(Closed) Just found out my fiance of 6 yrs cheated . . . other girl is pregnant

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

Ugh! This totally angers me that a guy would actually have the audacity to treat women this way! I’m sure everything that girl told you is probably true, since she really doesn’t have a reason or gain anything by lying to you. While I know you feel sad (and probably mad!) about spending the last six years with him, don’t give him the pleasure of having any more of your time. Cut him clean out of your life, be grateful that you don’t have to worry about a messy divorce or kids. You deserve soooo much more! Stay strong! Mwah!

Post # 93
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hugs & good thoughts to you!

Post # 94
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

this breaks my heart for you and makes me really pissed off at him (to say the least). i think it’s so brave and strong of you to talk about this, to know that you didn’t do anything wrong.  lots of hugs.  obviously you know this, but you will be so much better off and have tons of good things coming your way.

Post # 95
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so so sorry you are going through this. Just letting you know you can add me to the list of people who are pulling for you and who care. Keep your head high and you will make it through this a stronger woman. Here’s to a wonderful future without a loser in tow!

Hugs!!!

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

W. T. F? Wow, that’s some nerve. I’m so sorry you are going through this. I do agree with what everyone is saying though…At least you found out he was cheating and he’s a moron now instead of later. As much as it sucks now, you will be a better person for it all later. I wasted 4 years on a guy who didn’t want to commit, he never cheated but wow…it feels like a lot of wasted time. I’m with you there. At least you have the bees, and all of their bee hugs (and mine) and support!

I really feel bad for that pregnant girl too…just think, you can get rid of him. She is STUCK with him. I know you probably don’t want to hear that, but…

Keep your head high and know in your heart there will be a prince charming…a real one. 😉

Post # 97
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I also agree with what everyone else has said, and if I were you I would probably burn his stuff. What a loser. But like the other bee’s said, you can not blame yourself for this, and if anyone should be embarrased it’s him, not you. Your life will be better without him, and I agree that it’s better you found out now, instead of later when you became more conncected to him through marriage, and sex, and kids. But that isn’t there, so just go, and move on, and kick his loser ass to the curb. You are strong, and you can get through this, and one day I am sure you will find an awesome man. I also hope that other girl finds strength though this as well. But yes, you are better off without this loser.

Post # 98
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am so so sorry you’re going through this (((hugs))).  As others have said, it is so much better you are finding this out now, rather than after the wedding.  I really believe everything happens for a reason, and you will no doubt be much stronger after this experience.  Keep your head up and know we are all here for you!

Post # 99
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What a douche bag seriously. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s heart breaking. Know that this too will pass and thankfully you didnt marry the loser. You’ll find someone that truely loves and respects you. Stay strong!

Post # 100
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House

I am so sorry you are experiencing this 🙁  Just take care of yourself and lean on your friends and family. 

Post # 101
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I can’t really offer any advice other than what the other bees have already said, but wow, what a disgusting slimeball. As others have said, though it is really tough to be going through, at least you found out before you married him. Stay strong and know you are better off now without him. Good luck and take care!

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Two words. LEAVE HIM. Do not spend your life with this man. I know it is hard, but be strong. You deserve someone who will treat you like a Princess and never break your heart cause they love you so much. Im sorry you are going through this, but your prince charming will come. You never want to be with a cheater.

Post # 103
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Here to offer my hugs, and to say, *stay strong*. Remember, none of this is a reflection on you, or has anything to do with you. It’s not about something you haven’t done right, or well enough, or anything like that. Its about HIM and his obvious, serious issues.

I’m so sorry you are going through this, take care, and stay strong.

Post # 104
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know it sucks (And I love the Angela Basset comment you’ve posted) but thank the lord it happened now and not after you were married.

I agree with those saying this definitely happened for a reason.  Hang in there, keep your chin up and when the smoke clears, remember that you’re SO better off without him!

Post # 105
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What a jerk!!!! Im so sorry, why the heck do guys do that? I dont understand, look at Tiger Woods, clearly men that cheat have low self-confidence about themselves, you can do so much better than that.  Better now than later, what an ass!!! A princess must sleigh alot of dragons before finding her prince, keep that in mind and keep your head up!

Post # 106
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

Oh goodness – this is certainly shocking and I can’t imagine what you must be feeling.  You are a classy lady and I’m amazed by your grace as you’ve posted here.  Take care my dear.

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