(Closed) Just found out FI & I totally disagree on wedding gown styles

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
139 posts
Blushing bee

I had this too – my Fiance hates laces and wanted a strapless ballgown. This isn’t my style at all, I thought I wanted a lacy mermaid. Meltdown and tears ensued.

In the end I ended up with a compromise which didn’t feel like a compromise . I chose a fit and flare dress with sleeves in modern, bold lace which frosted down my back and the rest was sheer Mikado. Although I thought I wanted lots of lace, I found that they overwhelmed my small frame (5’3″ petite) and made me look a bit dowdy. The mermaid style wasn’t easy to walk in, but the fit and flare accentuates me natural curves whilst having a more “ballgown” feel, and I can move around freely. The peared back dress elongates me, but the bold sleeves/illusion back are an injection of my style in the right places. He can go whistle for the strapless… I tried them, I felt uncomfortable.

My point is, until you’ve tried things on you don’t 100% know what suits you. And if you still like the same thing, I’m sure he’ll love it. I couldn’t face feeling umconfortable on my wedding day and I wouldn’t advise you too either 🙂

Post # 32
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just an idea

there are loads of types of lace. Maybe you can go for another type?


Post # 33
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Girl, just get what you like. I doubt he’s dressing with you in mind. Wear what makes you feel beautiful.

My Fiance just doesn’t like wedding dresses or dresses at all really and when I showed him the poofy blush ball gown skirt I bought, he said, “Oh my God, you’re a snow beast.” To be fair, My Big Fat Greek Wedding is one of his favorite movies, but still I gave him the finger and flounced.

Post # 35
29 posts

Choose the dress you love. Your fiance will think you look beautiful on your wedding day and won’t even notice the lace. My fiance wanted a ballgown on me while I was dress shopping, but I wanted something more fitted. I chose a fitted gown because the ballgowns just swallowed me. I showed him a picture of me in a ballgown and another in a fitted gown (one I did not buy), and he absolutely loved how the fitted gown looked. 

Post # 36
562 posts
Busy bee

It’s a bit of both sides here for me. I mean, what if he choose a tux that you absolutely hated? Because of the shape, color, patterns or whatever? Honestly, I wouldn’t feel as beautiful if I knew I was wearing something specific that the person I was sharing the day with really disliked.

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