(Closed) Just found out my fiance of 6 yrs cheated . . . other girl is pregnant

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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181 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with Spaniel. At least you didn’t marry this absolute loser. I cannot even begin to fathom what you must be going through. I can’t believe jerks like this exist out there. ARGH. I’m so angry for you! At least you have the hive. We’ll never treat you wrong! *hugs*

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i’m just so sorry.

there’s no excuse, i don’t care WHAT he SAYS he’s trying to do.  that’s just WRONG of him and it’s not your fault no matter what!!!!

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Oh Wow… I am so sorry you are going through this! He is a dog and I hope he has to wallow in his own misery due to this.

You deserve better!

We’re here for you.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know the other bees are saying the exact same thing hon but I really send my heart to you that horrible. I was cheated on once and I know its a pain that is deep. I cant imagine after that kind of commitment what you must be going through! At least you are finding out prior to the wedding, I know it doesn’t make you feel any better and we are all here for you!! We send big big hugs your way! So so sorry sweetie!!!!

Post # 21
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

You dodged a bullet. During dark moments, find consolement in the fact that you found out after 6 years and not 20. I’m so sorry, guys can be serious scum sometimes.

Post # 23
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

OMG! I am so sorry to hear this! My heart goes out to you! Although there may not seem like a bright side to this right now, at least you found out about this before you guys got married.  You deserve better and someone who is truly worthy will come along one day.  Just take this time to heal.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I know the shock and pain well. My now ex-significant other of 20  years (yes, you read that right) dumped me for a bar skank (and I am being polite here) AND couldn’t understand why I had a problem supporting his dumb butt WHILE continuing to see her virtually every night of the week. This just a few years after the unexpected death of my only child. I went through about 18 months of pure hell. First I foolishly still wanted him and tried to talk to him; I mean after all I spent the majority of my adult life with him! Then I spent about a year trying to get him out of my home, as he CONTINUED to see his girlfriend. I was totally miserable.

The story had a happy ending though. I started forcing myself to go out socially – music festivals, arts and crafts shows, Native American festivals and the like. And I met a wonderful man who treated me with love and respect and I am now happily married to this man.

The point is that while the relationship may be over, YOU have many many wonderful things ahead of you. Take care of yourself and believe in your strength to get through this.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Sick. Really, really sick.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m really sorry this is happening to you. I know from experience this is not an easy time. I will echo the others when they say that you really ARE so much better off even though it won’t feel like it right now and probably for a while. I too, would cut all ties and change living arrangement ASAP.

What did she say have to say for herself when you spoke to her?

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020

also arent you glad you arent the one who is pregnant with his baby! she might need some support, it sounds like she had no idea either so maybe you could go throught this together. I’d  sell his stuff on craigslist and give the money to the baby. But I am not necessarily a good example. I hope this gets better for you!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow. This guy is truly pathological. I can’t believe she didn’t even know about you! That makes me feel bad for her as well, honestly. This guy is toxic. He’s been leading two lives and it’s all about to come crashing down on his head. You can take some comfort in that, at least. (((EVEN MORE HUGS)))

Post # 29
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - The Narragansett Towers

Oh my goodness. This is just beyond the pale. Many hugs to you. I hope you can get rid of this loser as quickly as possible. Take care of yourself!

Post # 30
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh wow! She didn’t know?

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m so sorry.  So sorry.  What a jerk!  I wish you strength. 

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