(Closed) Just found out I'm pregnant! And wedding is in 6 mo!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you should keep your date, especially since things have been booked and Save-The-Date Cards have been sent out. I’m also getting married in September and I have found that majority of the planning is complete by this point…are you worried about people’s reactions or more about the stress of everything at once?

Post # 4
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3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Congratulations!

I like the idea of moving it up. I wouldn’t worry too much about changing things… I am sure many of your guests and vendors will understand! If I were you, I would get invites prepared asap so as soon as you hit 12 weeks and you feel comfortable in your pregnancy you can send them out right away, giving your guests a good heads up and to get back RSVPs (especially if you’re going for June). I wouldn’t wait that long to contact the vendors though… they should be notified now. Sorry I am not much help! Again, congratulations! 🙂

Post # 7
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am with you, I would move the date up too. I would probably forego a bridal shower in favor of a baby shower – I do agree that is a lot to ask in one year, and people are going to get you those “home” gifts for the wedding anyway.

I would announce the change in date ASAP – you don’t have to tell people why. Just say “due to a conflict at the venue” or “due to scheduling concerns.” Also, not to be negative, but then if something does happen to the pregnancy (sad, but more common than we realize), you don’t have to announce that to everyone too.

Post # 9
Hostess
16018 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Congratulations! What a blessing for you and your fiance. I don’t have personal experience here, but it sounds like you have plenty of time to adjust your wedding plans however you’d like to.

I agree with @NAvery:  that it may be helpful to let your guests know as soon as possible. Not only will Out of Town guests be making travel plans, but other guests will also be making summer travel plans. And I’m sure they want to make sure they consider your wedding before those plans are finalized. How do you feel about that? Blame something like venue or scheduling issues for now, until you’re ready to announce the pregnancy?

And don’t worry about your family and friends — they will be really excited for all of these things happening for you. 🙂 Having a small get together with your close friends and family instead of an all-out baby shower sounds like a great compromise.

Post # 10
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congratulations!!

I think it’s really great that you’re considering how difficult it might be for your loved ones to come to your bridal shower, wedding and then baby shower all in a short period of time.  Opting for a baby shower instead of a bridal shower is a really great idea and I totally support it but you should still have a traditional registry though, for the wedding.

If you do end up wanting to move the date, send out the invites and let people know the date has changed – you don’t have to tell anyone why.  No need to make up an excuse or lie to people – just don’t say anything… you don’t need a reason.  But you best get on it asap!  

Otherwise, hire a planner to avoid the extra stress and keep your date!  Bump-friendly dresses are adorable!

Post # 11
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

How about combining your wedding and baby showers? It’s less hassle for your guests and it’s a little less straining on your guests’ budgets. If you don’t want to combine them, I’d opt for a wedding shower over a baby shower (assuming you do not live together and you’re adding bigger-ticket items to your registry, like appliances).

I bought all my baby stuff – ALL of it, clothes included, albeit mostly on sale. Including diapers, baby wipes, etc., it’s quite possible to get everything you need for less than $1500. I realize that’s not a drop in the hat, but when you still have another 7 – 8 months, you have time to save up. Not to mention that you’ll likely get hand-me-down clothes and furniture from other people. If you have lots of essentials on your wedding registry, and you’re only going to have one shower, it may be more cost-effective for you to have the wedding shower.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@BelleFille:  YAY!!!!! congrats!! It is totally ok to move your wedding date! hat would put your due date at november right? You should come and join us on the novmeber mamas boards!

Post # 14
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3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@BelleFille:  If anyone asks why you changed it all you have to say is “June just works better for us!”. Not lying, but not giving specifics either! I am glad things worked out w/ those vendors!

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