Post # 1
Hi Bees, I have so many different emotions right now – everything has happened in just a few days. Thursday night my sister, who is also my matron of honor and my best friend, found a lump in her breast. Her OBGYN saw her the next day and ordered a diagnostic mammogram. The radiologist told her that he was worried by what he saw and he did a core biopsy. The news came back Tuesday that she has breast cancer.
Yesterday my mom and I went with her to her oncologist appointment. She will be having a double masectomy and undergoing two forms of chemotherapy. We’re waiting on results from genetic tests to see if she carries the BRCA1 or 2 gene, (my maternal grandmother died of breast cancer at 38) and if so then I will need to be tested as well.
She is the bravest person I know. When I tell you that she’s handling this better than I am, I really mean it. She was laughing and joking about how she’ll be walking down the aisle bald, and maybe her hair will grow back better and she’ll be able to just wash and go.
I am feeling pretty guilty about asking for wedding opinions from my mom or sister in light of all of this. I am also nervous that she won’t be feeling well and will overextend herself to take part in my wedding activities. I’ve told her how I feel, and she insists she wants to be in my wedding no matter what.
Please, I can’t stress enough how important it is to do self breast exams. My sister admittedly never did them, and she still doesn’t know why she chose to Thursday night, but thank God she did.
Post # 3
It sounds like your sister is a very strong woman and has a great support system with you and your mom, My best to all of you and hang in there!
Post # 4
I’m really sorry to hear about this – I’m so glad your sister is taking this in such a positive manner – I’m sure it’ll really help through this process.
You sound like you love her very much and it sounds like you two are supporting each other in whatever ways you can.
Thank you for sharing the story and getting the word out.
I hope for only good things for you guys.
Post # 5
Don’t feel guilty, I’m sure your wedding planning will serve as a pleasant distraction for her.
(((hugs))))) Hang in there!
Post # 6
Hugs!!! She sounds like an amazing person.
My Aunt is a survivor, and has actually been in remission for over a decade 🙂 I was in high school when she went through her surgeries/chemo/radiation, all that jazz. So, about once a month, my family would get together and take her out to lunch… but we would all wear a crazy hat or outrageous wig, so she wouldn’t be the only person wearing one. It was always a very uplifting and positive experience, and we sill laugh about some of those memories.
You and your family will be in my thoughts & prayers… just keep being supportive! Let her be as involved as she wants to be, it might be a great distraction for her to get her mind off her own worries.
Post # 7
I am so sorry but she sounds like she is not going to let this get her down. What a brave and amazing sister you have. So glad you two have eachother. I understand though about not wanting her to overdo it. But it may be something for her to fight towards. My grandfather was just diagnosed last month with 3 independent types of cancer at once. He raised me like a father and is walking me down the aisle. I thought he would see my wedding as a burden when he got sick but I found out from his doctors that he told them he has got to get well to walk his granddaughter down the aisle. That made me cry because I had no idea that is why he wants to fight it so hard at his age. I think if it weren’t for our wedding he would probably throw in the towel.
Post # 8
Thank God she did is right. She’s probably in shock right now, as everything is happening so quickly, so let her process the information as she needs to, and be an ear and a shoulder for her when she needs it. It will also probably help her to have something to look forward to and to know she can help you through this exciting time, while she’s struggling with her own issues.
I’m so sorry, but it sounds like she has a good plan in place and more importantly has a great attitude. That, in itself, will carry her far.
Best of luck and hugs to you all!
Post # 9
I have no words… just this
(( HUGS )) to you both.
Post # 10
Don’t feel guilty about continuing to plan your wedding! I can tell you first hand as someone who suffers with illness that it is best to continue about life in the best manner possible! Know that she will respect her limits and only do what she’s comfortable with. You can continue to check in with her, but don’t over do it. Likely she needs some normalcy in her life, along with compassion and understanding. Prayers for your family!
Post # 11
I teared up just reading this. What an amazing sister you have!
Post # 12
I am sorry, I pray all goes well. My mom had breast cancer and she is now better then ever with new boobies. 🙂 I hope this helps.
Post # 13
Your sister sounds really brave. I had my 1st mammogram a year ago and I got the dreaded call back that there was ‘an area of concern’. Upon further testing it turned out the area was just dense tissue….but without question I was so scared. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was in her late 30’s (20 years ago) and is a survivor…I know how hard it is on loved ones…stay strong 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks so much for the kind words, everyone. It really helps to have a place like this to turn to for support and a sympathetic ear.
Post # 15
My thoughts are with your family and I am so sorry to hear about this. My Mother-In-Law was recently diagnosed and had a masectomy. She had a very easy recovery and did not have to do any further treatment. Every case is different but doctors can do amazing things. Cancer is definitely scary but try to remain optimistic!!
Post # 16
Your sister sounds like an amazingly strong woman. Thoughts and prayers for your family. Please don’t feel guilty about continueing to plan your wedding and asking for her opinions. As someone who has had cancer, it has was great to have anything to distract from the illness.
My sympathies to your whole family. I can relate to your situation. My grandmother just recently diagnosed with stomach cancer and my wedding is in 2weeks. She has told me several times that she is very much looking forward to having a couple of days to celebrate and not focus on her cancer.
Prayers for your sister’s full and speedy recovery (and for a clean bill of health for you as well).