JUST FOUND OUT IM PREGNANT. NEED GUIDANCE/HELP EVERYTHING IS CLOSED

posted 4 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

confusedbee1234567 :  I’m sorry you’re in this position! It depends on where you are re where you can get the abortion pill. 

Do you have a planned parenthood near by? 

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill

“Abortion pill” is the popular name for using two different medicines to end a pregnancy: mifepristone and misoprostol.
Your doctor or nurse will give you the first pill, mifepristone, at the clinic. Pregnancy needs a hormone called progesterone to grow normally. Mifepristone blocks your body’s own progesterone. You’ll also get some antibiotics.
You take the second medicine, misoprostol, 24-48 hours later, usually at home. This medicine causes cramping and bleeding to empty the uterus. It’s kind of like having a really heavy, crampy period, and the process is very similar to an early miscarriage.
– See more at: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill#sthash.XZyaOP78.dpuf

 

more:

You can get the abortion pill at many Planned Parenthood health centers. Our caring doctors and nurses are experts at providing safe abortion and providing non-judgmental support throughout the process. Even if your local Planned Parenthood does not provide the abortion pill, you can call for more information about where to get it in your area.
When looking for a place to get an abortion, beware of “crisis pregnancy centers.” These fake clinics seem like medical centers that offer abortions or other pregnancy options, but they’re actually run by people who want to scare or shame people out of getting an abortion.
Getting the abortion pill through a doctor or nurse and making sure you go to your follow up is the safest way to have a medication abortion. If you buy the abortion pill online, there’s no way to guarantee you’re getting the right kind of medication, and some websites even sell fake pills.
Depending on where you live, there may be age restrictions or waiting periods to get an abortion. You can ask about these when you call your doctor or health center.
– See more at: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/the-abortion-pill/how-do-i-get-the-abortion-pill#sthash.ypbQ9yDB.dpuf

 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

What country are you in? You say everything is closed, so I’m guessing not the US?

 

One thing I will warn you: if you are in the US, DO NOT CALL so-called “Crisis pregnancy centers.” They’re the ones with the banner ads saying things like “Pregnant? We can help!” Their whole scheme is to lie to women (ex: “Abortion causes breast cancer!” 100% not true, or “Abortion leads to suicidal depression in 90% of women!” super duper not true, 95%+ of women don’t regret their abortions) so they will continue their pregnancies. So be really, really careful about where you make an appointment.

 

I’ve been in your shoes. It’s going to be ok. Do you have anyone who can support you? A friend or family member you can talk to who won’t judge or abuse you?

 

Here might be some resources available to you, depending on where you are:

http://www.womenonwaves.org/

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I have had the abortion pill and honestly it was the most painful thing I went through in my life and I have bad periods. This was next level painful. I took loratab 10s and it didn’t touch the pain. I would just have the procedure done. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Call your doctor in the morning when things open up. You don’t need to rush out tonight to get emergency abortion.  Your doctor can help you get the safest course of action.  If you need to go tonight, go to Planned Parenthood. Talk to a professional.

Post # 6
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195 posts
Blushing bee

JiminyCricket :  Emergency Contraception, aka “Plan B,” won’t induce an abortion. It prevent conception if taken within 72 hours of unprotected intercourse. Taking it now wouldn’t help anyway.

Post # 7
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12612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ru4realgurl :  Misunderstood her (lack of a) timeline, thanks. 

Post # 11
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195 posts
Blushing bee

confusedbee1234567 :  Of course you’re stressed, this is a stressful turn of events! You don’t have to tell anyone you don’t want to, and you don’t have to justify your decisions. I’m sorry you don’t feel like your family is supportive. When you go for the termination, they’ll have to you talk to a nurse or counselor first just so you can air your feelings and walk through what you’re really experiencing. 

It’s going to be ok. 

 

My only other advice is to make the appointment as soon as possible. Not tonight, obviously, but soon! Some states have waiting periods, and others just book up quickly. It may be a couple of weeks before you get it done, and the longer it goes on, the more expensive and uncomfortable it might be.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

confusedbee1234567 :  it’s no problem. It lasted about two hours. It was extremely painful. I was throwing up and crying. I took the highest dose of lortab there is (Vicodin / hydrocodone) and it didn’t help at all. Once it actually happened (this is tmi but the placenta sack came out of me whole) it stopped immediately. I really wouldn’t recommend it unless it’s your only option.  It was the  most pain I have ever been in 

Post # 14
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784 posts
Busy bee

Hi fellow NYC bee! You’re right, the laws here are super liberal and there are no waiting periods. Legal up to 24 weeks under normal circumstances. 

I just wanted to tell you that it will all be okay and never be afraid to do what’s right for you. I’m 27, too, and I definitely don’t feel ready for motherhood either. And there’s nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to tell anyone you don’t want to, and you don’t need anyone’s permission. You have a right to choose what is best for you and your body, no matter who may think abortion is a sin. 

FWIW, my husband is currently a medical resident and did some volunteer hours at a clinic in medical school. He always promotes surgical abortions over medical abortions; most women are put to sleep and wake up with it all over rather than experiencing it all for hours with the pill. Less painful and much easier, although it may seem scarier going in. 

Here’s a great thread from another bee that may make you feel better: 

I had an abortion

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