Post # 1
and I’m so bummed :/
He and my (now dead) Grandma divorced when my mom was little and he’s the only connection to that family that is still living. I’ve met him twice in my life but mostly as a little girl who loved him very much although he had a totally different family apart from my mom.
Split families suck. I’m honestly a little hurt he’s not coming. He’s in his 80s and this would probably be the last time I’d see him before he passed away.
Today is our RSVP deadline and I’m terribly dissapointed in the people coming just for me thus far. It’s a total of four friends and my immediate family = 8. My fiance has 23 people coming apart from family.
I just thought more people would WANT to be there for me during this time. Even my housemates haven’t RSVP’d and I feel like walking on eggshells around them since I sent out the reminder. They live in the area and I know would be able to make it.
That’s the worst. Knowing people CAN make it but haven’t replied or have said no and given no other reason.
I’m off to go focus on the positives and try to be happy through it. I know no matter how small, it will be a happy day.
Post # 3
@SimplyChic11: ((Hugs)) Sorry to hear that.
As for your grandpa, would he have to travel to come to the wedding? He may not be in good enough health to attend.
As for the other non-respondents, if it’s after the due date, it’s time to just start asking outright.
For your housemates, ask each one in person. For the others, split up the non-respondents and call. Not the most fun, but needs to be done.
Post # 4
He would have to travel but is unwilling to, that’s what he told my mom anyway.
I’ve started initiating call backs and making sure. So far I’m just assuming they aren’t coming.
Post # 5
@SimplyChic11: I’m so sorry 🙁 While it definitely sucks, it’s also very possible your grandpa is in too poor health to travel or just not comfortable with it. My grandparents are no longer comfortable with traveling much distance either.
I agree with PP, start making calls. A lot of people forget to RSVP, or they mail it back on the deadline which means the response comes late to you. Hopefully you’ll have more support once you start checking up on your other guests 🙂
Post # 6
My grandpa lives 5 minutes from where my wedding will be held and he might not come. The reason for this is that he is 94 and it would all be too big a deal and tiring for him. He also says that he doesn’t even buy green bananas, let alone promise to go to something months in the future. If he had to travel, there would be no chance at all of him coming.
I’m sad about all of this, but I know that it doesn’t reflect how he feels about me. He’s OLD and things are harder for old people. If he doesn’t come, then my Fiance and I will just have to visit him on our own either before or after the wedding. Maybe you and your Fiance could arrange a trip to visit your grandpa after the wedding.
Post # 7
@Lemma: I understand he’s old. But we’re native american and he held a job down until he was well into his 70’s. It’s a bummer for me but more for my mom. I just feel like he’s never tried to care about her or her life or me since I was born.
Post # 8
@SimplyChic11: How old is your grandfather now?
I obviously don’t know your history, but all I’m saying is that this might not be the slight that you see it as.
Post # 9
I don’t know if I see it as a slight against me in any way but I was pointing out he had done this to both my mom and me on different occasions in my past before. This seems to be just another time.