Post # 17
I agree with Spaniel. At least you didn’t marry this absolute loser. I cannot even begin to fathom what you must be going through. I can’t believe jerks like this exist out there. ARGH. I’m so angry for you! At least you have the hive. We’ll never treat you wrong! *hugs*
Post # 18
i’m just so sorry.
there’s no excuse, i don’t care WHAT he SAYS he’s trying to do. that’s just WRONG of him and it’s not your fault no matter what!!!!
Post # 19
Oh Wow… I am so sorry you are going through this! He is a dog and I hope he has to wallow in his own misery due to this.
You deserve better!
We’re here for you.
Post # 20
I know the other bees are saying the exact same thing hon but I really send my heart to you that horrible. I was cheated on once and I know its a pain that is deep. I cant imagine after that kind of commitment what you must be going through! At least you are finding out prior to the wedding, I know it doesn’t make you feel any better and we are all here for you!! We send big big hugs your way! So so sorry sweetie!!!!
Post # 21
You dodged a bullet. During dark moments, find consolement in the fact that you found out after 6 years and not 20. I’m so sorry, guys can be serious scum sometimes.
Post # 22
Thanks for the support – I knew that I could count on you all. I am so tempted to pull an Angela Bassett and take his stuff out to the street and burn it all! However, I won’t do that b/c I know that it will only feel good for a moment.
I spoke to the other girl and she had no idea about me. I believe her. In his emails he told her that he loved her and that he would go to the ob gyn with her and even pay for it. He is such an idiot. She says that he wants her to get an abortion, but she is Catholic and doesn’t want to. What a waste. She said that he wanted to have her move into an apartment that he owns so I have every reason to believe that he would have kept things going even after our May wedding.
Plus, she said that he told her he “hooked up” with a girl before her, but that it was nothing. So, apparently he has been spreading himself around for a long time. Oh, and she also told me that she had a miscarriage a few months ago and that he was very supportive, etc. I spoke to his parents and they asked if I had any reason to think that she was lying and I said no – emails don’t lie. I included a few more emails below that he sent in November while I was spending time with my family for the holidays. They don’t lie!
What is wrong with him? He told her the same things that he told me – all while we were still planning to marry in May. I JUST PICKED OUT MY INVITATIONS YESTERDAY AND HE TOLD ME THEY WERE PERFECT FOR OUR WEDDING AND THAT HE COULD NOT WAIT TO MARRY ME!
Can’t wait to see u tomorrow big head. I love u many kisses!
Guess what!! Now getting emails on my phone!! Can’t talk on it though. I love u little lady. U rock my world and I can’t wait to get home and see you! I love ya sooooo much sweetheart.
Post # 23
OMG! I am so sorry to hear this! My heart goes out to you! Although there may not seem like a bright side to this right now, at least you found out about this before you guys got married. You deserve better and someone who is truly worthy will come along one day. Just take this time to heal.
Post # 24
I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I know the shock and pain well. My now ex-significant other of 20 years (yes, you read that right) dumped me for a bar skank (and I am being polite here) AND couldn’t understand why I had a problem supporting his dumb butt WHILE continuing to see her virtually every night of the week. This just a few years after the unexpected death of my only child. I went through about 18 months of pure hell. First I foolishly still wanted him and tried to talk to him; I mean after all I spent the majority of my adult life with him! Then I spent about a year trying to get him out of my home, as he CONTINUED to see his girlfriend. I was totally miserable.
The story had a happy ending though. I started forcing myself to go out socially – music festivals, arts and crafts shows, Native American festivals and the like. And I met a wonderful man who treated me with love and respect and I am now happily married to this man.
The point is that while the relationship may be over, YOU have many many wonderful things ahead of you. Take care of yourself and believe in your strength to get through this.
Post # 25
Sick. Really, really sick.
Post # 26
I’m really sorry this is happening to you. I know from experience this is not an easy time. I will echo the others when they say that you really ARE so much better off even though it won’t feel like it right now and probably for a while. I too, would cut all ties and change living arrangement ASAP.
What did she say have to say for herself when you spoke to her?
Post # 27
also arent you glad you arent the one who is pregnant with his baby! she might need some support, it sounds like she had no idea either so maybe you could go throught this together. I’d sell his stuff on craigslist and give the money to the baby. But I am not necessarily a good example. I hope this gets better for you!
Post # 28
Wow. This guy is truly pathological. I can’t believe she didn’t even know about you! That makes me feel bad for her as well, honestly. This guy is toxic. He’s been leading two lives and it’s all about to come crashing down on his head. You can take some comfort in that, at least. (((EVEN MORE HUGS)))
Post # 29
- Wedding: June 2010 - The Narragansett Towers
Oh my goodness. This is just beyond the pale. Many hugs to you. I hope you can get rid of this loser as quickly as possible. Take care of yourself!
Post # 31
I’m so sorry. So sorry. What a jerk! I wish you strength.