I’m *really* going to try not to contribute to the debate that has developed here…we all have strong feelings either way, but I think the OP is just looking for support.
I hope that whatever decision you make, that you can be at peace with it. My opinion about abortion does not matter. I do think that a previous poster, @moonbride, put it really well when she said,
“If you do want children at all with your partner, this is a blessing, albeit a premature one. If you do decide to keep it, five years from now you will have a beautiful little boy or girl, be married to the man you love, and the stress you’re experiencing now won’t mean anything.”
If children *are* somethin you and your Fiance envisioned, this may be more of a blessing than you realize at the moment. Most pregnant women are scared, planned or not, when she gets that positive test.
My daughter was a bit unplanned. We were waiting until closer to our wedding date before getting pregnant, but instead, I got pregnant 7-8 months before our wedding. It was a little worrisome, but we just shifted the wedding to a later date, and my daughter was part of the celebration! I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Maybe this isn’t what you want for your life though.
My DH and I have been together since we were 17. I previously didn’t want children at all, but that changed over the years of us being together. While I was a teenager, and in my early 20’s, we were both in school. We discussed that if I were to become pregnant during that time, I would get an abortion. Luckily, I never had to face that choice. Now that I am a mom (had my DD at 25), I honestly don’t know if I could cope with a previous abortion. At the time when I pretty confidently said I would have an abortion if I had an unplanned pregnancy, I don’t think I could fully wrap my head around the emotion that I might have later. I look at my daughter now, and I know that if I had an abortion in the past, it would really bother me today. I always said that if I was financially and emotionally stable, there would be no reason to have an abortion.
Now, I am just sharing *my* feelings on the issue, just to kind of give you an idea of what my personal thoughts are on the issue.
Please look after yourself. Everything will work out for you, just stay positive.