(Closed) Just found out my 21 year old cousin got engaged…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Worker bee

Oh, don’t worry.  I think we all know what it feels like when that happens!  It’s ok, everyone and everyone’s relationship is different and I hope your proposal comes soon! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh, sorry to hear, its like a stab in the heart sometimes!

I would love to be one of those girls who say “i was so surprised, i had no idea!”

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

viking, i wish your cousin well BUT statistically she’s in kind of a tough boat. people who get married before 25 are supposed to have a tougher go of it and be much more likely to end in divorce. i hope to goodness that this doesnt happen BUT i do think its something older ladies waiting should keep in mind. its nice to know who you are and what you want when you land the one. i would HATE to have been married that young and missed out on all the fun of my early 20s.

 

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Post # 6
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Sugar bee

(((VikingPrincess))))

I know how you feel. A few weeks ago, my SO’s niece got married.

At 19.

Yeah, talk about Embarassed!

But…soon enough we’ll be the engaged women! Smile

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hey don’t forget that some of us young ‘ens have been together 5 or more years! I was 19 when I got engaged, but we had been dating well over 5 years…. it felt like we had waited forever, too. 

But I know it’s not easy waiting. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ladies, waiting for a proposal is a great and beautiful thing. Don’t tarnish it by harboring negative feelings towards other girls who are also trying to experience happy moments of their life. Have some respect. I’m 18 and engaged. It was a personal decision my fiance and I made because we were going to start our lives together (move cross state, etc.). It was not done to make anyone upset or jealous. And I think it is awful for other girls who will eventually want every feeling and emotion related to their wedding to be a positive one, to harbor these kinds of emotions towards young brides. Just my two cents.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@young brides…i don’t think the original poster meant any ill will towards young brides. when you’re “waiting”, it can be frustrating to watch people who are younger than you, or have been together shorter than you (no matter the age) get engaged. i have a few friends who are younger than me and have been together 3-4 years longer than we have who were happy for us, but frustrated with THEIR situations.

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Vikingprincess ๐Ÿ™ and ๐Ÿ˜ usually don’t convey POSITIVE feelings. We ALL go through the waiting process–even young brides! 

@everyone I’m just saying to not let your PERSONAL FRUSTRATION turn into negative feelings towards others. At the very least look at it as bad wedding karma. And really, every bride goes through a fair share of people who are completely irreverent to the wedding planning process without having to also deal with it from other ladies in similar situations. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

babymilka74-No one has any ill feelings towards younger brides. Just because she said her age, (and I also in reference to my SO’s niece) doesn’t mean anyone “hates” younger brides. Everything with someone’s age listed isn’t about the “I hate younger brides club let’s talk about them.”

VP wanted to vent and she did.

Also, please use the term women, not girls.

 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@VikingPrincess  I can understand how you feel (a little different situation though), i kind of feel like that now because it was nice to be one of the few I knew that was engaged and now my cousin just got engaged last week and she is going to be getting married 3 months or so before me and one of my “friends” (long story!) got engaged last week also to a guy who treats her like crap and she is planning on getting married before me. 

@Audreysdance my grandparents got married when they were 23 & 24 and have been married for 60 years.  A girl I used to work with got married 3 years ago, they have 3 gorgeous kids and they are still going strong even after everything that they have been through in such a short time.  Every person is different so with this kind of thing. I hate statists for that reason.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

well, congrats to your cousin! I hope your engagement comes soon=)

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I know how you feel.  My little sister’s wedding is in 2 weeks and they’ve been dating less time.  But really, it does not matter.  It makes me impatient for my own time to be engaged, but at the same time, I love seeing her so happy and excited and I’m happy and excited for her too!!

I have to remind myself that it’s NOT about who gets married first/youngest/oldest, etc.  In 60 years, no one will care about or remember my wedding.  It’ll only matter what we did with our life together.  And if it takes waiting longer now to make those 60 years better, then so be it.

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