- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Boy have I been on an emotional roller coaster today!!!
Sorry this is long.I was in the members class at church when I found out that another woman in the class said shes getting married on the same day as us. We were both freaking out!
After talking about it, and talking to the people in charge we found out what happened.
I signed up for the date at least 8 months ago. At the least. My name is on the schedule, not hers(they couldnt even find her paperwork). But she filled the paperwork out about 3 months ago. Three weeks after she turned it in, she didnt hear anything, so she called the pastor. The pastor told her it was fine.
Turns out that a guy named Tom checked the schedule and saw that there was a couple up for that day. Supposedly they tried to call us and ask about our wedding,etc. But they didnt get a call back from my Fiance or I. SO they thought that we dropped off the face of the earth. So this guy named Tom told the pastor this. So the pastor told this girl that she will be able to have that date.
The only problem I have with that is I rarely get phone calls and I always return phone calls that I do get and I always answer the phone even if I dont know whos calling. And I did not get a phone call from this guy. Unless he called my Fiance. My Fiance doesnt answer the phone unless he knows who it is and he hardly ever listens to his voicemails. But Im the one who filled out the form. SO I would have given my number, not my FI’s. And yes Im going to ask which number they have.
Anyway, if the pastor would have checked the schedule and seen the names(who knows us), this would have never happened. But since this guy named Tom did it, he had no idea who we were.
But the other thing is, what would they say to us if we did talk?? If a couple is scheduled for that day already, there is no need to even consider that day, right?!?!
Anyway I talked to the pastor about the whole mix up. He said sorry. He said that it will depend on how hard it would be for each of us to change the date. I told him that we talked about that and told him that none of us ladies have printed anything yet. He said well he will apologize to this other woman and he said that we get first dibbs because we asked and signed up for that date months before this other woman did.
Later at the lunch that the teens were putting on for the church, the pastor came to my Fiance and I and told him that he talked to the other woman and will be talking to her and her husband on Tues. Then my Fiance said that we can maybe have both weddings on the same day, but hours apart. I nearly blew my top when he said that. But I was like maybe it could work.
I kepted on thinking about it for hours and then I realized, no. I do NOT want to have someone elses wedding in the same church on the same day with the same pastor as us!!!
I cant see it happening. We plan on getting married around 1 or 2. WHat about the decorations, us arriving, my guests arriving, the first wedding would need time for set up ,pics taken, guests mingling,cleaning up for the second wedding. The logistics seem too much for me to deal with. I cant handle that. I want a simple wedding. But trying to make two weddings work on the same day with tha same pastor?? ITS JUST TOO MUCH !!!!
SO I talked to my Fiance and he said do what I feel is right. So I called the pastor and left him a voicemail and told him sorry but we really want the church for ourselves.I told him that having 2 weddings would be insane and would make both us brides worry way too much!! Just too much to worry about on your wedding day.
AT first I felt guilty about saying no and having this lady move her date, but you know what? Why should I move ? Y should I have the added stress of having two weddings on the same day?? Im not the one who screwed up the scheduling!!! We signed up way before this lady and her Fiance did.
So ladies, what would you have done if this happened to you? Or if it did happen to you, what was your solution? Would you ever try having your wedding on the same date, in the same church, with the same pastor, with another wedding????