(Closed) Just got engaged–now what???

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009



they will become your best friend!


start by googling wedding themes and such so u could get an idea of what you like, if youre not sure what you like.


I also thought about past weddings ive been too and remembered things i liked from those weddings and how i could make them my own without being exactly the same as theirs.



Post # 4
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

You don’t have to pick a theme yet! Pick your venue first–if you find one you absolutely fall in love with, the theme might follow πŸ™‚

Start assembling a massive stack of printed out inspiration pictures and magazine ripouts of what you love, and stick a post it note on there of why you love each of them. Eventually you’ll be able to go through it and narrow down why you love them, and voila! Theme!

Post # 5
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony: Catholic Church, Reception: Hotel Ballroom

Congratulations!!!  I think that first and foremost, you should take a break from scouring the blogs for inspiration and enjoy being engaged!  I know it’s hard because you want to start planning everything right. this. second.  But, honestly…I had a long-ish engagement and I wish I would have waited a bit and enjoyed the first couple of months as a newly engaged lady.  πŸ™‚ 

I think if you do take a step back, you’ll be less overwhelmed and you’ll start to get an idea of what you gravitate towards (formal ballroom vs. informal rustic) and you can go from there.  Good luck!

Post # 6
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are doing wedding planning from long distance and have found that the money for a wedding planner is well worth it to help with the things that need to be done locally but aren’t worth a flight out to handle.  There are so many little things!  We found a wedding planner to do Day of Coordination (DOC) and then added on several hours of a la carte work for a per hour price.  Our budget it only 10K and she’s about 15% of the budget but it’s well worth the money!  Best wishes on everything!

Post # 7
5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

First, just enjoy being engaged!

Then, I would actually first figure out where your ceremony and reception will be.  Once you figure that out you can actually set a date.  Then, maybe you can start looking around for other key vendors before you move like florists, musicians, etc.  You don’t have to pick your feel/theme yet until you have to start making decor decisions and you don’t have to do that for a while, so don’t worry about it!

Post # 8
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Enjoy it!

The first big things that I worked on was

1.  The Budget.  I found a percentage break down on TheKnot.  For example it said photography and prints should be 8-10% of the average budget.  So for a $10K wedding, that means $800-$1,000 for photography.  Play with the numbers and see how things start to break down.


2.  The theme is important but its not like you have to pick specifics.  Think right now more along the lines of rustic, formal, indoor, outdoor, etc.


3.  Look for venues that fit your budget and style and then figure out your date.  My specific date wasn’t so important to me so we found the dream venue and then picked from dates they had available.  If you have a specific date already picked out then you just need to make sure the venue has it available.


After these three things are finalized, you can start moving to things like your dress, the BM’s, the food, other vendors, etc.

Post # 9
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i don’t know if you ever need a “theme” really. some people just use colors as their theme. maybe they mean you should decide if you want formal/informal. we started by deciding on our budget, and then booked our venue and officiant to secure the date. like others said, sometimes your theme can come from your venue so that could help.

Post # 10
2111 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Budget, venue(s), pick a date (sometimes it depends on the venue), pick what colors your going with, start looking for a photographer, DJ then get those booked. After that, honestly everything just comes together nicely.

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Budget, guest list (the rough number of how many guests you want will guide a ton of decisions), rough date (month and year). From there you can start to make the big decisions!

Post # 12
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

COngrats!! I think you should set a budget first. Then you can know what is in rach for your day!

Post # 13
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Congratulations! Definitely enjoy being engaged! Once you get into the planning, there’s no turning back!

Definitely set a budget first, and try to figure out a rough guest list. Once that’s done, you can start checking out venues. If you’re planning on getting married in a church, you want to find out if there are any dates the church CAN’T do b/c of religious holidays, things will start to fall into place from there! Tackle one thing at a time so you don’t get overwhelmed!

Post # 14
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I second the planner idea if you can afford it. I resisted for about 5 months, then gave up and hired one. Planning has been so much easier ever since.

But otherwise, try not to get overwhelmed with all of the options out there. Before we had things like the internet, everyone’s gorgeous weddings weren’t there in their full glory to intimidate. You already have the season –summer, so that is a good start. Narrow down a date and a general rough budget, talk to your families about how large the guest list is going to be, and then think of what you might like in a venue. Then find a website where you can make a ton of inquiries all at once for local venues.

Once the prices start coming in, your options will narrow significantly, and you can start to visit venues. The venue you choose will really help you figure out the “theme” of your wedding. And if you can’t decide, post your options and we can help!

Post # 15
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011


All of the previous posters have given you excellent advice.

I use the budget calculator on http://www.weddingchannel.com. It is the one that works best for me. You put in what you want for your budget and it breaks everything down for you, and if you need to adjust your budget, it is very easy to change things. Just make sure you save everything as you go.

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