Post # 31
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Blushing bee
I had this too – my Fiance hates laces and wanted a strapless ballgown. This isn’t my style at all, I thought I wanted a lacy mermaid. Meltdown and tears ensued.
In the end I ended up with a compromise which didn’t feel like a compromise . I chose a fit and flare dress with sleeves in modern, bold lace which frosted down my back and the rest was sheer Mikado. Although I thought I wanted lots of lace, I found that they overwhelmed my small frame (5’3″ petite) and made me look a bit dowdy. The mermaid style wasn’t easy to walk in, but the fit and flare accentuates me natural curves whilst having a more “ballgown” feel, and I can move around freely. The peared back dress elongates me, but the bold sleeves/illusion back are an injection of my style in the right places. He can go whistle for the strapless… I tried them, I felt uncomfortable.
My point is, until you’ve tried things on you don’t 100% know what suits you. And if you still like the same thing, I’m sure he’ll love it. I couldn’t face feeling umconfortable on my wedding day and I wouldn’t advise you too either 🙂
Post # 32
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Helper bee
Just an idea
there are loads of types of lace. Maybe you can go for another type?
Post # 33
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Bumble bee
Girl, just get what you like. I doubt he’s dressing with you in mind. Wear what makes you feel beautiful.
My Fiance just doesn’t like wedding dresses or dresses at all really and when I showed him the poofy blush ball gown skirt I bought, he said, “Oh my God, you’re a snow beast.” To be fair, My Big Fat Greek Wedding is one of his favorite movies, but still I gave him the finger and flounced.
Post # 34
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Sugar bee
Is he wearing the dress or are ou/
Post # 35
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Newbee
Choose the dress you love. Your fiance will think you look beautiful on your wedding day and won’t even notice the lace. My fiance wanted a ballgown on me while I was dress shopping, but I wanted something more fitted. I chose a fitted gown because the ballgowns just swallowed me. I showed him a picture of me in a ballgown and another in a fitted gown (one I did not buy), and he absolutely loved how the fitted gown looked.
Post # 36
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Busy bee
It’s a bit of both sides here for me. I mean, what if he choose a tux that you absolutely hated? Because of the shape, color, patterns or whatever? Honestly, I wouldn’t feel as beautiful if I knew I was wearing something specific that the person I was sharing the day with really disliked.
Post # 37
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Newbee
Thank you all for your replies. I especially want to thank those ladies who, like me, believe that the opinions of their husbands-to-be actually count for something! And, of course he’ll run the tuxedos by me. This is *our* day.
I discussed it with him. Essentially I said that I wanted him to be happy on our day, and at the same time I’m not sure how I’d reconcile his taste in gowns with my own. His response was “Babe, I’m a boy. I know nothing about this stuff and honestly, when you’re walking down that aisle I’m going to think you’re beautiful no matter what you’re wearing.” So, those of you who literally said that verbatim, rock on.
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