(Closed) Just found out my fiance of 6 yrs cheated . . . other girl is pregnant

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! How awful! You must be in shock…

Post # 4
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

Hugs!!!!!!!!! OMG the biggest hugs!!! I’m so sorry. I know you will hear this a lot but you are so much better off!!!!!

Post # 5
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

I am so sorry that this happened at all, but happy that it happened now, rather than after the wedding.  Good luck with everything and know that you are a resilient, beautiful woman that is better off without the loser.  I feel sorry for the other woman quite honestly.  

Post # 6
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

He sounds like a sociopath. I am so, so sorry you’re going through this, but count your blessings that you’ve learned about this before you actually married him! It doesn’t give you back the six years you spent on him, but it keeps you from wasting more time!

Post # 7
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

oh Cali 🙁

I am so sorry ……. (((((HUGS)))))

Is he out of the house? If not, you need to kick him to the curb immediately so you can figure out how you want to proceed. 🙁

Post # 8
2360 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

ditto spaniel – i’m so sorry that you have to go through this but girl, you are so much better off!

Post # 9
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First of all HUGS!!! I’m so sorry that you found out that way but I’m not sorry that you found out. I don’t know you but no one deserves that and don’t you say you wasted 6 years on him. He wasted 6 years, you just gained the rest of your life back.


Post # 10
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

(((HUGS))) That is beyond reprehensible. I can only imagine what you must be going through but if I could suggest one thing it would be to sever all ties with this man (if he can even be called a man) and take some “me” time. I’d hate to see you start turning this around on yourself and ask what YOU did wrong. You did nothing wrong. He’s a two-timing p.o.s. and you are better off without him. 


Post # 11
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh poor thing-  I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.  Be strong and remember that you deserve so much better.  hugs.

Post # 12
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m so sorry, but I’m glad that you found out  before the marriage as well. It’s a shame, especially this time of year. Just know that we are here for support and will keep you in prayer. You will make it through this. ((HUGS))

Post # 13
1565 posts
Bumble bee

This is a horrible thing to have happen – I am so sorry! Like the other girls said, I am glad you found out before getting married – he clearly has major issues and you are so much better off now that you’re out of it. Good luck moving on to a new and happier stage of your life! 

Post # 14
381 posts
Helper bee

Number 1 – thank goodness you found out now.  I have had a ridiculous amount of “Are you f’ing kidding me” moments in my life, and I can 110% ASSURE you that this happened for a reason and that the next man will be more than worth the pain and shock you have to deal with right now.

When something traumatic happens it is easy to fall into the “feel good” oxytocin-producing actions – such as taking him back.  Not only do I think you should calmly and cooly walk away and cut your losses, I also think it would be in your best interest to deal with this psychologically by seeking a counseling service.  You’re about to go through many different stages of grief.

He got busted.  He lived a lie with both of you.


Post # 15
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA

Oh. My. God! I would be LIVID if I was you! I just can not believe the never of some people, cheating in my book is the lowest of low!!! Sending so many many (((HUGS))) your way! Like everyone else, I am at least glad you found out he’s a dirtbag before the wedding.

Post # 16
5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

HUGS! I’m so sorry. At least you found out before the wedding. You just got back the rest of your life!

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