Just for fun: Were you dating somebody else when you met your fiancé?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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Busy bee

This thread reminds me of a quote from a guy friend.

“Women are like monkeys. They won’t let go of one branch until they’ve grasped firmly onto the next one.”

Its funny how it can take a new person to reveal how obviously terrible in retrospect an existing relationship is. 

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

haileyblue :  

Ohhhh.  Now it makes sense.  It sounded like a pretty unflattering monicker!

Post # 33
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Helper bee

We first met when he stared working where I worked in high school.  I did have a highschool boyfriend for a short time that year but cant remember at all if we were dating when I met my fi.  He was in a relationship so we were just work friends. It was years later that we reconnected – he was no longer with his partner and I was single. He was persistant and here we are 😅

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Yes I was dating someone else while I was dating my fiancé but both guys knew I was casually dating another person. Once I realized it could become serious with both of them, I decided to cut it off with someone and I definitely made the right decision! 

I feel like I should add I was 25 at the time and got out of my second serious long term relationship and wanted to casually date for a while and boy was it fun and a great experience at the time but I wouldn’t want to do it again. 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

Yes,  I was “engaged”  to a momma’s boy! He bought a townhouse with his mom and his name was the only name on the mortgage and I wanted it just to be the 2 of us.  He also only saw me once a week if I was lucky and I would have to usually call him to see him.  He did work nights but couldn’t give me the time of day. 

My now husband was in a long distance relationship, he lives in Canada,  his ex gf in the States.  She also worked the night shift at a casino, they were lucky to see each other once a month! 

Both relationships were going downhill and we both wanted more.  Funny thing is I was unhappy but not really looking for anything! My sister was mad at her bf at the time and begged me to go out to a bar with her. My now husband and his friends came up to us and my now husband offered me a chair beside him so we could get to know each other.  My now husband was and still is very attentive,  which I appreciate because my ex was a dud!  Lol 

When I broke up with my ex I was honest and told him I found someone else and it was just not going to work out. He all of a sudden was willing to sell the townhouse he got with his mommy and he wanted to see me on a regular basis.  I told him he had a million opportunities but I have moved on.  He still tried to get back with me for a few months but then stopped.  I snooped his FB and I see he is living in the same townhouse with his mommy and he has a gf that lives there and they have 2 dogs,  no kids and they have been together for over 10 years!  

I am now happily married, live in a nice house and have an almost 2 year old son!  I am very happy with my decision! 🙂  

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

12_Elle :  that’s the best comment I’ve read in a long time! So true in my case! I hung out with Darling Husband while I was still with my X and I was like, wow! This is how it could be?! And that was that! 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Yes, I met my husband through his older brother when I was in high school. His brother was my coach and friend, during a team thing at his place one day I met my husband in passing. I was dating my high school sweetheart at the time but when the bf  and I split husband and I chatted for a few months over the phone or webcam on and off. He then moved to another province..3 years later I was single and his brother found out and told my husband who had recently moved back home and he called me up for a date !

Post # 37
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Busy bee

When I first met my husband through work he had a long term live in gf and I was dating several guys casually.  Six months later when we no longer worked together he started texting me after getting my number from a mutual friend.  I was dating someone exclusively (who is a fantastic human being) at the time and declined future husband’s invitations to dinner.  He told me that I would change my mind and to let him know when I was single–he was right. 14 months later almost to the day of our first date we were engaged. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee

My Darling Husband & I have known each other for forever. He actually dated several of my friends while we were in high school. Before we started dating  I was dating another guy (although I knew it was over before it really even began) when Darling Husband & I commented on a few of each other’s fb statuses. He got the never to ask me out for my birthday. I had to decline & said something like I’d love to but my boy friend probably wouldn’t like that. That was the end of us talking. Fast forward two months & said boyfriend & I officially broke up. I sent Darling Husband a message on fb telling him I was single & id take him up on the birthday dinner offer if he was still interested. The rest is history. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Yeah we met at sixth form (the last 2 years of school in the UK), I had a boyfriend who in hindsight was a total idiot. Darling Husband had just broken up with someone. We became friends and got together 2 years later 🙂

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

No, we were both single, with our last relationships having ended about a year prior.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

No, we were both single, with both of our last relationships having ended about a year prior.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

megrays :  I wasn’t seeing anyone, but I met my husband at a concert where he was on a date with someone else. My friend group knew people in her group so everyone started talking, and hubby decided to chat with me. We went our separate ways when the venue doors opened and I didn’t think of it again until months later when he sent me a friend request, and I was trying to think where I knew him from lol He was single at that point and asked me out. The rest is history 🙂 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband and I were both with other people when we met, at work at a restaurant. We were just friends for a while and would hang out in a big group after work occassionally. Eventually we started taking an interest in each other, secretly hung out alone a few times.. before officially ending it with our significant others. That was 10+ years ago, we’re married with 1 daughter and very happy we decided to break up with the other 2 people and be together!

Post # 45
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Helper bee

megrays :  yep, I was casually seeing my now husband’s soon to be roommate. It was awkward by at least my now husband had asked the guys permission to date me

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