(Closed) Just found out my fiance of 6 yrs cheated . . . other girl is pregnant

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I agree with Lab… thank God you found out now!  **hugs**

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

my heart goes out to you, i’m so sorry to hear this.  but, this isn’t just a fiance who screwed up and cheated.  and as sorry as he tells you he is, or all the reasons he may give you, he has issues in his mind that none of us can understand, and he cannot change the way he is nor the way he is living.  not without help and lots and lots of time.   it is a blessing you found out sooner than later.  and it is also a blessing you will not have to be further tied to himm financially, or with a child, or anything else.  stay strong, you’ve done nothing wrong and could not have done anything differently to change the way things happen.

Post # 64
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Busy bee

oh my gosh i cant believe that happend to you im so sorry

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. No person ever deserves being deceived this way. What a scumbag though, as played out as this might sound, but this is a blessing in disguise, just imagine…you could have married him and gone through a nasty divorce. Karma is a mother****** and he will get his, as you will get the right person for you.  

Post # 66
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

No advice just ((HUGS))…. I have been there as well.. if you ever want to chat, just pm me.  Time heals all things. take time to think and reevaluate everything… without anyone else’s advice, and just your own thoughts and feelings… also be cautious with telling too many people until you have made your own decision, people will use it against you… ((HUGS))

Post # 67
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

What an ASSHOLE!!!!! I’m sorry to write that swear word out but there is just no other substitute for a situation like this. I am so, so, so sorry!

Post # 68
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

WOW, what a jerk!  I’m so very sorry this happened to you, but glad you found out now before you married him…that punk doesn’t deserve you!  Take care of yourself and please let us know if you need anything!

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

ugh – i’m so sorry about this!! girl, you deserve SO MUCH better. i know it’s easier said than done, but this a-hole is sooo not worth your tears or your energy. you’ll get through it, i know! ((((HUGS)))

Post # 70
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Sugar bee

Oh my… what a shocker. You are handling this with so much class, and I have a huge amount of respect for you.

If there’s anything we can do for you here in the hive, please let us know!!!

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Im so sorry you’re going through this..I agree with everyone else, it’s better you found out now…I know it’s easy for us to say..but it’s true.  you deserve better and he’s definately not it! Be strong and know we’re all behind you 100%!  Huggsssss

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor

I’m so, so sorry Caliwed.  You deserve so much better than that situation, I hate to sound crass but thank goodness you are a strong person who has no fear of being pregnant (or infected) by this man.  He clearly is a talented liar (you aren’t the only one to have fallen for him).  You will certainly get through this, and be so much stronger for it.  I also second counseling, as having an objective person to talk to can bring you great comfort and assist with recovery from the emotional trauma. I wish you the best of luck in untangleing yourself from him. And you know, WB is always here for you!

Post # 73
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Don’t ever be embarrased over something like this.  You haven’t done anything except be true to yourself, something that never could be attributed to him.  It’ll get better for you, and you’ll find someone else, someone better times infinity!

Post # 74
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Marie Gabrielle

Oh my God, I am so sorry.  SO SORRY!  If you need anything at all, please feel free to PM me.  All of our thoughts are with you – you’re strong, you can get through this.  Hang on tight to the love of your friends and family.

Post # 75
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

Caliwed, this is tragic.  I am so sorry that a person that you loved and trusted treated you this way.  I had a friend that, like you, was in a long term relationship with a man that constantly cheated on her.  It can be hard to break the cycle, especially since, judging from the emails, he is an expert at telling girls what they want to hear.  Be strong, and remember how lucky you are that you didn’t actually merry this guy!

Post # 76
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so so sorry!   I know nothing all of us say will make you feel better but I think it is safe to say we are all here for you!  Do not be embarrassed at all and you did nothing wrong!  Sounds like he is in over his head and I would bet he will regret this soon enough, if he doesn’t already.  It may not seem it now, but you will be better without him..its better it all came out now before you got married! I am so sorry!

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