. I’ve never had any lessons but I will make myself at some point because it’s embarassing being here so long and not being as good as I should be – but it’s very difficult with it being tonal, and a different alphabet to learn for reading/writing. Also we live in the south which has a different dialect – it’s faster and they shorten words and sentences so it’s not the same as what is in ‘Learn Thai’ books. On the other hand, my partner’s English has improved a lot and his grammar has become much better.

Post # 6
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

akshali2000 :  my hubby is Dutch and we currently live in NL. As a Russian i have to learn Dutch if I want my residence permit to be extended. I am making an effort but damn it is tough!

Post # 7
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was already fluent in his language and actually speak it better than a lot of native speakers, lol. But he doesn’t understand anything in my language (so he says), can’t speak it and feel left out. I bought him books but he didn’t bother to learn.. He has such good pronunciation and potential to speak it really well, it’s a shame. We have a baby now, I speak my language to her and we hope he’ll learn with the baby. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Hus is Japanese, I met him after living here for over 5 years , so my Japanese was already quite good. It got better after moving in with him. His family are from waaay up north though and when they are all together I and speaking the local dialect I can just understand what they are saying most of the time, despite being almost fluent. Having said that it must be the same for hus when he comes back to the north of England (Newcastle) with me. Even my some of my English friends don’t understand geordie! 😂

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

legojedi :  My SO is Japanese too, and I’m from Liverpool so the family he was struggling to keep up with were scousers!

We went back for a friends (a geordie) wedding a few years ago, I think he just gave up trying to understand pretty quickly!

akshali2000 :  Learning a language to fluency just  so his family can joke around you is a lot of pressure to put on yourself- but with dedication i’m sure you can do it. 🙂 Once you learnt the basics, why not reward yourself with a trip and immerse yourself in the culture too?!0

Post # 12
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Worker bee

 I’m English FI speaks afrikaans, i do speak afrikaans here and there but cannot read and write properly, and it sucks because i express myself fluently in english

Post # 13
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126 posts
Blushing bee

He speaks a language called Darija. I try and think I’m making good progress until I go and I can’t understand anything.  I speak to him in his language when I’m on the phone and don’t want others to know what we’re talking about 

Post # 14
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1943 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

FH and his family speak Russian. I have learned approximately 150 words in Russian and I can have simple conversations with non-English speaking family. I asked him a lot of “how do you say ____ in Russian?” over the years. Then I picked up a copy of Rosetta Stone on a Black Friday deal a few years ago. That helped tremendously. Currently, I’m in grad school and planning the wedding so I’ve stopped actively learning. 

I’d like to keep practicing over the years before FH and I have kids. 

I get compliments from his family all the time on my pronunciation and little accent when I speak Russian and that positive reinforcement leads me to want to speak more around them. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fi and his family speak english and some broken italian but not enough for me to need to learn how to speak it. 

My family speaks russian and my fi has learned a lot of words doing a lot of the same as teacher-bee-in-the-sea :  , he understands a ton and can semi speak with my grandmother at least with some help from one of us. 

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