Post # 1
I just thought I would turn to the boards for support. I just found out my fiance of 6 years has been carrying on another relationship . . . and the girl is pregnant. I saw his emails to her and confronted him. In the emails he told her that he loved her, wanted to be with her, and that he was planning a life with her. I am absolutely disgusted.
He went out of town with her when he told me he was going away for business, paid for her plane ticket, and even took her around town behind my back. The most recent email that he sent her is below:
Love, I just wanted to write you and say that the last months of my life have been amazing because of you. You have brought something totally new to my life. i appreciate your patience but the truth everything I am doing right now is so that we have unlimited options later. I think we will have an amazing life together and I feel fortunate that you are going to be a part of my life. I hope we can make it through this rough patch because I think we were meant to be together.
I am glad you are excited about getting a dog. I thought that would be a great gift for ya. And I think it will be a great bonding experience for us. I hope you have a wonderful day lil lovie actually I hope everyday for the rest of your life is wonderful and I am working to make sure thats the case. 🙂
He sent this email to her on the same day that I came home from visiting my family. Apparently, he spent a few days with her while I was gone.
I am so disgusted. I spoke to her and forwarded him the email. Before I spoke to her, he called and said that she was someone he is trying to get rid of. Does that email sound like he was trying to get rid of her or that it was a casual fling?
I am so disgusted and I can’t believe that I wasted 6 years of my life on him. I can’t believe that I am in this situation.
Post # 3
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! How awful! You must be in shock…
Post # 4
Hugs!!!!!!!!! OMG the biggest hugs!!! I’m so sorry. I know you will hear this a lot but you are so much better off!!!!!
Post # 5
I am so sorry that this happened at all, but happy that it happened now, rather than after the wedding. Good luck with everything and know that you are a resilient, beautiful woman that is better off without the loser. I feel sorry for the other woman quite honestly.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
He sounds like a sociopath. I am so, so sorry you’re going through this, but count your blessings that you’ve learned about this before you actually married him! It doesn’t give you back the six years you spent on him, but it keeps you from wasting more time!
Post # 7
oh Cali 🙁
I am so sorry ……. (((((HUGS)))))
Is he out of the house? If not, you need to kick him to the curb immediately so you can figure out how you want to proceed. 🙁
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
ditto spaniel – i’m so sorry that you have to go through this but girl, you are so much better off!
Post # 9
First of all HUGS!!! I’m so sorry that you found out that way but I’m not sorry that you found out. I don’t know you but no one deserves that and don’t you say you wasted 6 years on him. He wasted 6 years, you just gained the rest of your life back.
Post # 10
(((HUGS))) That is beyond reprehensible. I can only imagine what you must be going through but if I could suggest one thing it would be to sever all ties with this man (if he can even be called a man) and take some “me” time. I’d hate to see you start turning this around on yourself and ask what YOU did wrong. You did nothing wrong. He’s a two-timing p.o.s. and you are better off without him.
Post # 11
Oh poor thing- I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Be strong and remember that you deserve so much better. hugs.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry, but I’m glad that you found out before the marriage as well. It’s a shame, especially this time of year. Just know that we are here for support and will keep you in prayer. You will make it through this. ((HUGS))
Post # 13
This is a horrible thing to have happen – I am so sorry! Like the other girls said, I am glad you found out before getting married – he clearly has major issues and you are so much better off now that you’re out of it. Good luck moving on to a new and happier stage of your life!
Post # 14
Number 1 – thank goodness you found out now. I have had a ridiculous amount of “Are you f’ing kidding me” moments in my life, and I can 110% ASSURE you that this happened for a reason and that the next man will be more than worth the pain and shock you have to deal with right now.
When something traumatic happens it is easy to fall into the “feel good” oxytocin-producing actions – such as taking him back. Not only do I think you should calmly and cooly walk away and cut your losses, I also think it would be in your best interest to deal with this psychologically by seeking a counseling service. You’re about to go through many different stages of grief.
He got busted. He lived a lie with both of you.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Mountain Terrace, Woodside, CA
Oh. My. God! I would be LIVID if I was you! I just can not believe the never of some people, cheating in my book is the lowest of low!!! Sending so many many (((HUGS))) your way! Like everyone else, I am at least glad you found out he’s a dirtbag before the wedding.
Post # 16
HUGS! I’m so sorry. At least you found out before the wedding. You just got back the rest of your life!