(Closed) Just Found Out Husband Betrayed Me (Long – New Bee)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Speak to a lawyer before doing ANYTHING – including calling this woman. As PP’s have said, copy and photograph everything. A friend had a similar situation occur and she didn’t keep the “proof” so to speak, and it ended up screwing HER over instead of him. 

Get an STI test. 

If you share bank accounts with this man, close them and/or remove your money. Make sure you have originals and copies of your legal documents. If he is the angry type, he may snap when he realizes you’ve found out. Does he have access to your credit cards? You want to make sure that he has absolutely ZERO power over you, and make sure that he doesn’t know where you are. The last thing you need is that disgusting man trying to follow you around. 

Your soon-to-be-ex husband is filthy and I am so sorry that you are going through this. We’re here for you! 

Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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avis:  Well thank god you’re leaving. Best of luck to you! For future reference, if a man ever dismisses your suspicions about a woman by calling her a slut, gross, or “crazy”, run for the hills. You can be sure he’s hit that.

Post # 63
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Make copies of everything, remain calm in front of him to gather evidence and GET A DIVORCE ASAP.

 

I’m so sorry that you have to go through this…reading the post make me shake…and digust… run away from this A$$hole please….you deserve a lot better… this is so gross…. and sick to the stomach 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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avis:  #1 save up some money, #2 get with your gyn and get checked out, # 3 get all your evidence together in some states your going to need this, #4 get a lawyer… This is sick and Ian sorry you even have to deal with it, but thank god it happened now and not in 6yrs

Post # 65
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2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I wouldnt call the woman.there is absolutely no point. Leave her out of it. Talk to a lawyer And leave him.

Post # 66
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390 posts
Helper bee

Agreed, DO NOT call the woman. The only person you should be calling is a lawyer, right now. Do not communicate with her or any of the other people involved (eww) until your attorney gives you the green light. Think of a lawyer in this situation as a third party whose job is to protect you. I also agree with PPs–that box needs to be somewhere more secure than your car. Ask your attorney for advice on how best to deal with this. I say get your stuff, get your daughter, go to your hotel, and do not come back. Have trusted family or friends go back for anything else of yours that you need at the house or to supervise movers when it comes to that.

Good for you for being strong and keeping a cool head! I can’t even imagine how difficult this must be for you.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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avis:  I am so sorry he did this to you.  Get a lawyer and get out.  I’d find a comfortable place to live for you and your daughter first.  Talk to the lawyer about anything you can receive from this man and I’d make copies and/or keep all flashdrives.  Oh, I’d also expose him to his family and this crazy bitch for having a 3-way with her own daughter.  That’s really disgusting!  

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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avis:  OMG my heart is BREAKING for you OP! It is so awful to have discovered that this person that you loved and trusted is not who you thought he was. How could you have possibly known??? This behavior is not normal, pretending to be something he isn’t and living a double life. I am so so sorry that you have to deal with this trainwreck. Who else in your life do you have to help you through this right now?

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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avis:  OMG, I am soooo sorry you are going through this. What a piece of shit your husband is.

Get an annulment! He has been lying to you for your entire relationship!

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

 

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avis:  I wanna know what he says when you confront him!!!!!!
Can’t stand liars and dirty men like this! I’m so sorry this ended up being your husband! You deserve someone a whole lot BETTER! Good for you, get out SOON!

Post # 72
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh and don’t for one second feel embarrassed because you have done nothing wrong. All you did was love and trust another person. SHAME ON HIM for being a disgusting deceptive liar.

Post # 73
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The title of this thread is the understatement of the century.

So sorry you’re going through this, OP.

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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avis:  I’m really sorry you are going through this, OP. I can’t imagine how confused and devastated you must feel. But you’re handling it really well so far! And being very smart!

I also wondered why your husband would have gotten married when he clearly already had a woman in his life who was into what he’s into but then it occurred to me that he might be into reverse cuckolding. I’ve never heard of reverse cuckolding before but I’m sure it’s a thing, if cuckolding is a thing. Either way though, OP, I hope you take care of yourself and that you get some real life emotional support too. On the bright side, I’m sure you’ll be able to get an annulment though with all the evidence you have. He’s been lying to you since the day you met and you clearly have no idea who he is or what he’s capable of.

So be careful and make sure to get tested too! But don’t call that woman though. Nothing good will come of that and she will just tip off your husband.

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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avis:  I’m so glad you’re strong enough to not put up with this shit.

I know it seems embarrassing to tell your daughter what happened, but I think the fact that you left immediately is setting an incredibly good example for her. 

Sorry you’re going through this. 

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