(Closed) Just for Fun: What do you think you FI/DH/BF would be like without you?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 62
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1782 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My fiance would be a mess without me. He is hard-working but a messy guy. He creates messes (piles of clothes, piles of papers, scattered piles of clothes, papers) –  We talked about this the other day. He is messy. I am pretty clean and organized (or I try to be)! I do 90% of the cleaning. I remember when I first started dating him I chalked up his messiness to living in a very tiny old farm house – but have determined it is not the size of the house that matters. He would be eating cold pizza, drinking more beer, and going to sit at the bar (even on weeknights) still at the Green Mill watching as much ESPN as he could. He is very shy so – he would probably be single and have infrequent relationships. Once I saw him, I just clung onto him, he looked so lonely and was such a great guy (meaning nice, quiet, shy, but hard working and attractive) – I just couldn’t forget about him – we were friends for 3 years but I found myself thinking about him all the time and everntually told him this! That was the end of “just being friends” – I would probably be in some other relationship. Would I be happy? I don’t know. I guess I don’t second guess being with my babe that I have now. So unless I was in that situation I don’t know. I would still be probably cooking home made meals because that is what I love – although I am not keen on left overs – which there would be a lot of. I would probably be lonely if not in a relationship – and who knows the company that I would keep. I would still have my cats – because I love cats. They would be my sole source of comfort and would still be sleeping in my bed with me. With fiancee the cats are not sleeping in our bed, which is fine with me. I love his warmth – so I would be colder. When it is winter he keeps me warm. If I wasn’t with my fiance (going on 8 years together) – I would be void of many great memories.

 

Post # 63
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1143 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If his mom still lived in their house (she lives in a two-bedroom apartment with his step-dad and two siblings), he’d probably be living in her basement playing video games all day long. Or living with a bunch of buddies playing video games all day.

Post # 64
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

When I first started dating my FI he was the biggest momma’s boy in the entire world. He was 22 and had to ask permission to come over to my house, call his mom anytime he wasnt going to be home for dinner, and he had to lie to her about where he was spending the night when he would spend the night at my house. We have been together for almost 3 years now and he has come such a long way. We have our own home, he is a full time student and a stay at home dad (to my son from a previous relationship that he has taken on as his own), we are planning a wedding, and in about a year he will have his first REAL job (full time hours, benefits, etc)

If we didnt end up together he would still be living at home with no goals or intensions of moving on with his life and growing up. His mother hoards her children (she has 3 over the age of 20 including my Fiance and she tries to get them to stay with her) when we moved out it was the biggest argument of life. Finally when she came around she was sweet as pie but she fights with us over anything and constantly controls FI’s life. I love her dearly but there are days that have made being with my fiance hard because I feel like I am in a relationship with both of them.  

Post # 65
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Going back to my previous comment I would be a lot different too with out him. I would still be the girl living with her mom and having her mom watch her son while she goes out all the time and spends all of her money on fun. I was not a good person with out my babe and I think that we complete eachother. I know it sounds cheesy but we really are better people when we are together.

Post # 66
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1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My guy was 28 when we met and although he comes from a more traditional culture where men do tend to stay home and be babied by their mothers, he did live on his own while in grad school/working. So he knows how to do stuff on his own. He’s a better cook than me, cleaner than me, better at tasks like sewing. He knows how to manage money and generally function in society. If anything I’m a bad influence. When he’s with me, he practices his faith less, drinks more and eats worse. I’m in the process of convincing him to go to the dentist and he has become more accepting of gay people since he met me, so those changes have been good. But wow, typing that out makes me realize that I probably don’t deserve him!

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