(Closed) Just Found Out Husband Betrayed Me (Long – New Bee)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 241
Member
2011 posts
Buzzing bee

avis:  I’m sorry about what you’re going through and don’t have much to add but I just want to point out that he isn’t a pervert, he just has different sexual preferences. Also, you said he never tried any of that with you, that was probably because he was already getting it on the side. It’s like when Elvis wouldn’t sleep with Priscilla after she gave birth because he said, “Mama’s don’t have sex” but he was screwing every chick on the side he could get his hands on. Maybe your husband knew you wouldn’t be into it so didn’t bother bringing it up? You said when something like a threesome came on TV he would act like it was disgusting. Was that after you first brought it up? Also, please consider seeking a second opinion with another lawyer. I know you cancelled your last appointment with the second lawyer but it can’t hurt.

For all of the people talking about Nebraska being a no-fault state, who cares? The OP has clearly stated that their finances were separate anyway. The only time it will matter is if the OP wants to get vindictive and take her husband for all he’s worth. She’ll get a divorce either way which I think is all she wants. It will just be harder to get money/assets out of him.

Post # 242
Member
47276 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mayamaya:  pot, meet kettle

Post # 243
Member
1071 posts
Bumble bee

Ele88:  Ummm okay. I never stated what my job is… 

Post # 244
Member
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

AwkwardCoconut:  you’re right,  that was the other poster bullying the OP. I guess you’re nothing but a know it all in this situation then. Sorry! 

Post # 245
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609 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope the divorce goes as smoothly as possible for you. However, I just wanted to point out that I too am offended by the use of the word pervert here, as Sukii stated above. Yes, it is wrong what your husband has done, but calling someone a pervert because they have certain sexual preferences is also wrong. I hope you don’t take this the wrong way and attack me for this, as you seem to be becoming more defensive, but I just wanted to point this out. Best of luck to you.

Post # 246
Member
1071 posts
Bumble bee

Ele88:  Apology accepted.

You should also look up the meaning to the words, bullying and internet troll. Not what you think they mean. 

Post # 247
Member
5 posts
Newbee

I’m so sorry that you are going through all of this with your husband as well as having to deal with these people online! I wish you the best of luck in this situation and hope that you find peace once the situation has been resolved with your attorney. From what I have read, most of the ladies here have provided you excellent advice. You should know, though, that this is not your fault and this is an issue that he has. This issue predates you and you were unfortunate enough to get caught in this guy’s web of lies.

Post # 248
Member
12615 posts
Honey Beekeeper

jillbean1217:  “Is this really a thing? Is this applicable even if the box was in the OP’s home? I would think that it would automatically make it fair game, but maybe I’m wrong!”

Yes, depending on the specific circumstances there have been successful civil prosecutions over this exact  kind of thing. 

OP did you bring this up with the attorney? If so, what did he say?  Also, most attorneys, even expensive ones will do a free consultation. If all this happened as you say, you should stop acting so impulsively. 

Post # 249
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1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh you people telling she’s lying, go to another thread then!

Ush, so rude. Let the woman be!

Post # 250
Member
444 posts
Helper bee

First, holy mother of God if you think saying someone is full of shit for their fantastical internet story is “bullying” then I’m not quite sure how you live day to day with such thin skin. And people come up with all kinds of elaborate trolling stories here on a regular basis, for no other reason than shits and giggles–remember the one from not that long ago where the newlywed allegedly found out at her wedding reception that her new husband had lied to her about being on a work trip and had cheated on her?  

Second, I actually would like this old attorney’s name so that I can follow up on the information that I’ve heard here that he’s dispensing legal advice that’s been outdated since the 1970s. Honestly if he’s a solo practitioner that should have been retired by now but has no partners to keep tabs on him, the bar should be informed. 

Third, I’m employed by a governmental agency so I cannot take clients. But I used to work at a family law firm and can provide names of actual divorce lawyers. But honestly you’ve only been married 6 months and have no kids, and you’ve been through a divorce before, so look into doing it yourself.  https://supremecourt.nebraska.gov/self-help/7230/filing-divorce-nebraska-no-children-and-no-disputed-property

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  pumilionis.
Post # 251
Bee
11809 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

It seems like this thread has run its course. I’m going to close now for review.

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