(Closed) Just found out my fiance of 6 yrs cheated . . . other girl is pregnant

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I just wanted to extend hugs and well-wishes too.  I’m so sorry this has happened to you, and am amazed by your grace in handling it.

From the ashes of this, you will emerge stronger for the experience. (I know from experience on this account).  In the meantime, fill up your life with the support of loving family, friends, and the hive.

Hive hug.

Post # 78
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563 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I am so sorry, and so glad that you did not have children with this man.  Please add me to the list of Bees who have experienced broken engagements, been completely devastated and years later were very grateful that those engagements ended.  It will take time to get there, so for right now try to take care of yourself and surround yourself with those who care about you.

 

Take care!

Post # 79
Bee
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Oh wow, I am so sorry this has happened. 🙁 Please take care of yourself.

Post # 80
Member
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh my god, I am so so sorry!  Thank god you found out now.  As Mr. Bee said, you’re handling this with an enormous amount of class and grace.  Good luck, and good riddance!

Post # 81
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420 posts
Helper bee

I know this sounds kind of weird but bear with me, you are actually really lucky that you have those emails as evidence to help with the closure! I worked with a woman (saving herself for marriage also) and she WALKED IN on her fiance with a girl a few months before her wedding in bed in THEIR apartment. The closure for her was much easier because she knew there was NO WAY it was going to work out. A year later she met a wonderful man and got married.

So there is a happy story for you, within what seems like dark skies! You seem very level headed and sounds like you most definetly will get that. *Hugs*

Post # 82
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

I am so so sorry 🙁 *hugs*

Post # 83
Member
618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios

*HUG* You and the other woman are both in my prayers. May you have the grace and peace you need to get through this.  May the other woman have the strength to get through this also. 

Post # 84
Member
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Urgh. My heart aches for you Caliwed.

I say to heck with class and burn his stuff anyway. 😉

Post # 85
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - The Homestead, Hot Springs, Virginia

Cali, I feel so disgusted for you. I am so sorry this has happened. You write with such clarity and it seems you’re strong. (I myself would be an incoherent wreck.) Stay strong.

Post # 86
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47 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - Zen Garden in the East Bay w/ reception in a floor-to-ceiling window Atrium with views of the Zen Garden

I am so sorry to hear of your situation! What an a$$! Sure sounds like you handled the situation strong, better you find out now than have walked down the aisle. The bad has come and will be gone, and I believe in my heart that something is way better out there because of waht you’ve gone through. It will only make you strong as it already seems you are! BIG HUGS TO YOU!

Post # 87
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2020 - Ritz Carlton, Marina Del Rey

@Caliwed: I am so sorry to hear about this.  You’re handling the situation with immense grace and dignity; it’s he who should be embarrassed, for being a liar, a cheat, and a jackass.  This community is here for you.  Just let us know what you need.

Post # 88
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m so sorry. 

Can you take the emails, etc. and make a website so whenever anyone googles his name they find it? It would help warn other women who run into the jerk.

Post # 89
Member
1317 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry you have to go through this, but it’s better to discover who he really is now instead of later. In time you will be so grateful for this, no one deserves to be married to a guy like that.

When you’re ready – just think that the real man of your dreams is still out there – there will be a lot to look forward too … you’ll see!

I’ll tell you what my best-friend told me when I realized by ex-husband was a cheating peice of work: you will meet someone so wonderful, get married, and think to yourself, “who the hell was that idiot again”. I didn’t beleive her then, in fact, I gave up on love. But it’s true, and if there’s someone for me, there is most-definitely someone there for you — but it isn’t your cheating fiance, that’s for damn sure.

*HUUUGS*

Post # 90
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2022 posts
Buzzing bee

You have already received some great advice…I just wanted to extend my thoughts and wish you the best.  You will get through this and, in time, will realize you are lucky that you found out before marriage, kids, etc.

Post # 91
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2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

What a complete arse hole! I hope you have heaps of support around you! What a horrible time to find out too, right b4 christmas.

(( HUGS ))

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