(Closed) Just found out today that our church booked another wedding on OUR wedding day!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Earlybride: TLDR most of it, but from what it sounds like the setup of the other brides ceremony wouldnt affect you at all or be your problem. You are realistically only going to spend 2 hours at the church total (pending on how long your ceremony is..im assuming30-45 mins). Does it bother you that someone is getting married at the same church on the same day and you feel that they are “stealing your thunder” in a way? Because the other stresses such as taking down decor and stuff wouldnt really fall on you as much as their party.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

It wouldn’t be big deal to me. I don’t see it any different that using a banquet hall as reception venue. As long as there is good amount of hours between weddings, I don’t really see what the issue its. Any set up/breakdown has to happen regardless of there being one wedding or two. You don’t even know what time she’s having her ceremony so why are you freaking out, without that crucial piece of info?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think many churches have more than 1 wedding on the same day.  Did your church originally tell you that there’s only one wedding per day?

Post # 6
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Worker bee

[rude comment moderated]

Churches have more than one wedding in a day all the time and they go off fine.  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You need to take a deep breath. It really isn’t a big deal with having a ceremony hours apart. In large/busy churches, this happens all.the.time. Ceremonies at 11am/2pm/5pm.

Hire a day of coordinator to move the decor if you’re worried and don’t want to rely on family to do so.

I just read a post about another bride whose husband’s father died the morning of her wedding. It really puts things into perspective.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Just an idea, my sis did choose to do this and her and the other wedding party split the decor flower costs. they made arrangements together and decided who got to take home what. I understand not wanting to share your recepetion place with another wedding but ceremony space is different for me, I apologize I wasn;t clear on if it was just the ceremony to be had there. But even so, no don’t feel bad. You had it first.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is always 2 time slots for weddings at our church. No biggie.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m fairly certain that many churches book 2-3 weddings in one day, so there’s nothing to fret about really.  Calm down if you can – I understand how stressful this might feel but it’s really NBD.  Just schedule your wedding first and the other couple can go again after you.  You won’t be in the church for more than a couple hours at the most – try to pay it forward to this other woman and let her have her date as well.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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ok OP…you are being selfish. Put yourself in that brides place! How much time do expect to spend at the church?!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Catholic churches do it all the time… 11 am wedding, 2 pm wedding, and then they have to be out in time for the 4:30 Mass!

She could have hers at 11:30, and you could have yours at 2:30. How long does it take to put up a couple flower arrangements and tie a few bows?

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

Well clearly she can’t have her service at Noon. She either has to do early AM or late4r in the afternoon. Find out how your church usually schedule the ceremonies. Since you had the date first, I’m sure they will work to give you the preferred slot. Nobody hangs out to churches that long after the ceremony. It will work out. Relax. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s really not a big deal. In my local parishes (i’m Catholic), its common to have a wedding at 11, 1 & 3, in the same parish with the same priest. So its really not a big deal.

My ceremony actually got doubled booked at the same time (both 1pm), but we worked things out. (my reception hall also got doubled booked, which was ironic but unrelated).

Just have some family/friends to help with takedown of any decorations. In the scheme of wedding planning, this won’t really end up affecting your day significantly. It may be “your day”, but there are hundreds of other brides in your city getting married that day. Don’t ruin her day, if you can reasonably accomodate it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

As PP said its extremely common for churches to do more than one wedding per day. And really your comment of someone having the same church on the same day with the same pastor, I’m sorry but who cares!!!! Its not the same people or the same wedding. This poor other bride has also planned her wedding on this day and there is an easy compromise that you can both continue planning your wedding and you aren’t willing to take it. Seems pretty selfish to me. I understand that 12 wouldn’t work if your ceremony is at 1 or 2. However she could have an earlier ceremony or later.

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