- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
Hi Bee’s I need some help and advice (also need to know if I am totally over reacting) – warning long post
So just a bit of backstory for the US bee’s. In the UK there is a political party called UKIP, who’s main deal is Muslims are bad, they twist and manipulate news stories to try and push their anti-immigration/anti Muslim agenda. My Future Father-In-Law liked their Facebook page, and I initially thought it was a mistake as he has never expressed any anti-religious/racist opinions to me or my FH (he is equally shocked)
However earlier this week he liked a few more Facebook pages, such as Britain first, the EDL page etc. which again main aim is to scare people and make them prejudiced.
Now this I have no issue with, he can like what he wants however he commented on one of the Britain’s first posts the other day and the comment really upset me, and made me really uncomfortable and angry.
Now the post itself, I think was made up but said as if it was 100% true story. The post was about in Canada apparently a mayor took a stand against Muslims demanding the rules are changed for their needs….the actual story (as told on the FB post) was that in a school in Canada they served pork meals 4/5 days of the week. And 3 Muslim parents wrote in and just asked if there could be a bit more variety as their children could not eat pork (which I think is very reasonable…what if you just don’t like pork!)
However the Mayor of this town (apparently) wrote back saying if you do not like our meals/customs and laws please find a Muslim country to reside in.
My Future Father-In-Law commented on this saying ‘Too right, this will start happening in the UK soon, we will have to feed our kids Halal meat and be forced to cover up in public if our politicians keep letting these people in’
Now I have many issues with this-
1 – in the original (probably fake) story I do not think its unreasonable to just ask if an alternative meal can be provided (again what if your child just didn’t like pork!) and if these parents were not Muslim no big deal would have been made out of this request.
2- Its terribly naive at the best to think that our whole country will change its laws and customs over night
3 – His comment was just ignorant, really offensive crap.
I am not Muslim however have many Muslim friends (some of which converted after marriage etc.) and I am seriously offended by his comments. My FH is shocked however doesn’t want me to say anything as its his father! (I am a say it as I see it kind of person, and its taking every fibre of my being to not say something)
I have removed Future Father-In-Law from Facebook, but really wanted to send him a text or something to say why, as I do not think its acceptable to post such nasty comments online, he might have friends who have Muslim children etc. and not realise how offensive it is. I really want him to understand the wider implications of his actions. FH said not to as he doesn’t want me causing drama, but I really feel angry about this.
I understand everyone is allowed their opinions, and his are ignorant however I also have an opinion and would like to share this with Future Father-In-Law and hope he realises how horrible his comment came across.
Can you let me know what you guys would do in this situation? as its really been angering me. Just for reference Future Father-In-Law is 44 (so not old enough where this ignorance is kind of explainable…such as the 80 yr old slightly racist gran!) his parents are very liberal and I know they would be appalled at his comments so no influence there!
I would never be nasty to Future Father-In-Law, I just want to let him know his comment upset me, and would no doubt upset his other FB friends if they had Muslim family/friends (or a brain!) as I am hoping his comments was out of ignorance instead of hate.