Oh Caliwed…I am so sorry and hugs hugs hugs to you. I know we pm’d a little bit earlier on, and want to say that this man does NOT deserve you.
I 100 percent agree with Miss Rainbow in that he is possibly a pathological liar and a sociopath. Why?:
I walked in your very shoes but was married with a child. My ex husband did the same thing. Except I had just build our dream home and we were even planning to begin starting for a second child. When I divorced him, he married her the following day and she gave birth about 2.5 months later. It was awful.
But I can say this to you with 100 percent certainty. YOU WILL RISE from this, from the sadness and ashes of what was. It was not meant to be. When your heart is healed and in the universe’s good time, you will meet the one who will hold your heart carefully with all the love and respect in the world. That man will find you in time.
How do I know? It happened to me also. And you will be blessed for carrying yourself with such grace and dignity through this mess. But it is NOT your mess, it is his so let the fallout fall on him, not on you.
As far as the wedding goes, I’d make sure I have copies of all the emails and if you ever speak to her again, tape those calls. I would have an attorney file a suit against your ex Fiance for any costs you incurred for this wedding and have him held liable.
Also, keep the ring. It’s yours. don’t give it to the liar. I sold my wedding ring and it paid for the down payment on a new home for my son and I.
Also, the other woman might pretend she was clueless, but so did one of my ex husbands two other women. The one who was pregnant claimed she didn’t believe she COULD even get pregnant but I found out she did that to the guy before (or should I say victim) before my ex. She deliberately in the end DID get pregnant.
Don’t listen to either of them..just gracefully DETACH and be done with the lot of them.
I know your heart must be in pieces right now but it will heal in time. We’re here and you can pm me or email me if you need to.
Right now, take good care of yourself. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones. They’ll give you so much support and we do too here!
I am so sorry for the loss of this time in your life. I know how it feels. I lost a decade with somebody. But our hearts and souls are amazing. Somehow, when you least expect it, one day, somebody wonderful will accidentally walk into your life and all these ghosts of the past will disappear and you’ll know you’ve met the one.
Again, nothing but hugs from somebody who has walked in your shoes, but a bit further down the road in time. And yes, imho, it is easier now to walk away than if you had married him and had children with him.
These people who do this and can carry on with this all this time without a conscience have something missing inside of them. I think Jennifer Anniston called it a “sensitivity chip”. But something is seriously wrong with your Fiance. And echoing what other bees here have told you, I can attest 100 percent also that my ex husband didn’t cheat because of anything I did or didn’t do. We had a great relationship (or so I thought). He just is incapable of being honest with himself or anybody else and believed himself entitled to whatever he felt like.
You can’t build a life together with somebody like this. In fact, he cannot be good for any woman unless he got some serious help. But you are the one who is truly free now. He’s not. Remember that as you begin life anew in the coming year.
Again, love to you and prayers for strength right now. ((((Caliwed)))